Once a cheater always a cheater?
October 15, 2008 12:56pm CST
As the saying goes, "once a cheater, always a cheater" do you think this is true? if a person cheats on their significant other are they always classified as a cheater. do you think its possible that it may have been a little slip up and he/she realized that and decided they were never going to cheat again? my friend and i were having this conversation last night because her boyfriend cheated on her so the question came up. i thought i would take it to all you mylotters and see what you think :)
16 Oct 08
I am not sure if i believe or not the statement as I think the thing you have to do is understand the reasons why they cheated to say whether that particular person will always cheat or not. some people yes i accept have a problem with commitment and they will always cheat, some people cheat because they feel wanted and need the excitement some people marry the "wrong" person and meet the "right" one after so cheat just the once ... without knowing the reasons behind it then you cant accept the statement to cover everyone. this in no way means i accept it or agree with it and definitely do not say its ok to cheat so please don't brandish me with that :)
16 Oct 08
i promise i won't brandish you with anything :) its a difficult to say with this statement because, like you, you have to look at the reasons why that person cheated and then you can decipher whether or not that person is in reality a cheater and will always do it
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15 Oct 08
I wouldnt say one a cheater always a cheater. I mean if a partner cheated on me, then as long as hes with me i would assume he would do the same...but if someone cheats in one relationship, that doesnt mean they will in the next. I feel that in moooost cases if someone cheats its because something isnt right in the relationship they are in, maybe their own fault, maybe their partners but its someting in that relationship, so in the next one they may be happy, content, satisifed and not feel the urge or need to stray..i am sure there are some that do it no matter what cuz they just cant commit to one person, but i wouldnt say that is the case with every person.
16 Oct 08
oh i totally agree with you. i think one of the major reasons people cheat is because they arent happy about something in the relationship and that doesn't necessarily mean they are going to cheat on the next relationship they are in. thanks for your response!
15 Oct 08
For some questions there is no specific answers. This questions also doesnt have any specific answer. If a person really want to change after cheating some one then he may change. But when he consider cheating as right thing to do then he will not be changing. I suggest not to keep away if somebody cheats you. But unless and until you are confident don't trust him.