A Gentleman is?

The same thing that defines a lady: Respect. For self and others. Respect gives birth to conducting oneself to a higher standard of behaviour in all ways. Without respect, minds and hearts are closed, because in order to be able to respect or have respect, the give and take within a society requires to ability to think outside the box, without which society simply turns and feeds upon itself.

If you look up the definition of gentleman in my dictionery, you will find a picture of P1keF1sh Yet if you look up the definition of naughty, you find the same picture

Manners maketh the man and better manners maketh the gentleman. Actually I can't put my finger on exactly what makes me think of a man as a gentleman, obviously good manners but there are a number of people I have met who have been well mannered but I haven't considered them to be gentlemen. There are two elderly men who live near me who I consider to be gentlemen, it's just something about them that makes me think of them that way but I could not explain exactly what it is. A mutual friend of ours is another person I consider to be a gentleman although I have never met him.

Good question. If I am ever to encounter one in real life I'll be sure to write a list of his attributes and come back and answer this question then. As for my "online" world...a gentleman, is you :)

First he has to be Male...respectful,courteous and talk to me as an equal...and hugg and touch me alot!!!!

Hi p1keflsh, Yes I agree with that and how about having a sense of humour and respect. Tamara

I think a gentleman is someone who gives a seat to a lady,a child or an elderly when there is no seat available..someone who opens the door for you..someone who lets the lady in first..someone who helps an old woman or a child cross the street..in over all someone who treats anybody with respect..I guess for me that's truly what a gentleman is. Which I rarely see nowadays..I think there's one out of 100 now during this days.

Hmmmm Well I know 2 real gentlemen, one is faither and the other is you - so just look in the mirror and you will see the attributes I think make a gentleman! Hugs xxx

Well my version of a gentleman P1kef1sh would be a guy just like yourself, you respect and are kind to everyone but especially females, are polite, attentive, understanding, compassionate with a wicked (and sometimes very naughty) sense of humour. Ellie :D

Hi p1ke...I would separate the word gentle and man...gentle being thoughtful,kind,considerate,polite,respectful and affectionate followed by man then put those two together that is my attributes for a genteman..littleowl

I'm with Twain. I couldn't have said it better.

Leave it to me to get in on the tail end of things. Seems all the bases have been covered. All I can say is I agree with all of the above, including the comments about you being a gentleman. Somebody did a good job with you.*S*

By far my favourite way to determine who is a gentleman and who isn't is hat doffing! lol it's very 19th century but hey what's wrong with that! haha I think that the definition of what makes a gentleman has probably changed a bit over the years, and am guessing that they are a dying breed! xxx

hey p1sh good question i suppose my first instinct is to say respectful well mannered opens doors for you etc but thats a bit old fashioned really isn't it hmm someone courteous, kind and respectful really i suppose but then that makes my boyf a gentleman and it's not really a descriptive term i'd use for him you got me

a gentleman? well my husband was a true gentleman for me thats why i married him..its one of my weaknesses i guess..i think gentleman varies for every woman...maybe for them my kind of gentleman is not their cup of tea ...for me a gentleman will fight for you or supportive for every decision you made ..assist you in anything ..that is while walking/crossing on the streets or the basic courtesy a man can do to his loved one..especially to her mom itself..

Hi p1, [i]Gentleman for me is the one who consider the women's needs and feeling all the time! lol! it may sound selfish! lol! The one who will offer me a chair before he will settle himself, the one who will not just look at me when I am doing something but offer his hand![/i]

My maternal Grandfather was the perfect gentleman,and I nevr knew him to be any different!he was always calm ,no matter what,his manners were impeccable,the whole village thought really highly of him.You never saw him without a shirt and a tie lol and when you think that his business was market gardening,well it must seem a little odd.But he was a true gentleman.and always treated everyone with complete respect.My idea of a gentleman is just someone who can treat a woman like a woman,and not be afraid to show that,to offer all of the niceties in life and enjoy offering them!.it doesnt mean that the poor chap has to be a plaster saint,just good,kind,thoughtful and really above all honest.I love to be treated as being a lady,im no feminist !!I like my chair pulled out for me and the door held open..theres nothing wrong with that.

A gentleman is as a gentleman does ... but there ain't nuffink wrong wiv a bit of rough trade ...

Well Pikey, As has been said before by so many the only true gentleman that I know is the one that I am writing to this minute and that would be you! The women here on mylot have all said it so eloquently, you are the ultimate gentleman. I don't think that I have ever truly met a real gentlemen in my "real" life. I'm still wondering and hoping that somewhere they do exist. But as time passes I am doubting that I might ever see one up close and personal. So my dear pike, you will have to be the gentlemen's gentleman!