Que Sera Sera

@dawnald (84075)
Shingle Springs, California
April 10, 2009 5:12pm CST
OK so I like old fogey music. Yesterday on the way home I was happily listening to Doris Day singing "Que Sera Sera" (what will be, will be). So today I'm wondering, how many of you believe that what will be will be and how many of you think you need to take your destiny into your own hands? Any stories to back up your belief?
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
11 Apr 09
As far as I'm concerned, our destiny is definitely in our own hands. Fate though, is beyond our control. We all reach crossroads in our lives where we make one decision or another and it's these decisions that ultimately influence our outcomes. I didn't have to hop on a plane and leave my country 4 years ago, but I did! If I hadn't of made this decision, then I'd still be back in Australia doing something entirely different. So given this example, I've influenced my destiny and generated my own outcomes yes?
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Apr 09
Yep, true.
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Apr 09
Chasing roos perhaps? :-)
@xboxboy (5578)
10 Apr 09
i firmly believe you control your own destiny. 11 years ago i was at a sticky wicket. looking over a bridge at the trains passing. 3 years later i was a stronger person for that experience. but you have to fight within yourself to win. my friends from 15 years ago would not recognise me now. but i do like to clown about on mylot!
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@xboxboy (5578)
10 Apr 09
what a goddess! - a aeu-aey h
PS I LOVE that song!!!!
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Apr 09
I think it's a combination of both. You control your attitude certainly but sometimes things happen that you just have no control over! I was humming that dang song all night on Friday until my kids made me stop. lol
@Citychic (4071)
• United States
15 Apr 09
Quw Sera Sera I used to love that song and I still do. I think that we do have to take responsibility for our own destiny to a great extent..... for example, let's say that you do at least 50 percent of the work and the universe will do the other part. But if you just sit around and just wait for things to happen. Things may never happen the way you would like to see it happen...When you met your boyfriend/hubby or lover, did he just happen to walk into your life? I bet he didn't. You had to get all dressed up and then put yourself out there to let him know that you were available...If you wanted a certain job, did it ever just fall into your lap? Probably not. I have gotten many jobs in my past but I have always had to go after whatever it was that I wanted....So that's just the way it's always happened with me in the past....... whatever I want, I've always had to work for it. I make up my mind that I want it, then I go for it and it happens...Right now I believe it's going to be my destiny to move to another state. But I will have to make it happen even though I know in my gut I am not destined to stay where I am. Good luck with your endeavors!
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Apr 09
I think it's a combination of both. But certainly many things would be different in my life if I hadn't made certain choices, taken certain actions. But other things were completely beyond my control.
@bird123 (10546)
• United States
11 Apr 09
We all have freedom of choice. We are meant to take destiny into our own hands. Life is about learning and growing as people. We learn through the parameters of our life and the people we meet and interact with.We have freedom to choose our path but most of the parameters are not set but us.
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Apr 09
Certain things are out of our control but certainly our choices end up influencing the path that our lives take.
@savypat (20245)
• United States
11 Apr 09
I loved that song, I sang it to my babies when rocking them. I can hear it in my head, I do think there is a certain truth in the words, we only have control of our reaction to things that happen, this alone may influence what comes next.
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Apr 09
humming....
@riyasam (16570)
• India
11 Apr 09
my thinking is not to sit back and say,whatever will happen will happen,rather my thoughts are like DO YOUR BEST AND LEAVE THE REST TO GOD.I DONOT THINKI CAN ACHIEVE ANYTHING BY WORRYING.
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Apr 09
Worrying is definitely a useless pursuit! :-)
@katsmeow1213 (28910)
• United States
11 Apr 09
I believe everything is meant to be. If I think about the things I've been through in my past, each little thing has led me to become who I am. I learned something from the things I've done, and grown because of it. If I didn't date the men I dated then I would never have fallen for my husband. If I didn't work the jobs I worked I wouldn't have met him. If I didn't have my wild days at the time that I did, I wouldn't have grown up and learned from them so that I could be the woman I am today. Everytime I become upset about my life or situation, I stop and remember that it's happening for a reason, and that when the time is right, I'll get exactly what I want. When I was about 20 years old I'd just gotten out of a really bad relationship. For a few months I was really depressed about being single again, and couldn't focus on anything other than trying to find a new boyfriend. Then one day I told myself that when I'm ready for it, the right person will just come along. So I stopped focusing so much on it, and used my free time to think about what went wrong in my past relationship so that I could fix it for future relationships. A couple months later... a total of about 5-6 months after my break up.. I began to have feelings for my best friend who I'd known a couple years already. One thing led to another... and here we are, happily married for 6 years with 5 kids.
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Apr 09
but perhaps if your attitude had been different, things wouldn't have fallen into place so nicely. Just speculating...
• United States
10 Apr 09
Dawn- That's a two-fold question, and a loaded one at that lol. I think that I do have a Que Sera Sera attitude concerning most things, or at least I try to. I try very hard to stay in the present moment so that I don't have to think "I need to control this", because the truth is, some things in life just occur and you can't control them, you don't need to, and you will come out on the other side. I suppose that's always easier said than done, but it's something I'm striving for. On the days when I do succeed in having that frame of thought I find myself accomplishing more, worrying less, less stressed, and more refreshed. Namaste-Anora
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Apr 09
Yep there are some things you can't control and trying to has to be an enormous, frustrating stress! Hm, looking in mirror, maybe a small problem for me sometimes. lol