I have worked in health care for most of my life.

@kitty42 (3924)
United States
August 15, 2009 5:23pm CST
I have been a Certified nurses aide for years for those that don't know that is hard work, I have made many peoples hospital stay more bearable and also made their family sleep better at night, I loved the job but after a while it takes a toll and I had to give it up, I feel bad because I know that I was meant to do this, I have a gift it comes so easy for me, even the toughest patient softened up to me, but still its so hard watching people pass away, having some patients that just don't care how good you are they still try to treat you like crap, right now I am out of work because caring for the sick is all I have ever done, I went to school for nursing but did so bad on some of my test I couldn't bare it, my instructor pleaded with me not to give up, but I have been in the field for so long I didn't want to be one of those nurses that didn't know what she was doing, I really thought I was going to do great but for what ever reason tI didn't work out for me, the director told me the best nurses do the worse in the class room, this I know had to be true cause I know I would have been a wonderful nurse but for some reason it didn't work out that way for me. Would really like to hear from all the people who are in this field, tell me what you think, I may eventually go back cause I know there is some patient out there that needs my help as well as there family, when I say I am good at that job you can't imagine how good I am I walk into my patient room/home and something takes over me and I leave them feeling/looking so good and that makes me feel good, I know caring for the sick is my calling, wish I could have been a nurse would be a little more rewarding, but hey what ever is meant to be will be right?
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@patofgold23 (5075)
• Philippines
28 Aug 09
oh my God kitty!! I didn't know you are in the medical field too... I am a nurse myself. I stopped working in the hospital about a year ago and decided to work from home. I love my job, really. But I had to do what I had to do. I have a son who needs me and I need to support, here in the Philippines, nurses don't really make that much. I am planning to work in California the next time I go back there. Hopefully I could take my mom home and she wouldn't have to work no more. I could give my son a better life too. In the hospital, I used to be assigned in the Medical ward. Ratio of nnurses to patients is 1:40... there are times I have about 60. That's how government hospitals work, that's all they can afford to pay. Me and my CNA work together to get things done before our 8 hours shift ends. I think it is better there.. Nurse-patient ratio is better. I would love to go back and work in the hospital. Not yet right now. I am doing everything alone and working outside is not yet the best option for now. Your being a nurse aide soes speak a lot about you Kitty. No winder you are a sweet loving tender person. When we take our jobs seriousle we couldn't help get attached to our patients no matter if they tell us not to. We're just human and we can't help it. You know, Kitty, wonderful people like you will go a long way.. I can see that. I have much faith in you. And I have all the best wishes for you.
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
28 Aug 09
Hello my wonderful friend See you did it again you always make me cry, I told you not to do that Its funny right, we are in the same field we connected so fast, when I read your first post my heart melted I knew there was something special about you, I bet your a wonderful nurse, you know what is sad they make so much money here I mean so much money its amazing, its really unfair you do the same work 1-40 or 60 oh no, thats a lot of work and paper work, do they use computers for vital signs and things of that nature? the nurses here would be the patient if they had to work that hard, I use to work on a floor this may have been the biggest floor I ever worked on they had 52 patients 3 nurses or 4 can't remember 2 aides at night was suppose to be 3 but when we had 2 we had to deal with it, our field is hard work no matter how you look at it. I use to have a hard time with nurses but once they realized I was not going to be treaded with anything other respect no matte what tittle I held things got better, most nurses love me, the lazy nurses hate me, lol but thats fine I don't bite my tongue even the lazy nurses end up respecting me and work harder with me because they know I am good at what I do. I wish you all the best sweety, I hope you find work paying you what you are worth, would be nice if you could move to NYC, you would be rolling in the dough then you can take me to get my feet done everyday lol Thanks for the wonderful response to this post means alot to me.
• Philippines
28 Aug 09
you know,kitty my friend..you remind me soo much of my mom..she is the sweetest perosn there is...very gentle, and easy to love. I can see how good a heart you have there.. i do know how great nurses earn there. must be nice to work there on day, and who knows, we get to meet in person?we could even work together by chance. yea..i must say nurses are so exploited here.we work sooo hard. and we get little pay. that provincial hospital I used to work for was paying even better than the city hospital.But i still can't manage to make ends meet. We have better benefits than the other hospital and even the private hospital,yet I can't pay for everything with what I'm making there. working conditions are not good either.our ward is not airconditioned. and everything is so old and rotten, even the building itself. patients don't get to enjoy good facilities and fresh supplies...i feel so sorry for them. the very reason why i stopped working there is because i worked my way up really fast and some old nurses got jealous with me. I started out as a volunteer and put up with all the work even with out being paid a single dime. then i was hired as a casual employee..when my contract ended, and there happened to be a regular spot, i went for it, topped the panel interview, and topped in the performance rate which was provided by the hospital's head nurse....A lot of old nurses were very helpful and nice to me..there are just a few ones who can't help being jealous and I don't understand what it is there to be jealous about. it makes me cry how they post terrible noted on my reminder board.they come all the way from the other ward just to upset me.i went home crying one time...that was the worst.and I quit after that. then i took my fisrt few months of being unemployed as an opportunity to review for my internbational exams..which i passed. I guess God meant for me to pass them because he knows my intentions are good. i do hope, at the right time..i will get to work there.. it must be really great to finally meet you in person one day kitty!
