How do you persuade people ?

Alok Effective argument has to be persuasive and we all employ something or the other that Aristotle said. Pathos, Ethos and Logos - great interpretation of human behavioral patterns! If you ask me, I am more of the kind who would go by evidences, experiences, incidents to support my argument. I like upright people an righteousness has largely to do with truth in evidences. Ethos, is good but not convincing always. I have found people behaving differently, quite opposite than their supposed trait. So ethos many times do not follow any rule. Specially in today's context when we are susceptible to greed of material. Pathos is not my thing. I mean pathos is good but I donot want to use it as a persuasive instrument. It might have bitter results! I personally do not like people who use their overwhelming emotions as a weapon. Being very emotional myself, I know it's hard to compartmentalise emotions with arguments. But I feel, its better not to bring it while persuading. So, I would like to go by logos and would want others whom I am interacting with to do the same. It's more convincing than the rest. That's how I feel. But there might be so many intricacies which went onto the classification and if you could give more detailed explanation, I might well change me mind.

Aristotle's examples are certainly extremely valid, no question. But to add a little Einstein into the mix (albeit on a different tangent!) I believe it all comes down to relativity and engagement on whatever levels possible. Nobody can ever be persuaded effectively if they are unable to relate to you in any way. For me personally, persuasion is about putting yourself in the other pserson's shoes. You need to think like they do, act like they do and in a sense become them. Once you have managed to create yourself as a mirror image of them, then the outlines provided by Aristotle become remarkably easier to put into action.

I do not consider myself a very effective persuader, I lack this quality to persuade people, I can make them understand or explain something but if I see that they are adament, I do not press further. If at all, I have to adopt, I'll adopt the third choice i.e. Logos, I would try to convince a person through examples and evidences and with my own experiences.

I have been to sales before and it really is hard to persuade people, specially telling them to buy things that are not on the budget, but I learned along the way that the best way to persuade is based on how your client thinks. when your client is more on the objective type, give facts and details but when a client is the more subjective type, attack their emotion.

Some people are so persuasive, the manner of not having limitations. We should be sensitive enough if we are beyond borders to other people. In fact, we can not control everything.