How do you know it's time to break up? (please help!!)

@GemmaR (8521)
January 15, 2009 1:45pm CST
I am with a guy at the moment, and I am finding him boring. But at the same time, I do have feelings for him. It's weird though; we just don't have fun anymore! Do I break up/talk to him/wait and see? Please help!
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• Malta
15 Jan 09
Maybe you can talk about how you're feeling with him. You might discover that he's feeling the same way too. One way or the other, I think that if you do share this concern with him, you can both learn something new about each other and strenghten your relationship. Good luck!
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• United States
15 Jan 09
good point vanilla that is like solving two problems at once.
@luvandpower (2049)
• United States
15 Jan 09
I would wait and see. Perhaps, he is trying to save up for something special. If the conversations are different now, just give it time, we are ina dry month somewhat nothing really interesting to talk about. However, if it is like the feeling of like let's say when cake gets molded, you just can't stand his conversations, it may be time to move on. But then again, love is always around the corner.
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• Philippines
16 Jan 09
well if u feel that he/she was very cold to u. if u see and feel that theres a difference before and after. well u need to make some action and confront him/her if she/he wants to continue the relationship.
• Philippines
16 Jan 09
When things are going right between you and your partner, you can feel it. YOu are happy when you are together, you support each other, you think and talk about each oter( in positive ways) when you are not together. I think there is nothing wrong of asking a clarification of what is going on with the relationship. If a partner is demanding too much attention, ordering you around, and insisting on having his or her way every time a disagreement arises, then that's a problem. That's a sign that your relationship is in jeopardy. When you two talk about how things are going between you, do you seem to always end up trying to address problems? There is nothing wrong with arguing. All couples do. And conflict, when its handled in a way that is respectful, can actually be good for a relationship.But if you feel that all you and your partner do is argue, that is a problem. Constant criticism is one of the most obvious signs that a relationship is in trouble. And if your emotional needs are not being met if one both of you is failing to have your most basic emotional needs addressed by the connection you share, then that's definite sign that the relationship is in trouble. So good luck GemmaR hope this tips can make you decide whether the relationship is turning good.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
16 Jan 09
I have to tell him first how I feel as of the moment about his companionship. Then I have to wait and see if he does something about it--it means he still cares for the relationship, if not well, it's time to let go and go on with life.
@glords (2614)
• United States
16 Jan 09
I think this is normal, everyone gets board with each other once in awhile. If you love him, stick it out. Try to bring some excitement to the relationship. Jump start things by taking a class together or planning a trip. Maybe you could go on an adventure like sky diving or a trip to the Grand Canyon. Give it a little while to see if your attempts work. Then before you make any decisions try to think about weather this person adds more good to your life. If not, tell him to hit the road.
@Opal26 (17686)
• United States
16 Jan 09
Hey gemma! I think that only you can answer that question! If you are not truly happy with this guy then you do need to maybe talk to him and see if you can see what the problem is. If you aren't having fun together maybe you can figure out the reason. If you care about him and you feel that it's worth staying with him then you should try. But, if you really aren't interested in being with him then I think that you should move on before you both get hurt and just stay friends. But, like I said only you know how you really feel about this guy so the choice is up to you!
@bamakelly (5193)
• United States
15 Jan 09
I think that you have the option to do what you want to do here. You can find someone else if you are not happy. Sometimes things can become too common place in a relationship and it is time for something new.