Divorced Women

I foolishly got married soon after high school. Needless to say, that marriage didn't work out, and I did take back my maiden name. If we had had children, I would have kept the married name instead. I think it would be confusing, especially for young children to have mom suddenly have a different name.

I kept my married name to match my daughter. But now my ex is getting married, I am thinking about going back to my maiden name. My daughter is 14 so I may still wait a couple more years.

I kept my x's name because my son was little and he couldn't understand me changing my name so I kept it for his sake.

I reverted back to my maiden name when my first marriage ended because he and I didn't have any children. With my second marriage, I kept my maiden name when that one ended because we had two children who were very young. I was afraid it would confuse them, so I still have that name.

No, I kept my married name because all my own credit cards were in that name, social security card, drivers license, etc. I figured it sure wasn't worth all the problems going through all that. If we were married for a short while I probably would have, but after ten years alot of items were in that name and I didn't feel it was worth it.

I haven't divorced but I have had my married name for so long that I believe I would keep it, I am used to it.. I have been married longer than I have been single and it would be hard for me to go back to my maiden name..

Excuse me for butting in on this one. Two different women and 2 different decisions. My ex-wife told me the day after she had me evicted from the marital home that she wanted nothing more to do with me and would not even be using my surname in future. I was concerned about our daughters but she said that had nothing to do with me what name she went by. I later found out that she had changed her employment records and been working under her maiden name for some months before we separated. Guess that tells a story all of its own. She wanted to change our daughters’ surnames to her maiden name and I flatly refused to allow that to happen under any circumstances. She apparently did broach the subject with the girls and they said they wanted to keep their own names, so really she had no say in the matter. On the other hand, my partner separated from her ex-husband, she chose to retain her married name. She did it for her children as she felt that had to have the security of knowing that not everything had changed in their life. The only thing she did was change it from “Mrs” to “Ms” and that was for herself because she didn’t really want to have that great a connection to her ex-husband. She then took to referring to her ex as “the father of my children.” From talking to friends, it seems that most of the women who have children do actually retain their married surname and it is for the sake of their children. Obviously if they remarry, then they do not keep their original married name. Friends who had no children from their marriage and where the split was not amicable, went back to using their maiden name.

I kept and still have me ex's last name. Reason - I was used to it and all my important doumentation bears that name.

When I got divorced, I kept my married name. The reason I did that is because I actually liked my married name, and I had a son, and didn't want us having two different last names. A name is a name, and doesn't change who you are, so I did not see it as a problem in keeping my married name.

Hi ya rocketj1 I am now waiting for my divorce to come through but as I am sure you are aware it isn't as cut and dried as most divorce cases. Anyway when it finally comes through I shall be keeping my married name purly because I would feel that if I changed it I would be disassociating myself from my kids as I would need his permission to change the kids names too. I think their name is part of who they are and am not sure I would change them even if I could. I think they would be totally confused if I did change their name too.