at your age...have you reach your goals in life?

hi there, i'm sorry to hear about your experience but really happy for you still. at least you managed to pick up the pieces and moved on. getting a job after being a housewife for a long time is no mean feat. being able to afford rent is another great achievement. i'm sure in time you'll be able to reach your goal. as for me, i set goals in stages. when in school, my goal was to finish with a diploma. when working, my goal is the next promotion. being achievable, i always reach my goals in life. i don't believe in setting high and mighty goals then get all depressed because i couldn't do it. cheers ;p

Hi pinks17, Well, I can definitely understand what you're going through - I was married at the age of 21, moved away to follow my then husband to a foreign country, be a mum at the age of 23 and faced all the challenges of being a first time mum on my own as my then husband preferred to be with his single friends (played golf, went out for coffee, etc) - I then had to leave my baby when he was 8 months old so I could support the family, 4 years later I have had enough and left him. So, at the age of 27years old, I was a single mum, away from my family and just have to carry on working full time.. I didn't receive any child support but luckily I had a good administrative skills to helped me through.. I moved around from one job to another so I could earn more money, and now at the age of 32 I'm with someone new who is so kind to both me and my son and we're starting our life again... I am still working full time, but Sky is the limit!! I'm gonna do double degree next year and combining that with working as well (either study full time and work part time or vice versa). I'm not worried about not having my own house yet, at least I know I've got plenty of food to eat and the roof over our heads, even if it's not ours officially, we're paying for it! Never give up and keep on trying!! And don't let the society dampen your spirit... If you can't have your own home, so what... wait a bit more until you have enough for the deposit and spending money for you and your kids, THEN look for a house... DON'T RUSH, as there's a chance of losing it if you're not careful.. TAKE YOUR TIME, better to wait and keep the house for a long time than rush just to lose it in two years time. KEEP YOUR CHIN UP and just look at the smile of yourself or your own kids - I know that's exactly what keeps me going.. :D xx