Anger - slapped anyone or throw things whenever very angry? Or, remain calm?

I am an out and out thrower and slapper desperately trying to be a manager. And the worst part is that my brain tells me when I can let go and when I should take hold on the monster…and my poor kid is supposedly the only person who has to bear the brunt of this decision-taking process. Though I get angry on and off, with outsiders or elders or friends, I know what exactly would mean crossing the limit. But with my son…there’s no limit. Slaps and boxing the ears are there of course but when I am really angry, I just throw things about. One particular incident for which I’ll never forgive myself is like when he was about 6 or 7 he had a favourite kid’s binocular. One day he was so engrossed with it that he didn’t listen to me even though I kept repeating whatever I was trying to say or make him do. The monster in me was suddenly unleashed and I just yanked off the toy from his hands and threw it on the floor. Needless to say…it broke and broke my baby’s heart too. Yes, I have been a horrible mother in many ways, esp my anger.

Hmmm. I've been known to throw the occasional item on the floor or across a room before, but this is very, very rare. I would have to be unbelievably riled up to get to that point! I certainly don't slap people though! I am definitely not yet a master of keeping a temper in check 100%, but I am getting better. The most common reaction for me is a raised voice and a LOT of words! You can add swearing to the mix too I'm afraid.

No, I never slapped anyone in anger, never in my life. When I am very angry, I get very still and think very hard about what to do and then I work through the anger and with a calmer mind go after the culprit in some hopefully more effective way. Sometimes it takes longer than others to work it through. If I break or throw something inanimate, it is with calculated thought and usually a true aim.

I do not lose my temper very often but when I do I get angry with myself for being such a fool. I come close to hitting things but never anything like a wall as that can be painful, I have hit myself sometimes out of frustration. Like slapped a knee of something like that. I have been tempted to throw things but when I look for something to throw I never want to break the object and that stops me. I have thrown cushions because they are safe. When I am really angry I kick things and it has got me into trouble a couple of times. Once my brother locked me out of the house and I kicked the door so hard I kick a hole into it. I did not know it was hollow. I have also found that it is useful in fights. I could never hurt anyone hitting them as I have no muscles but I have kicked people who hurt me. There was a boy who pushed me over once at a party at my house and I got up and kicked his shin. I was furious with him. He thought pushing me over was funny but when I kicked him the sook went to my mother and complained I was not acting like a lady. Sheesh how dare I fight back? Oh I fight back all right but I never start it.

Hi daffodil! I have always had a problem with my anger! I was always one to throw things, bang things, yell, scream. It didn't take much for me to flip! I had a terrible anger problem! It was totally uncontrollable! People thought I was totally nuts! I was this way since I was very young! That was until last year when I was put on medication and took Anger Management classes. Now I have the anger somewhat under control. It was not completely my fault. I have a chemical imbalance which I didn't know that I had. Something about crossed wires in my brain and an imbalance of chemicals that were causing the problem. Well, I'm now getting the proper counseling and also the proper medication to help with the problem so it is alot better now. I am much more under control. I definitely don't have the anger episodes that I used to have. I know that the people who knew me that way are extremely happy that I don't get that way anymore!

I explode, in most cases non-violently, scream a lot, and then calm down and get on with it. In my younger years I was known to punch holes in walls. In my 20s and 30s, if I got angry with another male, I would get aggressive, and if they tried to hit me, I would knock them down. Never lost a fight, but I definitely grew out of it the night one bloke attacked me, and I wasn't being aggressive at the time, and I put him in hospital with severe concussion. Gave me a bit of a fright, and I haven't hit anyone since. Lash

I am a hyperactive person and an Arian.I loved to my star and used to get furious and yell .Not any more.I have mellowed down a lot after finding out that getting angry is not getting anywhere but is taxing on your health.I have leaned a lot in life Daffodil.

Years ago before I met Hubby I was a thrower...oh, when I think of all the beautiful things I destroyed in anger I could just kick myself, repeatedly. When my ex-b/f and I split up I met a really nice guy that was a therapist...I didn't go to him professionally but we were friends. He helped me to find other ways to express my anger and keep my temper under control. It really is great not to be that out of control angry person anymore. [b]MERRY CHRISTMAS!!! ~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG AND TRUST IN GOD**[/b]

[b][i]I cry when I'm extremely angry, and my tears will choke me and I won't be able to talk; thus, I cannot rant nor nag. I remembered just 2 instances when I got really mad and hurt someone physically. First was with my ex-bf (for 3 years) who turned his back on me because of immaturity. I slapped him because I cannot move my mouth to speak and my hand was aching to slap him. The other one was with my ex-husband. He had been hitting me for a year and I let him... when I finally snapped out of it. I fought back and I can't believe a small woman like me can be strong in front of a big man like him, I guess it was adrenaline rush -- besides, it's a call for survival. I manage my anger with other people very well. I even seldom show it. I'm always calm and always smiling -- sometimes because I'm scheming something to get back, hahaha! Wicked me! [/i][/b]

I try to stay calm. As a matter of fact I will stay calm on the outside even though it will cause me to get a migraine headache later. I've never hit anyone or thrown anything. I have slammed my hand on a table, but that's about it. Words spoken in anger will usually have you regretting what you say later. I tend to keep quite and think about what I'm going to say at a later time when I've had time to digest the situation.

I usually take the anger inside me but without anyone around I usually throw things out especially when I am alone in my room and end up crying. I never slapped anyone though and so far my experience doesn't come to the point of hurting physically the person, however the worst thing that I have experienced, I have yelled someone on the face and really throw mean words.

i used to do all the messy stuff when i was kid but now most of time i remain calm or i use my mouth. that's it. latter then i have to ask sorry.

i am cool. i have a very cool head. most of the time i don't get angry. when i do get angry i will still have good control over me. i was short tempered once and i decided to change it and i am working hard on it.

When I get angry I tend to cry. I hate being mad and that hurts me because I tend to forgive and forget too easy which results in me getting hurt or taken advantage of. I have to leave to get angry because things are going to far. I don't want to be aggressive but I wish I could keep myself calm and put together.

I am a thrower and a slapper, in fact I slapped someone just last friday in anger and probably would have killed him if my kids had not been present. When someone pisses me off I react straight away as simple as that.

Once I was aggressive when I get angry and ofended the supervisor. But most of the time I am calm.