How Far Will You Help a Friend?
By margaux08
@margaux08 (1094)
Philippines
January 25, 2009 3:23am CST
Marley became my friend for quite a while now. Like me, Marley is also married with two kids. I see more of myself whenever we talk. We share the same passion in music (though she likes Reggae and I go for R&B). We both compose songs. She is so witty. She knew what's going on in my mind that sometimes, she can complete my sentences. We share dreams and plans but were not able to materialized due to financial constraint. I still have the dreams but I focus more on my work and chosen career now.
Marley, on the other hand, is a stay-home Mom. And i think she can still push and fulfill her dreams. She is 3 years younger than me and she got a lot of potential! I can say that I am more in a position to help this friend since I believe she can! I trust her so much that she will be successful in all her endeavors in life. Recently, I started helping her. The good thing about her is that she never asked for my help.
I do not ask anything in return, except that she should be worthy of this help. By that,I mean, she should prove that she can, because I really believe she can. She got lots of talent and I don't want to see them getting wasted through the course of time. Such a shame... I hope she also realize that she has a lot to offer.
Don't you think I'm a bit far-fetched here? Here I am again, employing the one trait I hate most about myself- being "too trusting". When do you think it is too much?
1 response
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I will do almost anything for a friend. I'm alot like you when it comes to the trusting to much issue. I have been burnt alot through the years and it has made me more cautious in my endeavors. I know you want her to do well and if you have that much faith in her I bet she can. I think that I would set a time limit if I were you and not go any further. See what she is capable of but don't powder her tail to it. We all have to work towards our goals. You can't do it for her. I think you are a great person for wanting to help this friend and it may very well work out just like you want but don't give more than what she's willing to give. Good luck my friend.
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
Hi JenInTN,
Thank you for these great words of wisdom. I will try to be more careful in dealing not only with her but in dealing with everyone. Caution should also be applied along with the good intention of helping others.
Thanks again, and this is definitely worth to keep and practice.

