Do i over react ? How to handle the office fair??
By vivianchen
@vivianchen (2646)
China
April 7, 2009 10:16am CST
My workmate, is also my good friends. We are the only contoness in the office. We used to get together quite well, but things have been changed on April 2nd. It'a paid day, and my sister is asking me some kind of certificate which i am not understand, so i copied the conversation between me and my sister's and sent it to her, wondered if she can give me a hand. She first look at the conversation, then she suddenly start shouting at me" Can you leave me a lone?? i am crazy busy right now!" There are 8 people there are working together at that time, i was so embarrassed that i told her loundly, "If you can't help, just say it, you don't need to shout at me!" I was communicated with her through MSN, so i don't why she react like that. After that, we are kind of broken up, right now, i won't talk to her, she won't talk to me even we work in the same office.
Is there anyone can tell me, am i wrong? Shouldn't i be angry on her?
5 responses
@eabaterina (501)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
hmmm, maybe your friend was really busy at the time and she was not able to control her outburst and you disturbed your friend at the wrong time. maybe your friend is also ashamed of what she did that is why she is not talking to you. maybe you are both waiting for the one who will make the first move. if you value your friendship with her, you can tell her that you are sorry you disturbed her at the wrong time but you are also hurt because she shouted at you. at least you tried your best to make amends. i hope you still patch things up. =)
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
8 Apr 09
Hi Eabaterina,
Thanks for your kindly advice. I think both of us need some time to think about things. I agreed with you that she shout at me might be because i am the one she though she can shout at and would not get angry on her. But unfortunately she did not know that i was hurt by her action.
@neerajpandey_13 (1765)
• India
7 Apr 09
Yes, You over react ry to avoid this type of situation. Because it is not good for your social image as well.
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
8 Apr 09
Hi Neerajpandey, Thanks for your opinion. I think i will try to avoid this happen next time
@suveer35 (98)
• India
7 Apr 09
Hi vivianchen,well the situation which you told uscan have various possibilities,like she must be having a bad day or might be she was not feeling well or any thing else it might have just happened that u became the victim of that and that too because she considered you as a very good friend and there was only you in the office whom she could remove her frustration because she trusted you as a friend,and now the problem is EGO which is comming in between.I will suggest you to go to her and talk to her make her comfartable show her that you care for her you will see she will automatically apologies for that day. take care and do communicate
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
8 Apr 09
Hi Suveers,
Thanks for your kindly advice. I think you are right, she might having a bad day that day. I should understand her, but i did not. I will try to comminicate with her when there is a chance.
@joinforcash1 (90)
• United States
7 Apr 09
I can understand why you are hurt and angry, but anger for anger never solved anything. She may have just been stressed and overworked and took it out on you. Sit down and talk with her. Let her know that you are hurt and why and take it from there.
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
8 Apr 09
Thank you Joinforcash! It's been 4 days since now, it's kind of hard for me to move for the first step! I think i will wait for a while.
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
8 Apr 09
Thanks Prinzcy, you are right, quite won't solve anything, but this period might help both of us to cool down.
