I have Something to tell you.

United States
April 25, 2009 3:14am CST
When is it the right time to tell your partner about a deep dark secret. A type of secret that may make them not want to be with you?I think as soon as you feel that you are getting serious , then that's the time to reveal the secret. how about you?
6 responses
@jillhill (37379)
• United States
25 Apr 09
I think it might depend on what the secret is...my nephew just broke up with a gal that he had three dates with before she told him she had a baby....He liked her and if she would have been honest they might have had a chance....I also know some people who have secrets from their spouses after being married for many years....and still have not told them...so I think it would depend on what the secret is.
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• United States
26 Apr 09
Don't answer this if this is too personal but is your nephew like me, he doesn't want kids around? Is that why he broke it off ? Or was that if she could keep a child a secret , what else could she hide? I got the idea for this post from a show I was seeing where a separated man kept the secretr that his wife didn't leave him, she was in a bursing home for a serious illness.
@jillhill (37379)
• United States
26 Apr 09
A little of both....he is still going to school and he is not ready for a family yet...but the clincher was that she didn't tell him right off the bat....like why did she hide the fact that she had a child? Did she think he wouldn't ask her out if she told him? He thought it was on the dishonest side.
• Philippines
25 Apr 09
I told my once bachelor boss who became a friend about my dark secrets. Then we fell in love with each other. While still engaged i told him some more and even darker ones. Some few months before the wedding i laid all my cards and told him the darkest of all my secrets. Now we're six and a half years married, happy and contented with never a small fight in between. I am just one blessed woman who is married to such a loving and wonderful man like my husband! Hi, sarahruthbeth! Thanks for bringing this up. It just reminded me to be even more grateful than ever to God because He gave me a husband who shows me my worth as a woman, someone valued and cherished... ^_^
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• United States
26 Apr 09
I am so glad you and hubby are so happy. Take Care.
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
Oh my, my, my...i still can't believe this is happening! I mean, another BR?!!! You've just fueled my burning passion for myLot! THANK YOU!!! ^_^
@GAUCI123 (1042)
• Malta
25 Apr 09
Well I don't feel that if you want a serious relationship you need to be honest with your parnter. There should be no secrets between a couple, since oneday I am sure that your secret will be revealed and sooner or later your partner will know about it.
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• United States
26 Apr 09
I agree. If there is something that a partner should know, then tell them early enough so they know everything and they can deside if they want to stay.
@mcgrary (107)
• China
25 Apr 09
hi, I have some dark secrets. And they can easily make my partner leave me. Because of that, I don't even want to start a relationship. It's bothering me all the time. I don't know what to do. I think that may be the reason why I am still single now.
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• United States
25 Apr 09
Thanks you for your response. I am sorry if this post nurt you . Call me a hopeless romantic but I believe the right person for you will reallt understand.If you want to have someone in your life, don't be afraid to go for it.I wish you happiness
@winterose (39898)
• Canada
25 Apr 09
I agree, that person has got to accept you and if that person can't then he or she is not for you from the get go.
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@chiyosan (30194)
• Philippines
25 Apr 09
when you are comfortable enough to tell the person about the secret...