Should I Call Her???????????
By vjsinduja
@vjsinduja (1031)
Sri Lanka
April 24, 2009 11:15am CST
We were friends from our school days.She(Teena) gets along with anyone easily but I am the opposite.But with here I was really good. Were were very good friends. She was the only thickest friend I had. When we were in grade 8's and 9's we became thick friends. Some how we completed our O/L's
As she did not get through her O/L's she said that she is not gonna do her A/L's. As I gt through I joined for A/L's in a different school and few others from my class joined the same school for A/L's
One year after I joined for A/L's, Teena joined for A/Ls in school which I was doing me A/L's.After she joined there she got along with those classmates most of the time.
Further she got bf during A/L's.Time passed by and we completed schooling and joined for professional studies. I joined for B.SC IT and she joined for CIMA at cima institution.
Two years passed by after joining for B.Sc IT. It was 2007. I as well as her was looking for a job.I of course didn't get a good job where as she got a 3 months temporary job at a leasing company.By 2008 Feb, she was out of that job.
After that for a few months she didn't look for a job as she wanted to complete her exams and so on...After completing her exams she was looking for jobs.As she didn't have PC, she always calls me asking me to take take printouts of CV's to apply for posts or she asks me to email her biodata to companies which as for accountant. At times she calls and tells me to email her CV to certain people whom she knows.Only if I call her she talks. I did everything for without any jealousy.Some how she got a good job in a reputed company.
I didn't get a job at all. After she joined that firm, she stopped calling me.It was 2008 Christmas. I rang her to wish her. But she was not bothered at all to talk with me. She just hang up saying that she is busy on the other line and that she'll call me later. I also though she'll me back when she is not busy.Up to date she never called me.
As 2009 New Year was coming , I send her a greeting card wishing for New Year.Atleast for that even she never called me back. It was 14 Jan. I celebrate Pongal festival. Even for that she never rang me to wish me.Till now she never called me. As i felt she is ignoring me I also didn't call her to wish her on her b'day which was on April 1st.Now I wonder If I was ignoring her or she was ignoring her.I am just confused.
Even my mum asked y Teena doesn't call me now. She even pointed out that When Teena wanted help from me she called me so many times. But after she got a good job, she is totally ignoring me.Now I want your responses. Should I call her or wait till she calls me. I feel as if she doesn't want my friendship any more.If Not she wpuld have called me.What am I to do? Should I call her or not?
1 response
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
24 Apr 09
HI,
You are in a kind of a situation which is so very common and humane. Human beings are made like this, they would use you and then wipe you off, clean.
I am not there personally and dont know the situation in exact terms. But as I have read the post it seems a clear indication that your friend is just so common of an individual. She doesn't deserve your friendship, let alone making a call. What I have seen is that "these" people would soon be out of friends and then he/she will relent on you, thinking that you are always there to care. DON'T. Don't even think about her, I strongly believe that you have better things to do, search for a good job for yourself as you are academically stronger. Build your own career and forget about these selfish "friends". You shall certainly be friends with someone probably many who will be more caring and be true friends with you.
Take care,
Bodhi
@vjsinduja (1031)
• Sri Lanka
25 Apr 09
Thanks alot for ur responses. Now I have a clear about it. All these days I was just confused. Thanks again. What u have said is 100% correct Many people in this world use us for their sake and throw us like waste papers after its done.

