I don't know her name...

@SaintAnne (5453)
United States
February 4, 2009 3:52pm CST
I went to my part-time job today and I saw an acquaintance working there. I have seen her around for several times now and I have stopped and said hello for most of them. I knew her from college. She was in a class with me and we ended up being in a group project together, watching and "dissecting" Werner Herzog's Lessons of Darkness which if you have not seen it is worth an hour of your life. Anyway, there I was again asking how she was doing. And I felt so guilty that I cannot remember her name ever since I met her again. I know it starts with an A and I think it is far too late to ask her name again. I always fight the urge to look at her name tag which of course, is (in)appropriately placed on her right chest. I don't want her to think I am looking at her right boob every time we chat. What do I do?
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@lilaclady (28206)
• Australia
4 Feb 09
I think you should just be honest and say I know I know you but for the life of me I can't remember your name, make a joke of it and laugh about your poor memory, say something like OMG I must be having a seniors moment or something like that...This happens to everyone, this happened to me a couple of months ago and I just said...Oh i know the face but I am never good with remembering names....just be honest...
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I have thought about that, lilaclady but I feel embarrassed to ask her now since I've said hello and chatted her up so many times before and I feel like a t-o-o-l. But anyway, I will probably do what you suggested. Thank you very much, lilaclady.
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@lilaclady (28206)
• Australia
4 Feb 09
just tell her exactly how you feel even about you being embarrassed about it you might find she is in the same position....
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
4 Feb 09
She calls me by my name. That is what's making it harder for me.
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@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
4 Feb 09
[i]Hi Anne, How about asking any lady at work? I do know if that is the right thing to do but just get a great timing looking at her ID! It happened to me several times but I only meet them in the mall or streets unlike in your situation, you will see her often! I hope you will find a way to get her name! Or maybe check your previous notes, you know, it might be there![/i]
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I've thought about that but it's too much effort. I was thinking of asking another person but I worry that it might get to her as well so I'm just going to ask her myself I think.
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@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I think you should just be honest. Tell her you remember her from college but you couldn't for the life of you remember her name and admit you felt guilty about having to ask. I normally tell people I don't remember their names if I don't, but remember them. I have also had people tell me that and honestly I didn't feel offended.
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I think there is much truth in what you said here, rmuxagirl. Thanks.
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
Well, just be honest and ask for her name.. i mean, there's nothing wrong with that.. but if you're too shy then ask your other officemates if they know her name..
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I'm more embarrassed than shy, gracie but I might try to ask her or the lady at the front desk. Thanks!
@sahmof2 (274)
• United States
4 Feb 09
That happened to me once, not in that same scenario but someone that I had met before came up to me very excited to see me and I had the slightest idea who she was or what her name was. I was sitting there smiling and talking trying to fight the urge to ask her what her name was so I just had to do it. I just smiled and as politely as possible I asked and "what is your name again." I tried to be polite, I couldn't stand being there not having a clue as to whom I was talking to. Later on my sister told me I was rude for that but I didn't care if she felt as though I was being rude that wasn't my intention to be rude I just simply wanted to know who it was that I was talking to. Even after the lady told me her name I still didn't know who she was, even after my sister told me who she was after she said that I was rude for that I still didn't know who she was. She remembered me though so I just smiled and played along but I just had to ask her name.
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I do not think you were being rude at all. I should have asked her the first time I saw her again but I did not and now I am kicking myself silly. I think it's better to ask than pretend, right? Thanks, sahmof!
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@maezee (41985)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Sneak a peak at her name tag/boob when she's not looking! And if you can't do that, ask another co-worker if they know what her name is. And if all else fails..just ask! Tell her you have a horrible time with names, and not a very good memory. :/
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Sneak a peek at her boob... that is really something I don't feel like doing. Thanks, maezee.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
5 Feb 09
I have been in such situations a few times when I did not know what to do except for looking very dumb and guilty. If and when I remembered later, it felt extremely stupid. But in most cases, I did not remember at all and had to ask someone else. Is there anyone there whom you can ask? Or else you can ask her to sign something, which is not easy if her job does not require that! The best thing is to try and pretend to clear that ghost spot on her badge and have a glance at the name.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Ghost spot.... Ha Ha! I will try to ask the nice lady at the front desk. If she's there and if I'm not running late.
