feeling guilty ???

Hi ma'am, This is your act of penance anyway that you felt sorry for the son who possibly needed more of your company when he was young. And this is very true that guilt conscience too depressive. Thanks for sharing.

Hi sudipta, very true. why to cheat and bear a guilt conscience? And yes that middle class pang is well known and well perceived too for I too sail in the same ship. But still life drags us sometime to a point where we are made to feel guilty of something or the other might be we are not indulging in the fleeting happiness. I have had similar experience. Thanks for sharing.

Well Rajib, my husband is not perfect…many a times I have come into close contact with many of his friends or office colleagues and I have imagined myself as their wife…there are many things in life which I have never had and will never have, either. But those men all had the capabilities of providing me with those things and they were charming too…they knew how to woo a lady (which again my husband DOES NOT know)…so yes, I have felt like letting go, like sailing off to a dreamland where I will be wooed and pampered and then I have woken up with a jolt and realized that security is far far better than momentary happiness….and to be able to look at yourself in the mirror with a clear conscience…nothing beats this feeling.

Very true Sudipta. Another revelation. Yes there are women too like the charmer men and unlike women men are too easy to get trapped. And looking things from your perspective that was all reasonable for your part to sail into the forbidden(?) land. But what would be the aftermath particularly for a lady of your disposition after you woke up and stood in front of the mirror? Many ugly face would gyre and make you feel sick. Once you over come a jerk you are there safe and sound. Thank you for the share.

I agree. Just hard to walk through it sometimes.

Hi celticeagle, Yes, mere fretting over the past action would not help. If it is guilt conscience you are suffering try to amend them or forget and think of the future actions. And this is really natural to feel guilty by all at one point or the other. Thanks for the response.

I have been saying guilt was a useless emotion for years before anyone ever heard of Dr. Wayne Dyer. Your Dad should feel guilty for not nurturing you and helping you feel good about yourself. Stay positive!

Hello my friend krajibg Ji, So nice of you for your positive comments. Sooner, on eamends , on ewould be relieved from tension. May god bless and have a great time.

Hi Jee, Yes I agree with you. This is an inseparable part of our life. Some try to make amend of the things and some do not and that is the difference. Thanks for your response.

Hi, that is really a nice thing to do that you try to make amends of those bad patches and defeat the 'dragon'. And Life coaching is the best way I guess to over come such feeling. All the best and thanks for sharing.

Keep up the good work! Life coaching is a wonderful thing that everyone can benefit from. You should feel proud that you took the step to improve and make changes in your life.

Hi sukumar, That is right. Only the people with good heart develop such conscience or else it would go unnoticed for a heartless person. Thanks for sharing.

Because of the way society is structured, we all carry subconscious guilt and meditation is only one way to deal with it. It is the cheapest because we don't have to employ a therapist. The way I see it is that over millennia, the powers that be have had an interest in oppressing and controlling people, and keeping them afraid, was a very effective way of doing so. This was often done by established religions who preached about sin and how you would "lose your place in heaven" if you didn't behave. This was reinforced by tales of how demons can come and destroy our very souls if we crossed the line and did something "evil". I believe we have inherited this negative attitudes in our genes from our ancestors, and often we may begin to feel like "something's wrong". We learn this from the time we are old enough to think and discriminate right from wrong according to whatever authority hold this power of us. However, repressed guilt can be tough going if some strong stuff comes up into consciousness, and then a therapist may be the only answer, or at least someone who understands such the nature of guilt through a meditation process him/herself. - Derek

Hi Derek, Very nicely narrated. Yes, though I am not a therapist like you, through my study of human psychology I have found that most people who form a guilt conscience faster than other people must have had a bad past when he/she was often in such situation and it remain repressed and now it pops in the conscious mind and disturbs that person at the slightest of he cause. Even I feel I had a repressed past and have been quite often a prey to guilt conscience. Is meditation the only way out?

Hi dawn, That is the right approach I feel. Learning from our mistake is the bset way than to form a guilt conscience. Thanks

Hi there, That is the part of life. You just can not get away. And I do not feel it is a crime to tell a lie that is harmless to save a situation. Thanks for the response.

Yups! am trying hard for it.

Hinavonly, Yes, that is the right approach. I feel if you realize and try to make amend the things is your commitment and see if you keep on this track no more such haunting guilt feeling would be there. Thanks for the response.

Hi Anora, That is quite normal I guess. Many people are there who do not feel any sort of guilt even knowing that what they did was not right but for people like you and me we are bitten by our conscience and try to washed out if anything keeps on hitting. I can well understand your point. Thanks. Namaste. Rajib.

Hi pickoy, very nice moral! Yes only because that those are criminal and have no remorse after acting against mankind. You and me can not do certain things for we have had the hurt of the rotating triangle and hence are still all ears to our conscience. Thanks for sharing.

You are right Canellita. This is a useless emotion but paradoxically it hit your conscience when identical situation arises. Say just this morning my wife left for an official work but I did not accompany her. I just dropped her in the railways station and came back home. Coming home I was sort of restless. I felt too guilt ridden. Because the sort of work she left for is serious and possibly she needed my help though she never insisted that I went with her. It took the whole of my morning to restore my mind. I have never felt sort of guilty just for the reason that others are less fortunate. I believe this is your karma that is responsible what you are. Thanks for the response.

While it is true that your wife could have possibly used your help it is also true that you might have been in the way at some point. Sometimes when we do things alone we can get more done. If we have company on a working trip we will spend more time socializing. While your wife is gone you should take this time to tackle some household task that will surprise her when she returns. Has she been asking you to repair something?

I believe what you're saying is not guilt. Its low self-esteem coz he can't accept the fact that what he gains certainly belongs to him. He worked hard for it so he deserves it. Other people are less fortunate for a number of reasons and at most its their own actions that lead them to it. He feels he doesn't deserve it coz it should belong to the less fortunate... the question is, you can't give your blessings to someone who is not ready to accept it and for people who can't manage it or it will all go to waste. Some people just sit and wait to get helped... but its not the only way to make their lives better. The secret to real happiness is embracing everything that comes to him and acceptance that those blessings are hard earned.

Hi med, That is great. Now as you have made it public your guilt would erase out much faster. And that is very normal to feel guilty when you are aware that things are not exactly as they are being expected. Thanks a lot for the response.

Hi fausai, Yes, that is the case. I too have felt that way several times in the past and do still feel if I know that I am not being committed to myself. Thanks for the response.