what you don't know doesn't hurt you
By eiram25
@eiram25 (1076)
Philippines
7 responses
@serenity264 (366)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
I agree with James72. I'd rather that we be in an honest relationship no matter how hard it may be to accept or how painful the truth might be I'd still want to know about it. Because if I didn't then the relationship would be suffering from trust issues.. I think that people should always sort their problems out and tell the truth. It always takes two in a relationship so both needs to make the decision both needs to know the problem and both need to act on the problem and not keep it a secret to the other.
@serenity264 (366)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
I consider that, but it is still better to have an open relationship with your significant other. They both have a say in it whether good or bad...
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
23 Aug 08
I would ALWAYS wish to know the truth to be honest. Regardless of the pain it may cause me the thought of being in a relationship that is NOT what I thought it was would be far worse. As far as I am concerned it would mean that I was living a lie! You could arguably say - "But you wouldn't know? So what's the problem?" but it would still be the reality of the situation whether I was aware of it or not!
@eiram25 (1076)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
Likewise, I'd prefer to know the truth even if it hurts rather than being lied to. Because being lied to is kinda like the same as being cheated by someone you trust. But let's say, they did tell you the truth. Will that affect your feelings or trust towards that person? or would you rather disregard that it happened?
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
23 Aug 08
It all depends what they did and what they covered up and then got caught about! If it was infidelity then bye bye! If it was a lie that was not to that level though then yes, I would probably be a little more wary from that point and my trust in them would suffer a little. There are so many variables in situations like this!
@xParanoiax (6987)
• United States
24 Aug 08
The truth. I always want to know the truth. What's hidden can really hurt you, knowing hurts too...but it's more beneficial than the harm of not knowing something, 'cause at least if you know you can do something about it.
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
I would rather know the truth. I would rather see what is real, than be blind and believe that everything is fine and perfect. no matter how much things will hurt, no matter if I have to be alone, no matter if i have to let go... I will take it...I just don't want to be fooled.
Why i am saying this, i have been in that situation before. And as I say, It would not hurt that bad if only he let me know.
@relundad (2310)
• United States
23 Aug 08
I would much rather have the truth. Even if it hurts. I think that as long as I have the truth, then I have options. I can either deal with it or not. But if I am decieved, I feel like you have taken my right to decide whether or not its something I want to deal with.
@eiram25 (1076)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
You're right. Knowing the truth does give someone the option as to how to deal with the situation. Well, if someone does tell me the truth, though hurtful it may seem,, I'd still appreciate his/her braveness for admitting it. Thanks for responding! Happy mylotting!
