Cary's IEP

@dawnald (84069)
Shingle Springs, California
January 22, 2009 5:01pm CST
If you missed it, Cary is my son with autism. He had his three year IEP* meeting yesterday. Well I'm happy to report that he is doing great with math (except for having some difficulty with word problems) and spelling (better than many kids with no learning disability) and reading. He's having some predictable problems with things like comprehension, expressive language, abstract concepts, social skills, etc. But he is progressing quite well and I'm very happy about it! When Cary was first diagnosed his dad was pretty doom and gloom about it, convinced he would never be functional, etc. So I'm quite happy with his progress. He may never be 100% 'normal', but I have no worries about him ultimately being able to function on his own. *Individualized education program
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@hildas (3031)
22 Jan 09
Sorry your little son has autism dawn. That is good though the way he is getting on. He really has done very well. I am sure he is doing well with your help though, as you seem to be great with your kids from all the little things I see you writing about them. I am sure he will progress even more. I do not know a lot about the illness, but it looks quite difficult to handle for some parents (on TV) but I guess all the children are different. I am really glad the meeting went well yesterday and I wish Cary all the best for the future.
@dawnald (84069)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
Autism can be quite difficult but Cary doesn't have a lot of the problems that other autistic kids have. Some of them bang their heads and freak out at certain colors and can't stand to be touched and so on. He's definitely got problems but it could be a lot worse!
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@hildas (3031)
22 Jan 09
Yes it could and I am glad hes ok. My cousin has just had a little downs baby. We where all really upset for her three weeks ago as she was very down about it all herself, but they are saying hes doing well. We are close cousins and I have to do a lot to help her out, so I have been online also reading all I can. She will get there though as she does love him.
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@dawnald (84069)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
Except with downs syndrome there's not much hope that they'll be out on their own and self-sufficient, is there? Doesn't mean you don't love them though...
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@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
24 Jan 09
Hi there Dawn! A mommy of three and two of them 8 yr old twins I didn't know that! Congrats on that first. Second, as I was reading your posting I was thinking that autism is not the life sentence that it once was. Aside from being disabled myself I'm not sure if I told you I also have my Developmental Services Worker Diploma to work with those who have developmental disabilities. So aside from dealing with that personally it's also what I went to school for and now have the paperwork to consider myself to be a professional in the area, lucky me! Anyway, it sounds like your son is doing very well and is managing to function quite well despite his challenges. It is my personal belief (although I'm not sure if there's much research to support my conclusions) that autism has always been present throughout history but we have not always had a name for it. For example, some believe the Albert Einstein for instance had Aspergers Syndrome, which is a higher functioning form of autism and within the spectrum disorders. Finally, I would like to commend you in the way that I have seen you dealing with your children just in these postings. Until now I did not know that he was disabled, which means that it's not the first thing you announce to others or a label that you or the school or anyone else has given him. So many times, I have seen a child not able to reach their full potential because someone e;se around them labeled them as different orunable to do whatever it is that was being asked of them. We cannot choose what happens to us in our lives but we can choose how we respond to it. Congratulations Dawn and to your little guy Cary!
@dawnald (84069)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Jan 09
I've heard that about Einstein. I also suspect my Father may have a wee bit of Asperger's. And no, I certainly don't go around announcing that Cary has autism. I do bring it up in situations where that's a piece of information that's necessary when I'm discussing something or seeking advice. I DO tend to baby him a bit too much however, which is probably why his father is doing so well helping him with homework. He doesn't. But anyway he's doing quite well and I'm very pleased about it!
@Charente (113)
23 Jan 09
That's great news about your son. I used to work in a school that had a special educational needs department and the SEN teachers and teaching assistants did really fantastic work with the kids that needed extra help. There was a large number of pupils that were on the autistic spectrum but they all had extra help and they were some of the hardest working kids in the school. At the end of each year the SEN kids had their own presentation evening to celebrate their achievements during the year. I'm sure your son will achieve great things within his capabilities and make you proud of him, given the support he is getting from home. He's very lucky to have such a loving and supportive family.
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@dawnald (84069)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Jan 09
I hope he will too! :-)
@cynthiann (18613)
• Jamaica
23 Jan 09
I am so happy for you, my friend. I have a son with learning disabilities so I now what a stress it can be. Anyway, this son is now married to a math brain with her masters who is considering doing her PHD. Yet she sees in my son the wonderful qualities that he has. You must be overjoyed with this great report on him. You are a good mother and I hope that his progress continues. Blessings
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@dawnald (84069)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Jan 09
Yes'm I'm very, very happy about it!
@lilybug (21145)
• United States
23 Jan 09
It is good to hear that Cary is doing well with his IEP. Sometimes all it takes is that little bit of extra effort. Good job to him and to you and your husband for working with him.
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@dawnald (84069)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Jan 09
Yes it really is making a difference!