Hypothetical Question
By breepeace
@breepeace (3014)
Canada
February 9, 2009 11:54am CST
I have a hypothetical question that is based on an experience a friend is having with her partner. If your partner was taking off to go spend time with friends, and they had a history of coming home late when they did this, so you pointedly asked them to not be back late THIS TIME, and they still rolled in the door at midnight, how would you feel?
I think this is so totally disrespectful towards her, and I understand her anger. It also seems like he's taking her for granted, and doesn't have any respect or consideration for her time. Her partner, on the other hand, figures she's just overthinking things, and uses the excuse that he simply forgot and let time get away from him. All I can do is go based off my personal experience, and I don't think I've ever forgot if my significant other had pointedly asked me not to do something, especially if it was only a few short hours before I was supposed to do it.
What's your take?
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@HomeFlower (987)
• Canada
9 Feb 09
I would be very upset if my husband came home consistently late after a night out with friends. There would be reasons behind my feelings. First, I would feel like he's ignoring and disrespecting me. Second, I would be so worried that something happened to him if he's later than he agreed to be. Third, I would worry that his friends may encourage him to do things they know I might get angry about -- because I'm not there to stop him
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@AnnieOakley1 (5596)
• Canada
10 Feb 09
She's too reliable. She's too predictable. He is taking advantage.
She can talk and complain and tell him he is being unfair until she is blue in the face. But there is one way to fix him.........
Tell her to go out, telling him she'll only be a little while and be gone for a very, very long while, rolling in around 1am. OH, and make sure he thinks she is either somewhere he doesn't want her to go or he doesn't know at all. And see how HE FEELS about it.
That usually fixes things when the shoe is on the other foot.
She should do this on several occasions, until he gets the point.
That's been my experience.
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