how important is an engagement ring?
@lipsticknladdles (814)
Philippines
August 11, 2008 9:37am CST
Two weeks ago one of my highschool friends announced that she is getting married. I got an email from her this morning and she is a bit upset. Our other friends were asking her "So where's the ring?" She told me that her fiance proposed but didnt give her any and she's asking me if she should take that against him.
I didnt have this problem coz when my husband proposed, he gave me a beautiful diamond ring. Its natural for other people to look for the ring when you say you're engage. The proposal & The Engagement Ring kinda goes together.
I will not really care what the ring is made of. It could just be a string or a wire but when the one I love placed that around my finger, oh I could just melt!
I told my friend though that she shouldnt mind what other people think. The ring is just a ring. Love is the most important thing.
But what do you think? how important is it to have an engagement ring?
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
11 Aug 08
I n reality the ring isn't important. I know a few people who got engaged and didn't get a ring until they were married or got an engagement ring, but no wedding band even after they were married.
Since it is a symbol of the upcoming event and the whole circle of life, etc, etc I think there should be something before you go off announcing an engagement. Heck even a plain silver chain or band or a .25 plastic ring will do.
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@lipsticknladdles (814)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
The value of the ring doesnt really matter but we have to admit, engaged women are really expected to wear any kind of ring...ur right, a 25 cent plastic ring will do,lol!
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@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
11 Aug 08
A ring certainly doesn't make a relationship last. There have been many who have received huge rings who ended up not getting married or, worse, ended up getting divorced after marrying. I don't think a ring is necessary...and in today's world - with the prices of gold and silver and diamonds being so high, I think it's rather wise to not be so traditional.
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@lipsticknladdles (814)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
Traditional is the right word, you're definitely right.
I will email her and be sure to mention that.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
11 Aug 08
what would be important to me was he didn't do what he told me he would. she's going to have problems w/him, she's already got one in my opinion.
@lipsticknladdles (814)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
i just hope things will work out fine between them -with or without the engagement ring.
thanks.
@krayzietam (832)
• United States
11 Aug 08
This is a good question. I believe the ring is a symbol of the engagement and the love that they have for each other. But its just that. It is a material thing that can be lost, stolen, etc. Their actual love is what lasts. So what he didn't get her a ring when he proposed? Does that make their love fake? It doesn't. All that matters is how they feel about each other. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that the ring isn't important at all, but I am sure she will get one later on down the line. I'm just saying its not that important for her to hold it against him. She shouldn't mind what other people say. She obviously said yes without the ring, so she shouldn't let other people put doubts in her head. Friends can mess your relationship up if you do that. 
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@lipsticknladdles (814)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
I totally agree. It may be the symbol but still its just a ring.
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