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
29 Aug 09
Hello my wonderful friend Could you imagine we go from mylot to working together, lol just don't forget the little people when you are making all that money if I were you I would really look into it, then you can go home on vacation and show the nurses that gave you a hard time your pay stub that would really make them feel like crap for hurting you like that.I know I can be bad sometime lol What a wonderful compliment that is for you to compare me to your mom, I know how much respect you have for her so that means alot to me I am worthy and if we ever met you would see that for yourself. its really sad when you think about how things are done some places yet they are done totally different in others patients are patients and should all be treated the same, really sad.
@Wizzywig (7858)
16 Aug 09
You are obviously a wonderful caring person. Perhaps you could go back but do fewer hours. I know the underlying pressures will still be there but maybe the extra free time might help? About 18months ago, I needed a more reliable job than the one I had so went into healthcare - tho' I had vowed that I could never do that! I did a 2 week induction course which included one day each week on the ward. On my second day after that course, I stopped off at one of the major supermarkets to get an application form because it upset me so much to see people who had been independent all their lives, having to rely on others for such basic personal needs! I never got round to sending that form and would really miss the job if I had to leave. My jobtitle is 'Clinical Support Worker' - duties include attending to patients personal needs for bathing and toilet/bedpan/incontinence pads, bedmaking, serving meals, checking blood sugars/bodily specimens, cleaning equipment/furniture, feeding patients, answering the phone, filing, fetching and carrying between other departments & generally assisting both patients and medical staff in whatever way I can. Having come to this job quite late in my working life, I have no aspirations to train as a nurse. (I dont think I could handle the pressure of the responsibility that goes with the job.) I often find it frustrating trying to get the time management right. There are lots of tasks which need to be completed by a given time but, many patients just need someone to be with them, to listen and I find it almost impossible to just walk away. I dont think I'm great at this job but I work hard and do the best I can. You are so right about some patients treating you like crap... I have been called some really offensive names and often go home with bruises. I wish you well with whatever you do
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
16 Aug 09
Thank you so much, you also sound like a caring person, thank you for doing the job, this is not for everyone that I know, but its nice to know that you are trying and you obviously care since you said it's hard to walk away its really sad leaving them sometime, I have been doing this since 1989..I know I am meant to care for people in some form I have a very caring nature when I walk the street with my mom I am looking down to make sure she don't trip, or I hold her hand instinctively to help her on the side walk I miss the way I make my patients feel when I bathe them and clean their room, but I like what you said about the hours I use to work 12 hors that when I just sat with 1 patient that was a nightmare cause the staff did not want to give you a break, and if you were caught sleeping they would fire you on the spot, so I would get on the phone call the supervisor and explain I am entitled to my break how do you expect me too function without coffee sometime the supervisor herself will come to relieve me, the staff felt she is not doing anything but sitting with one patient but thats not true, that sitting with one patient can sometime be harder when they are difficult,my last job was home care which is something I didn't do often, but fewer hours is something I will do, I am sure I will go back, they need me, I have a gift and wasting my gift is not fair to all those patients that need me in their life,Thank you for your response keep me posted on how things are going with you, I will do the same.
@Wizzywig (7858)
18 Aug 09
I wrote a long response this morning but wasn't able to post it... I think you were treated very badly by the other staff when you were on the one-to-one care! We have 32 patients on our ward (currently 12 female and 20 male. When we are fully staffed we would usually have 5 qualified and 3 support staff on an early shift and 3 or 4 qualified and 2 support on a late (with fewer at night). If we have carers in, they will get their lunch break in the changeover period when both sets of staff overlap. We will always assist with washes and changes of their patient and, if we are not rushed off our feet 2 of us will do that whilst the carer takes a short break. They will be offered a hot drink each time the trolley goes round to patients (6 times a day) and we always tell them to ask if they need anything. We do have a few in who literally do nothing but sit beside the bed but,usually we can just work together for that patient. I hope things work out well for you
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
18 Aug 09
Now that is how things should be done, I don't think that you should have to do the patient care when they have someone with them, but everything else is great, sounds like you work for a great company, I was reading this with my mouth open like what/huh,they don't do that here, keep up the good work sweety, and I will be doing my part soon enough, you sound amazing I am proud of you, bless you, smoochess You know how I know your good, you never complain, I am sure you run into some people that complain about the work all day, yes sometime we need to vent , but when people do that all the time those are the lazy workers who should not be in the field to begin with, quick story I use to work in this nursing home upstate and we had 50 patients 2 sides of the floor, one day I was in my patient room doing something and I kept hearing the call bell going off, I am like why don't someone answer the bell, after a few minutes I come out of my patients room to walk to the other side only to see this aide sitting at the nurses station talking to the nurse, I said get up and answer that bell, she said wow I didn't realize, I went back to my patients room, could you imagine, Lazy is what she was, the shift was going to be over soon, so she figure she would sit on her butt and do nothing till time for her to go home, I think not.she never said anything smart because she knew I was right, and when your right people will respect you, most of the time, well you know in that field what could she say, no, she had no other choice I Was so mad, the nurse told me later she wish she was able to do that, I said me too, because its really not my place to tell my co-worker what to do.
