Country music and second wives...and husbands

@spalladino (17922)
United States
August 5, 2008 2:34pm CST
Country music has a large following...both my husband and I are fans and so are most members of our families. I like how it speaks from the heart, how you can relate many of the songs to your life. But, and this might sound selfish, it bothers me that there are so many songs out there about couples living a long life together, raising children, growing old...and it's just the two of them until the end...when that is increasingly not the case. I am a second wife. My husband's first wife, who he was married to for 32 years, died suddenly of cancer six years ago. My husband hurt for a long time...he still hurts...and he also loves me and I bring him joy and happiness...together we are happy. So, where are the songs about meeting someone later on in life who lights up your life? (I know, that's already been done) About meeting someone who saved you from sitting in your room staring at the wall all day or drinking yourself half to death? Or a song about trying to blend two families when all of your children are adults? We started out with six children and four grandchildren between us and are now up to 8 with #9 on the way. Why are there no songs about the memories you make the second time around? I know that I'm not the only second wife...or second husband...who feels like this. Anyone know who to contact in Nashville because I have some song ideas!
3 responses
@sunnflr (2767)
• United States
5 Aug 08
You should think up a song and try to sell it to someone. I don't know exactly how it's done, but songwriters do it all the time. I bet it'd make a great country song. I love country music myself.
@spalladino (17922)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Yeah, if I had an ounce of musical talent in my body I'd probably be able to write one worth selling...if I knew who to sell it to. Oh well, I'll see if I can come up with something...or send my ideas to Tim McGraw.
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@sunnflr (2767)
• United States
5 Aug 08
You don't have to have the musical talent. Just come up with lyrics and someone else can put them to music. It's alot like writing a poem I'd think. It would be really cool to have Tim sing your song!
• United States
5 Aug 08
Shoot... don't give your ideas away. Learn to strum a guitar and wail at the moon. Sing'em yourself, make some money.
@spalladino (17922)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Red, you'd probably like my husband...he's a real character...and a musician so I brought this subject up to him once and he sat down with the fender guitar and started making up songs. They were pretty funny...and some almost got him into trouble like blaming me for his heart attack...but not exactly what I was looking for. Maybe I'll try writing some lyrics and make him put them to music.
@ctrymuziklvr (11059)
• United States
5 Aug 08
I'm a huge country music fan and have been for years. It's come a long way and not only are the lyrics about wives, husbands, marriage and problems but now there are a lot of patriotic songs and so many really funny ones. The artists are the best and put on concerts like none of the rappers and r&r'ers do.
@spalladino (17922)
• United States
5 Aug 08
I agree, I remember the old days of country and how out of touch it seemed but today's artists are very talented and create some wonderful music.