Friends on Mylot

Spain
May 14, 2009 3:11am CST
From reading discussions under 'making extra money,' it seems to me that a lot of friend requests come from the desire to sign people up as referrals rather than to connect with people with similar interests. Am I being cynical on this, or do you agree with me? When anyone requests to be my friend, I always check out their profile before accepting. If I can find nothing in common, I will deny the request. Up to now, I haven't denied anyone, as the requests come from people who have taken part in discussions I've been involved in, so obviously we've connected on one level or another. I'm all for the friends concept, as I have come into contact with some great people, what I object to is someone requesting to be my friend just so they can make a few cents out of me. What do you think?
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6 responses
@jellymonty (2354)
6 Aug 09
Hey Sandra I'm with you on this one. Usually before I accept a request I take a look at the number of discussions they've participated in. If it's less than a 100 I straight away decline the request because the majority of these referral chasers are not active participants. If they are above a 100 I look at their profile to see if there's something interesting about them. If not I decline but most times I accept.
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• Spain
6 Aug 09
Good point about the referral chasers, Jelly. I started accepting new members to encourage them, but I unwittingly landed up with a banned member under a new name, so I'm a lot more careful now. The thing with friends is, you only really start to get to know them when you've added them, so it's a constant learning curve. I'm really happy with my friends list now, and of course, you're in there!
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6 Aug 09
aww cheers sandra it's great to have you as a friend here plus your my partner in the spank fest here so woohooo!
• United States
6 Aug 09
I am very selective with who I accept on the friends reuest page. I have to make sure that they have common interests as me, and if I don't recognize them right off, I leave it pending until I see what they offer MyLot. I get overloaded with requests from people who really have nothing to say in the forums, and I actually deny a lot of requests because of it. I like active participants to be on my page-ones who will post topics that I will respond to, and ones who will participate in mine as well.
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• Spain
6 Aug 09
When I first came here and saw people saying they only accepted people who would participate in their discussions, I thought it seemed a bit mercenary, but I've learned from the established members that this is the ONLY way friends can work well. I used to have problems finding enough interesting discussions to respond to, but now I can find them among my friends.
• United States
6 Aug 09
Exactly! I by no means want to add people to my page who will be "clutter" to me-cluttering up my friends discussions with topics that I will not find interesting, and I surely don't want to add any spammers! (Trolls, as you call them??) I definitely find the most interesting topics among my friends, because we have found a common ground somewhere to discuss something simialr in interest.
6 Aug 09
I don’t think you are being cynical at all and from experience I can say that people do request you as a friend purely to send you sign up messages or spam as it should be known. Like yourself when someone sends me a friend request I always check their profile out and see what they are into and whether or not they have actually replied to an of my discussions or responded to other discussions. Anyone I decide is going to spam me I actually leave as an unanswered request as it means they won’t be able to bug me with another friend’s request. That does mean I have a few people sitting there permanently as pending but would rather this than repeated friend requests. Likewise I have met some great people on here via the friends system but feel that some members see myLot as purely a marketing tool for sending out sign up requests.
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• Spain
6 Aug 09
You're right, yet the funny thing is, if people forgot about money and just concentrated on quality responses, they'd actually earn more than posting dozens of topics that nobody responds to, or leaving one line responses. Used properly, the friends feature is Mylot's best asset, and I feel that I've now learned to use it to my best advantage. I'm never short of discussions to go to, and I know the topics will give me food for thought.
@thea09 (18316)
• Greece
6 Aug 09
Hi Sandra, how can I have missed this discussion before when I've been stalking you I'm due another clean out now, get rid of the one liners and the ones who I have no contact with. Slowly but surely the friends list is growing into people I want to interact with and as you say it is Mylots best feature. Anyone after money,spams whatever just go in the bin unless they refuse to, then they just hang around putrifying on the list. I've quite a few pending now but looking at the numbers it's too early to decide if we'll hit ito off.
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• Spain
6 Aug 09
Well, Thea, think back to one of your earlier discussions that I stalked - when somebody responds to an old discussion, it revives it. Neildc responded - he's a new friend - and look what happened!
@neildc (17251)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
3 Aug 09
I just finished cleaning-up my list. Most of them are no longer active or they were not seen in any of my discussions. I also deleted from the list who I think had been there just for the said making extra money ventures of their own.
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• Spain
6 Aug 09
Yes, Neil. For the friends feature to work as it should, we have to be selective, don't we? The people on my list now are the ones I meet up with regularly on discussions, and that's as it should be.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
14 May 09
I always accept friends' invitations here at mylot. I feel so blessed to be invited by a mylotter to be his/her friend and I love to have many friends here. Aside from learning from their experiences, you will also get to share your experiences with them.