@thea09 (18316)
• Greece
29 Aug 09
Hi Kitty, with all the experience you've gathered by now working in the field why not spend this free time to go back to your studies to become a nurse, if that's possible. I don't know whether or not they'd credit you with the studies you did previously but now with all the hospital time put in I'm sure you'd find them a breeze. That way you could recature your original dream of being a nurse which is obviously more than just a job to you but a vocation. We don't have any kind of system this this out here, the relatives have to look after the patients not the nurses and I don't believe we even have nurses aids, just nurses who come around and dole out meds and nasty injections.
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
29 Aug 09
Hello my friend Wow how different things are where you live, I thought about it, would really love too, maybe once I get back in the union I will look into, when I was in school I already had years of experience but for some reason things did not work out, maybe I needed a break I was burned out for sure, now I feel a little better we will see what happens in the near future. thanks for responding to this
@thea09 (18316)
• Greece
29 Aug 09
Hi Kitty, I'd say go for it if you get the chance, you really come across as a really warm enthusiastic person, the nurses out here could take a few tips from you.
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@Hatley (164237)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Aug 09
oh kitty 42 wow I knew you were a caring person so you were an nurses aide too. I worked most of my adult life as a nurses aide both in my home state and in Phoenix then here in Ca. I loved 'it as it justified for me my being here. i loved to take care'of p;eople and like you I was r eally good at it. I met my husband while working in StLukes in Phoenix a long time back. I am so glad that I stuck to that,I had flubbed up when i was 17 trying to take nurses training in a catholic school as i was not catholic but I went into nurse aide in stead and loved it for many years.Could you go back not into graduate nurse training but lvn training? anyway go back to nurses aid as its where you really belong. The last twenty years I couldnt lift so much so I took a job paging books and I also loved doing that as I was still in a way helping people.
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
3 Sep 09
Hello my friend Sorry it me so long to respond to this my friend Really nice to know we share the same field of work, I do love caring for people seeing their face when I am done is priceless nothing like being in the hospital already scared to be treated unfair by someone who hates their job I tell everyone if this is not what you really want to do, please do something else, I use to take this class since I am not working I only stayed because it was different and I had a chance to share my thoughts with different people well they had this woman come in from this health care agency paying people minimum wage to work home care with elderly people that made me so angry the only reason they did this was because these people were unemployed and they figured they would be desperate enough to take anything geez this woman although doing her job but how dare you why home care give them a job in food service not to take care of elderly people for minimum wage how good a job do you think they would do making little or no money, the way the older people are treated and the care these agencies send to them makes me sick, I started to do it but I know that was going so far back I would end up lost so I refused they called me all the time I said no not interested ughh, but how dare you, you should be ashamed of yourself why home care why, so sad, this is why I had to stop Hatley I am really good at this and my last patient was a nightmare I had to take a break I was burned out people say to me just do it its a job, no its not just a job this only shows me they have no idea the skills you must bestow in order to care for sick people, they really have no clue.I consider this a gift this skills comes natural to me.
@sacmom (14250)
• United States
20 Aug 09
I've never been a CNA, but my mom was one for about 13 years, I think. (I'd have to ask her how many years, just to be certain, but I'm pretty sure it was 13.) Being a nurse may be hard work, but I think being a CNA is so much harder with all that they have to do. At the company my mom worked for she had the option to advance, but wasn't interested in becoming an LVN, or pill pusher as she liked to call them. LOL I don't know how she did it, but she worked a lot of double shifts so she was always on her feet. My mom is no longer a CNA, but she still cares for an elderly lady. And here my mom is 68 years old. I guess you could say she is very dedicated to her work, even if she isn't a CNA anymore. Happy mylotting!
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
20 Aug 09
Bless your moms soul, it is really hard work, and yes some nurses make you feel that way about, they make so much money here in N.Y that seem for get about compassion and all those other quality that make for a good caregiver, not all, there are some that really cares about their work, and those are the nurse I have respect for,some nurses would not touch a patient without an aide there to assist them, The fact that your mom is still caring for the elderly at 68 make her one of the best, I am sure she has a wonderful person to care for, they are really close I bet, I had to stop for a while I was burned out, I work really hard and when you work hard you can get burned out really quick, but I hung in their for years, I use to work 12 hours per shift and there were some people that did that every day, when I got off work in the mornings my eyes use to be so red, my coworkers would say to me you look so tired, well duh I been up all night, you on the other hand look like you are ready to go to work, which only tells me you were sleeping all night instead of working.lol