Far from Family - What do you do for the holidays?

@newtondak (3950)
United States
November 12, 2008 11:50am CST
About a year ago, due to an employment situation, we moved several hundred miles from most of our family. Financial and time constraints prevent us from returning home for the holidays and our family from coming to visit us over the holidays. I am sure that there are many other people who are in the same situation - what do you do over the holidays to ease the loss of contact with family? What do you do on the holidays?
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@palonghorn (5483)
• United States
12 Nov 08
i moved across country (1600 miles) 3 1/2 years ago, this christmas will be the first holiday that i have been able to go back and see my family since my move. the past three christmas' i usually call them on the holiday, mail gifts in time to be there for christmas, and send cards, tucking in a letter. i have also been fortunate to spend the holiday with my s/o and his family, which made me feel at home. my oldest daughter spent thanksgiving and christmas with us in '06, her hubby was deployed in iraq that year. i also keep some traditions going that my family always shared, which helps.
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@newtondak (3950)
• United States
12 Nov 08
I think it is good to find others in the community that are also alone on the holidays and maybe join together for the holidays.
@k4karthik (439)
• India
12 Nov 08
I am facing the problem even now. I am staying several miles from my family. I am staying alone here. I normally visit some shopping complex. Some times i do shopping but not always. I sleep for long hours on holidays as i will be tired by working in the working days. If holidays are too long i will stick on to my computer and start browsing and chatting with my friends. But nothing will give me the happiness which i get when i am with my family.
@newtondak (3950)
• United States
12 Nov 08
I have heard of a lot of churches and other organizations that serve meals for people who don't have family - most ask for a donation to help pay for the food - but it does give a nice opportunity for those who are alone to get out and mingle on the holidays. I've thought of looking for something similar in our area - or perhaps helping serve meals in one of the shelters.
• Netherlands
12 Nov 08
I'm going to be home alone for holidays. I feel sorry for you though, best wishes!
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@newtondak (3950)
• United States
12 Nov 08
Even though it's just the two of us, I still cook a nice holiday meal for us - I don't think we should do without just because it's just us.
@neededhope (1085)
• United States
12 Nov 08
I completely understand what you are going thru. Let me fill you in a little. I use to live right next to my parents. And the farest I moved away from home was a mile when I got my first apartment. Then I moved back into there house because they had to live with my grandma right next door. I lived there for three years and finally we sold the house. My parents are still trying to sell there house. It's been two years since I moved about 900 miles away from them. I use to live in Ny and Now I live in SC. Now the family I got is my husband. Luckily we are going back up for Thanksgiving but Christmas we won't be able too. So his whole family 6 siblings and the rest of the family about 50 or so will be all getting together. And we been saving every penny now for about three weeks and praying we will have enough money to get up there. So i understand what your going thru. IT's hardier thru the holidays without family near by. Well it's hard all the time knowing my family is that far away from me and my sister is in TN. I just miss it up there sometimes well most times.
@newtondak (3950)
• United States
12 Nov 08
We went back home and visited each of the kids this summer. It was nice to visit them individually and have some one-on-one time with them and with the grandkids. Over the holidays we will try to get everyone together in one place - although sometimes this can be next to impossible. Both of our fathers passed away several years ago and my husband's mother is in a nursing home. My mother has a mental illness and due to it could really care less whether she sees any of her family or not.
@winterose (39897)
• Canada
12 Nov 08
I really do not do much for the holidays, I like to go out and have dinner with my boyfriend, and my son and that is about it.
@newtondak (3950)
• United States
12 Nov 08
I'm thinking that it might be fun to go out instead of staying home and cooking.