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Yes I would feel like it was betrayal to share important information shared with me by a friend or relative. We have a family member who is a social worker. This member once in awhile feels the need to share with me something that is about ready to make her head pop. Names aren't mentioned but situations are and many are not good stories. Anything told to me in confidence is never repeated. This member is coming to me sharing information that is highly confidential and I would never share with anyone. Part of the beauty of aging is that we tend to forget some situations which makes it easier not to share.

When the problem is created by your my carelessness and and misjudgment,when the problem may be corrected by myself I tend to keep the problem to myself and solve it myself without hindering the happiness of your family.

Yes I have faced situations like this before and it can become quite a dilemma when we are not able to offload our concerns to someone else or seek different viewpoints to help us help others. As for the betrayal aspect, I think it all comes down to WHO you were to tell and the possible consequences of them knowing. A problem shared is a problem halved as they say and I do think that we are all guilty of seeking solace in another at some time or another, even though we were specifically asled not to. I will discuss things with my wife for example because I know she will not say anything to anyone else. I do not consider this a betrayal. But if I were to blab to a colleague or something, then yes it would be.

I do have problems like that, I have had some myself and I could not tell anyone, because people would think bad of me, they would say get over it, they would suggest a solution that is worse then the problem itself, they would then tell how wonderful things are for them because they had that problem and now well they won a lot of money, they have eight children, etc. As for ties with the other person, well even if that person is your spouse, you do want to find a way to solve it. And if it is something you have with God - and that would really be sacred ---we are to take our problems and complaints to HIM. As for the problems with people, we do have nicknames here on myLot and can use a pseudonym for the other person, and so we can let others know without getting the other person angry.

Yes, If it involves anyone other than yourself... it is betraying someone else and their trust (if they would be upset that you told.) trust is easier spent than earned.. and winning it back is nearly impossible.