5 Feb 09
I think you're just going to have to be honest with her! Make it light hearted and blame your failing memory. I'm sure she will be absolutely fine about it. It happens to all of us from time to time.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I will try it tomorrow, mummyofthree. Thanks for the tip.
@mjmlagat (3170)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
Hi SaintAnne! I guess it's just right for you to ask her nicely about her name, there's nothing wrong with it at all. You can just do it in a jokingly manner for her not to be offended or whatsoever. Sometimes this happens.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Thanks, mjmlagat. We'll see what happens tomorrow.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Hi anne! Isn't that the worst! I don't know how you can find out without asking her straight out! Unless you ask someone else what her name is! You could always try that approach! You could try to casually take a fast look at her name tag without being too obvious, although I know how that is! Or you can just keep talking to her as you have been without knowing her name!
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Feb 09
If she's there tomorrow, then maybe I will try something out to find her name. I wear glasses but that does not even help me read small-font name tags from a foot away, Opal. Hope you're doing well over there!
@CJay77 (4438)
• Australia
5 Feb 09
Maybe just ask her name, SaintAnne, and tell her that you do remember her but not her name or just have a quick look at her name tag. I think she will understand you and not get upset. I am not good remembering names also, specially with those people I know and haven't seen for a long time.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I have not seen her for more than a year. That is why I still cannot remember her name until now, CJay. Thanks for the suggestion. I will definitely try it.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
Same happened to me several times. I keep on having conversation with them already but I can't remember their names. Like you I feel ashamed too asking their names, all I do I tried to recall or see who's with him or her whom I know, in order for me to ask her name. If I don't find a way to know her we just part ways without remembering her name. I understand you, me too, I don't have the nerve to ask their names as they believe I know them very well. In your case you can know her name with her time card or asking someone working there about her name.
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Isn't it the pits, bing? I will try something out tomorrow if she's there. Maybe I can find out from the nice lady at the front desk. Thanks for sharing.
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
5 Feb 09
If you are in touch with your college mates you can ask her name from them.Since she has been your college mate and know you well so she must be known to some other members of your batch. I hope this will somehow help you in finding her name.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Feb 09
She was only in one class with me, bamrahkirti. So it's a bit difficult to ask those who I've also forgotten their names as well. Thanks though.
• United States
5 Feb 09
I would suggest that you ask a really good friend of yours at work to find out her name and just remember it.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Feb 09
This is just a part-time job and I'm only there a few hours for two days a week so I don't really make friends there, more so good, close friends. Thanks killhawaii. Interesting name.
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
4 Feb 09
Try to catch her speaking with someone else and glance at her nametag quickly. Hopefully she won't see you looking at it. I forget people's names all the time. I hate when I have a conversation with someone and can't remember their name. I feel like such an idiot, especially if they address me by name.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Feb 09
That is what I feel right now. Well, whenever I'm around her. Thanks, tammytwo. I tried to take a sneaky glance at her nametag for a few times and just could not be successful.
@riyasam (16556)
• India
11 Feb 09
a similar incidentt happened to me ,a few years back.i saw a colleague of mine in my work place.come what may,i couldnt remember her name.then i heard my co-workers,addressing her by her name,thays how i came to know her name......
@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
16 Feb 09
Do you have to wear a uniform in this part time Job? if you don't,you could compliment her on what She's wearing and get a closer look at the nametag that way..She remembers your name ok? try bringing in some sweets..offer her one..that should distract her long enough to get a look in!
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
i have been in this situation many times and I just blame it on my being bad with names. It would be awkward if I got the name and promptly asked for it again. Cheers!!
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I guess I just have to (wo)man up and ask her directly. Thanks, underdogtoo.
@jonesy123 (3948)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Lol, welcome to my life. I'm terrible with names. If I see people outside the usual environment in which I encounter them... no dice I'll remember their name unless they are somebody I see very regularly. Sometimes I don't even know where I know them from although they seem to know me very well, lol. It can be quite embarrassing. Quite frankly, I'd have no problem looking at that darn name tag. She obviously has no problem with people staring at her boobs or she wouldn't place it there, lol. I'm used to staring at name tags anyway. I'm a mystery shopper, lol. It's not like you directly have to stare at it. My gaze kind of swipes by the tag on the way to looking elsewhere. If I can't read it right away, I do it a couple of times. I hope by now you have found out what the name is. I certainly could not have lived with that kind of 'not knowing' for such a long time;)
• Indonesia
10 Feb 09
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