at your age...have you reach your goals in life?

@pinks17 (2192)
Philippines
August 31, 2008 6:21am CST
[i][b]Well for me I haven't reach my goals and dreams yet.I am such a late bloomer when it comes to having a career..if you consider my work a career. I've been a long time housewife to my ex-husband and at my age of 34 years old...I don't have any savings and I don't have a house of my own.My marraige life wasn't successful and picked up the pieces from being a simple housewife to a working woman now that I am annulled with my ex-husband. I just don't know if I can still have a house of my own with the crisis that's going on.I have this feeling that I will just make my landlord rich in receiving my rental payments every month.But I am still hoping that before I reach 45 I will be able to see all my accomplishments in life. How about you have you reach your goals and dreams in life at your age now?[/b][/i]
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@applefreak (3131)
• Singapore
31 Aug 08
hi there, i'm sorry to hear about your experience but really happy for you still. at least you managed to pick up the pieces and moved on. getting a job after being a housewife for a long time is no mean feat. being able to afford rent is another great achievement. i'm sure in time you'll be able to reach your goal. as for me, i set goals in stages. when in school, my goal was to finish with a diploma. when working, my goal is the next promotion. being achievable, i always reach my goals in life. i don't believe in setting high and mighty goals then get all depressed because i couldn't do it. cheers ;p
@pinks17 (2192)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
You are right.I thought I couldn't get a job esp. at my age.But I guess I am just lucky that we have a lot of callcenters here and they hire people even if they are old and I was lucky to be part of it.I've been working as an agent for 2 years already and soon I'll try my luck in applying for a Team Leader.I know I can still reach my goal.
@soepra (2)
• Australia
8 Sep 08
Hi pinks17, Well, I can definitely understand what you're going through - I was married at the age of 21, moved away to follow my then husband to a foreign country, be a mum at the age of 23 and faced all the challenges of being a first time mum on my own as my then husband preferred to be with his single friends (played golf, went out for coffee, etc) - I then had to leave my baby when he was 8 months old so I could support the family, 4 years later I have had enough and left him. So, at the age of 27years old, I was a single mum, away from my family and just have to carry on working full time.. I didn't receive any child support but luckily I had a good administrative skills to helped me through.. I moved around from one job to another so I could earn more money, and now at the age of 32 I'm with someone new who is so kind to both me and my son and we're starting our life again... I am still working full time, but Sky is the limit!! I'm gonna do double degree next year and combining that with working as well (either study full time and work part time or vice versa). I'm not worried about not having my own house yet, at least I know I've got plenty of food to eat and the roof over our heads, even if it's not ours officially, we're paying for it! Never give up and keep on trying!! And don't let the society dampen your spirit... If you can't have your own home, so what... wait a bit more until you have enough for the deposit and spending money for you and your kids, THEN look for a house... DON'T RUSH, as there's a chance of losing it if you're not careful.. TAKE YOUR TIME, better to wait and keep the house for a long time than rush just to lose it in two years time. KEEP YOUR CHIN UP and just look at the smile of yourself or your own kids - I know that's exactly what keeps me going.. :D xx
• Australia
8 Sep 08
.. just read the first paragraph, when i said "I left him" meaning "I left my ex husband", NOT leaving my son :D
@pinks17 (2192)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
I just loved your reply.We got married at the same age but my marriage got annulled year 2004.Well I was actually hoping to work abroad to save money so that I could buy a house and help my parents.But my present partner told me that we can actually make it here if we just persevere but my question is with the crisis going on here in the phils. I don't think we can survive.It's good that they have their own house in a known subdivision but we are not married we are just live-in partners and I don't want to end up homeless that's my greatest fear.