Wear the Cap ?
By ketybhagat
@ketybhagat (4123)
India
August 5, 2008 4:55am CST
A fri end of mine is very hyper and is always looking for ways to create some fight or the other. Even if anything is spoken in jest, she will take it to heart, though it is not aimed at her. She creates scenes and makes everyone feel miserable. We havae told her often to wear the cap if it fits her, or to laugh with us over the matter. How does one try and make her change this behaviour of hers, so that there is peace in the circle.
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4 responses
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
5 Aug 08
It may be something in her past which makes her feel that way , something to do with ridicule or a sort of inferiority complex. If you are really close to her, talk to her and try and understand what is troubling her.
At the same time I think its always important to be sensitive about your friends when they are you are in their company. That way she may build up the trust.
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@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
6 Aug 08
I think you have hit the nail on the head. Her husband has a drinking habit and when he is drunk, he puts her down all the ti me in front of all of us. Maybe that is why it happens. But we all know he does it without realising it as he is drunk, so nobody pays any attention to him. Why should it affect her and make her so that she spoils the whole fun of friendship. She is also very obstinate, so no sense in trying to talk to her.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
6 Aug 08
I'm not sure what to tell you about this person. I know alot of people like that. You couldn't tickle their rearend with a feather to make them laugh or smile. they think people are out to get them and if you are talking, it is about them. It drives me crazy. I eventually just have to stay away from them to keep my sanity.
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
5 Aug 08
Hi ketybhagat, I think your friend’s undesirable behavior and character might be due to her poor sociability and inferiority complex towards relationship with others. Her family could be another factor which influenced her in this aspect. So to understand her family background is essential as well.
I propose she should have more public exposure to regain her confidence by more interaction with others in daily life. I don’t think she is serious enough to consult a psychiatrist. Friends can play an important part in helping her to build her own confidence and to be reasonable, rational in her thinking and behavior.
posting and take care.
posting and take care. @diutay (1327)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Some are more volatile I guess than others. we might not know exactly why she reacts that way but there's usually a reason for such. You can't change her. The decision to change must come her and no one else. But why is she so sensitive? Find out why and resolve that and change will ultimately happen.
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
6 Aug 08
Her husband has a drinking habit and puts her down in front of us all when he is drunk, but nobody pays any attention to what he says. Somehow she has never been able to get along with anybody and makes life miserable for all. She cant stand a joke and spoils all the fun we friends have. Shes also very obstinate, so we cant help her. As you say, it must come from within.





