Wrapped Around Their Finger...
By twoey68
@twoey68 (13627)
United States
July 20, 2009 9:59am CST
Most ppl when they meet someone their interested in tend to give them the benefit of the doubt but if too many things don’t add up, it’s time to cut your losses. Every once in a while though you come across a guy or girl who falls hopelessly in love immediately and no matter what their new interest tells them, they believe it hook, line and sinker.
Hubby and I knew a guy like that. He met a woman, fell for her on sight and no matter what she told him he believed it. She kept lingerie in the back of her car…so that if she got stranded on the road she’d have something to sleep in
. She had a private cell number that she spent hours taking private calls from guys on…that were just friends (he didn’t even have the number and she went outside to talk to the guys so he couldn’t hear) 
. There were lots of signs that things weren’t what they seemed…her overnight trips, taking off her wedding ring, mysterious doctor visits. But through it all, he never believed she was cheating. They ended up divorced eventually but the fact that he was so blinded by her was unbelievable 
.
Has a guy or girl ever had you completely wrapped around their finger? Have you ever tossed logic to the wind b/c you were so in love with someone? Have you ever known any loves-truck blinded fools who later had to face the truth?
[b]**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
. She had a private cell number that she spent hours taking private calls from guys on…that were just friends (he didn’t even have the number and she went outside to talk to the guys so he couldn’t hear) . There were lots of signs that things weren’t what they seemed…her overnight trips, taking off her wedding ring, mysterious doctor visits. But through it all, he never believed she was cheating. They ended up divorced eventually but the fact that he was so blinded by her was unbelievable .
Has a guy or girl ever had you completely wrapped around their finger? Have you ever tossed logic to the wind b/c you were so in love with someone? Have you ever known any loves-truck blinded fools who later had to face the truth?
[b]**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]8 people like this
18 responses
@Sweetchariot (1718)
• United States
20 Jul 09
That guy had to be desperate, or just plain gullible. I feel bad for people like that, those are the ones who will get hurt over and over. I am too mistrusting, so I would've caught on after the first time she took a call on her cell, and wouldn't talk in front of me.
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
21 Jul 09
I think it's more of gullible...he just didn't want to believe she would treat him that way. It wasn't the first time he got in a relationship like that and I'm sure it won't be the last...some ppl just never learn.
[b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~
**STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
20 Jul 09
I guess we all have been taken in by people we love, i know i have but not to the extent as your friend. It didn't take me long to figure out what a bum a man can be & a woman to i guess from the sound of your friend's 'lady' if i dare call her that.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
1 Aug 09
No, not yet at least. I will believe you at first but when things don't add up, then I assume you are lying. And once I believe you are a liar, I don't believe Anything you say ever again. The guy could tell me it is sunny , and I'll would reach for my umbrella.
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@scififan43 (2434)
• United States
29 Jul 09
I think that happnes to us all from one time or another. when people get lonely it can have an intoxicationg effect on people. I think your friend was desprate and should have taken things slow with the girl. but we can easerly losse sight when we realy want something bad. I have not had the experice perse but it does sounds close to what happen with the last girlfrined I had. I did not see the warnign signs earler and got hurt in the porcess. but such is life.
@slickcut (8140)
• United States
21 Jul 09
I have known people like this but i am not one of them..I am a jealous person when i am in a relationship, I have to be number one on his list..I do not believe in the type of jealousy that would make a person miserable , but i can read signs & if i saw signs like this it would for sure be a show down.I have never been that ignorant when in a relationship, in fact i always look for signs like this and i know instantly if it is just me or am i sharing with other women..Some people just lay themselves down to be hurt...
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@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
21 Jul 09
I have known a couple of people like that. They don't learn easily and it is hard to accept that anything is wrong. Of course it could be worse. After I divorced my first husband my kids would find weird things when it was their week-ends. Like makeup clothes and shoes. We soon discovered that he was cross dressing! That is an image that we did not want to see, unfortuanately. Ick!
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@sid556 (30953)
• United States
21 Jul 09
Ya...my ex husband. I was so so blind. I just wanted to believe all was the way I wanted it to be. I believed everything out of his mouth becuz I wanted to. Ya l can sympathize with your friend...I was a sucker like that.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
21 Jul 09
Yeah, when I was 19. The guy got drunk one night and confessed that he was having affairs with numerous other women. But I live in NY and he lived in VT. He visited me at college on the weekends, so whatever he did during the week, I didn't know about. Really messed with my world and made the end of my colllege year miserable. I was depressed all summer. But eventually, I got over him.
