Why do some men cheat?
By ganda8831
@ganda8831 (816)
Philippines
August 26, 2008 8:01pm CST
I cant understand why some men are unfaithful and cant stick to one woman. I was recently cheated on by my ex bf. He got a girl pregnant. He called me up to explain everything and to ask for my forgiveness. I just dont get it. He was crying while he was explaining and told me that Im the one he loves and he still wants us to be friends. It's just a big mystery to me how some men think...
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@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
Though i don't wanted it to generalize all men but sorry to those who are straight guys but i should say that men are born to be polygamous... there are men who can't get satisfied on one woman, even they are in the relationship they still keep on searching extra..
Anyways.. about your boyfriend, i don't think that it is good for you, for the girl to became his friends... you'll both be unfair to the other woman involve. If i were you stay away from him for a while, its not proper to be friend with him, after all he have done to you you deserve much better than a cheater.. Also your ex need to learn from his lesson, if you still welcome him you're giving him an information that you still want him.
you can be friends but i think this is not the right time, give yourself a space and time to heal.
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@ganda8831 (816)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
I'm not planning on being friends with him because I would probably slap him and curse at him if even I see a glimpse of him. And besides why would I be friends with someone who has betrayed and hurt me so much. I don't think I can ever be friends with him even if the hurt has already vanished. You're right I deserve someone better.
@ganda8831 (816)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
Your case is different from mine because we were still very much together when he got the girl pregnant. That's why it was really painful because I thought that everything was fine between us. I'm just curious, what did you do when you caught your bf texting his ex? did you have a fight with the girl? I'm really sad that this has to happen to me because I trusted him and he betrayed me. Are you from the philippines?
@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
Hmmm.... I just hope you'll be strong enough to fight on what you really feel, I can relate with you, but on my part i was the one who got pregnant. When were starting i ask my boyfriend if he still somebody coz as much as possible i dont want to engage in any relationship that there is another party involve, he make it clear to me that he broke up with his girl how many months ago and his statement was supported by his cousin, i got pregnant then i caught my bf texting with his ex and his ex is begging not to leave her inspite that she know my condition...
In short,inspite that his girlfriend hate him so much still the love is there, his ex just accept the situation and willing to be number 2 because he still love the guy. The woman are the victim in this situation, i am not generalizing all men are cheaters but most are the like that. Just be brainy....
Let him learn the lesson that woman should be valued and not to be treated as a vise or just a past time.
I am not a man hater coz i have 1 right now, i just dont want that my fellows are experiencing same thing as i've been before. Have a good day and good luck..
@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
27 Aug 08
I can't really grasp it either. But I heard that it's in a man's nature to do it. They have instincts to try to "mate" with every female they can. This instinct is to ensure people keep on coming. But since we're not facing and drastic lack of population, it's time for them to shape up. I don't think there's any excuse for it. I don't think you should go back to him unless he's a really really awesome guy that you'll never find anything better than, and trust me, you deserve better than that!
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@ganda8831 (816)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
I'm not planning on going back to him after what he did to me. It's unexcusable. I know that he doesn't love the girl and that he's really sorry for what he did. But karma has a way of working in life. He's gonna be stuck with someone he doesn't love for the rest of his life just because of his stupidity.
@shana123 (2095)
• India
3 Oct 08
I dont think all guys are so some are really genuine to their wives , you wont believe i have seen many men who are very handsome and loving and caring , but they have a wife who is not that beautiful but still they are true and loving , it is so blessed to be with that kind of men :) dont worry ganda you will have such a nice men who will not cheat you but before getting committed first try to read them full and try to be away with them and then you will find whether they are genuine or not , if they are then you can go out with them , atleast you have found the ex-bf's true color before marriage !
@dementia88 (900)
• United States
27 Aug 08
women cheat also, we all do it for many reasons conquest.. love...lust.. just becasue we can.. boredom
@TheHawkBat (669)
• United States
27 Aug 08
Yeah some men think with the wrong head. I've never cheated, and never will (I say that now, I know its hard to make guarantees, but I think I can). I think part of it is the always wanting what you can't have thing. There is something they can't have because they are in a relationship, and this makes it more intriguing, and as soon as they do have it, they feel horrible about it and wish they had never done it. Its some weird psychological thing for people who are always wondering what if...
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@ganda8831 (816)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
Men are just plain difficult to understand. I've been in three serious relationships so far and until now, I still can't understand how men think. I actually prefer them if they're just friends. My ex-bf is now regretting what he did and he told me that I'm the one he loves. Your theory might be right.
