how would you help a friend
February 21, 2009 7:10pm CST
my friends and I have been friends for more than 2 decades now, we've been friends since high school. in short we've been through good and bad times. but this time one of us have a very serious problem with the father of her kids because his ex-wife is causing trouble. now, we're about to meet up and we don't know how to help this friend of ours. the thing is she doesn't ask for help so we don't know if we should touch the topic of her problem. we resolved that we'd never open that topic and let her speak first. i have long wanted to tell her that the guy is a super jerk but i think she already knows that and wouln'd want me to rub it in.
22 Feb 09
Hi, On the contrary,she may also feel the same-being a 'friend' why U r not asking for help/advise/suggestion, when she also could sense U know it all?Ask her straight, if she is a 'friend', she will respond-Yes/No.Proceed accordingly.Transparency has no substitute, in friendship. =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.