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@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Yep, that's me! 
My ex husband had me wrapped around his finger, I believed everything and had no idea he was cheating on me for two years. I had total faith in him even though he had betrayed me before. He married her and now they're happy together, I'm happy being by myself so everything turned out ok. I'll never get over that humiliation, though. I was the only one who didn't know, all our "friends" did.
I'm done with "love" and all its insanity!
My ex husband had me wrapped around his finger, I believed everything and had no idea he was cheating on me for two years. I had total faith in him even though he had betrayed me before. He married her and now they're happy together, I'm happy being by myself so everything turned out ok. I'll never get over that humiliation, though. I was the only one who didn't know, all our "friends" did.
I'm done with "love" and all its insanity!@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
21 Jul 09
I think many ppl go through situations like that where one partner is cheating and all the friends know and no one tells. I'd rather be told the truth than to have a friend hide it from me. In the situation with my ex-b/f I found out that not only were my "friends" hiding it from me...they were the ones he was cheating with! It cost me a lot of friends.
[b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~
**STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
@celticeagle (189819)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Jul 09
Yes, people that are co-dependant and want a relationship of any type at any price will believe things no matter how bizarre or rediculous they are. I am guilty of this very thing. I wanted a relationship so badly I believed and was hurt. He was a player. I wrote a post on this very thing. Pathetic. But, I learned from it. The important thing in all of this is just that. Did he learn anything from this?
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
21 Jul 09
Hi twoey! That description of this guy is more than love blind
it is just plain stupid! How could someone not see that a
woman who is showing all these signs of out and out cheating
isn't cheating! Taking off a wedding band, lingerie in the
car, overnight mysterious outings, private calls, these are
unbeliveable RED FLAIRS, FLASHING LIGHTS! What is wrong with
this guy? She did everything but cheat right in front of him
and he stayed married to her! First of all I don't know why
someone like that would even bother to get married in the
first place! And no, I have never known someone that stupid!
At least the woman who's husbands did end up cheating on them
were a bit more discreet, not that it made it any better because
the still ended up hurt and divorced!
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
22 Jul 09
The only thing I am guilty of is to allow someone to be abusive toward me. I don’t think that, at the time, I was ‘blinded’ by love; I think that my self esteem was too low for me to appreciate that I deserved much better.
I have seen friends completely blinded to obvious mistreatment and betrayal. It is a shame but I guess people have to go through these experiences themselves and learn from them; they are not usually likely to listen to advice anyway.
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@danishcanadian (28954)
• Canada
9 Aug 09
I know of people who think that love is supposed to be like that, and they let people away with all kinds of stupid stuff, even if they know it, and I know people like this person who don't know it, and are blinded. I promised myself that I would never let that happen to me, and when I met my husband, I kept that promise. We both did! We love eachother madly, but we're not blinded by that love.
@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
21 Jul 09
I have had a ex boyfriend and my ex husgand did me about this same way. I mean my ex husband wa going to his ex wife's house claiming that they were just friends. At first I bought it and I wanted to belive and trust in him I should have knew from the start what was going on. My ex biyfriend played me for a fool also. I heard that he was talking to another woman when I was suppose to be his girlfriend. Of course that was years ago.
@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
20 Jul 09
Hi twoey68,
Yes, I used to know this guy who was my mum's lodger and and later became my lodger, my hubby and him became good friends and they used to go out together, then one day he met this girl but I wasen't keen on her as I go with my gut feelngs but he was smitten with her and he and his best mate and this girl used to go around a lot, then one day he goe a place with her and was very happy, I was happy for him but still this nagging feeling was with me, she was always with his best mate when my ex lodger was working, then she got pregnant and he came to tell me , I was pleased for him and told him to be more responsible now and he was. They had a baby boy he was so cute and my ex-lodger was so tickle pink a proud fatther, few months later he came home early and caught his best mate with his partner, he came round to me and cried on my sholuder and told me I was right about her. That was many years ago and now he has moved to a different area and have found someone and have been married for a long time, he has got childen now and very happy, he still keep in touch with his son here. I have not heard from for a while now.
Tamara
