Is it me or does it seem that soldiers that are deployed...
By Pleiades
@Pleiades (846)
United States
March 13, 2009 1:41pm CST
Can't stay in a commited relationship?
I know I'm not talking about ALL military deployed individuals but in my MySpace circle of friends, there were three of us who had a boyfriend that was deployed overseas. All the men were in the Army but mine was the only one stationed in Iraq, the others were stationed in South Korea.
That being said, it was a long distance for all of us. At first, we'd get emails, letters and phone calls from our men and that was nice. But then gradually they seemed to have slowed down to a near trickle. One girl was told by her boyfriend that it was over, the other one suggested to her boyfriend that it should be over and mine stated he just wanted to be friends. WFT?!?!
What's with the deployed that they can't stay commited? Are they messing around while they're over there? lost interrest in us? realize that their freedom and single life is more important than being with us? Is it the idea of loving someone like this that scares them away? If so, I wish they'd just leave me alone and not go dangling my heart on a fine string like that.
*Pleiades
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@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
13 Mar 09
First off, there are plenty of soldiers that can and do stay in a committed relatonship and/or marriage. Yes, there are those that do mess around while they are deployed, but then again, there are plenty that have their gf or wives cheat on them. So much that they deal with, particularly in Iraq, messes with their head. And many times, they don't want the extra stress of having a gf or wife back in the states. I'm not real sure of what your case or those of your friends entailed, but the one thing that is important is when talking to your soldier, give him a sense of everything being okay back home. They don't want nor need to hear what is stressing you out, or what went wrong with your day......tell that to a best friend, mother, sister, whoever, but not to the soldier. Keep in mind, they are seeing things that noone should ever have to see in their life time. Things you can't even imagine in your wildest dreams. Give them space, stay in touch, and if it's really meant to be, you'll be back together.
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@Pleiades (846)
• United States
13 Mar 09
Funny...all the men I was talking about are from Texas. *lol*
Anywho...I thought about that, sparing my boyfriend from the stress and grief that was happening here. But a real good friend of mine told me to flush that idea down the toilet. The soldier was overseas with nothing to do or think about and knowing what little troubles I was dealing with and sharing would make him feel like he was part of the family. I can understand what you're saying though. It would have been different if my man was on the front lines and had to deal with true combat.
I will take your advice and keep in touch with him. He was such a great man and my 12 year old son adored him to pieces, there's no reason he still can't come over and visit...and whup his butt in "Call of Duty". 
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