How do we fit everything in.?

I have always heard a woman's work is never done & i believe that. I'm glad u don't have to work full time. I did when my children were home & i look back & wonder how i did as much as i did but felt a heck of alot better then than i do now.

I don't fit everything in. I need at least 36 hours a day fit in everything. I have four kids (oldest is 17 and youngest is 7), I am homeschooling my youngest as she had such a bad start at school, class breakdown, no discipline just the teacher shouting and the kids being rude, I don't want her learning that!! I have a tutoring busisness (I teach English at home). So between teaching my youngest, getting the others sorted for school, checking homework is done, study has been done for tests, teaching my students the housework gets done in bits and spurts. I wash dishes while I wait for the kettle to boil, fold laundry while lsitening to somebody read, do the dinner while figuring out my next lesson. Somedays I amaze myself other days I feel like an absolute failure!!!

We are still trying to fit it in because of traditional roles created so long ago that they don't apply anymore. It is true that women had the house chores all to themselves, as primary role, but that was when that was their only work. No working outside. And even so, with kids and all, I bet things would get behind sometimes. I guess if one wasn't a rebel at heart, it probably was ok at that time. However, once women started to have careers, being part of the work force outside the home, the housewife role should have changed as well.It didn't really work like that though. Women just added to the load. I guess we can say that things have been slowly changing - in some places more than others - and house chores are not only women chores. Team work is slowly replacing that. Whoever in the home that can do something and is available to do it, should do it, and with time everyone is helping - but the fight is fierce.Cultural and even religious aspects are an obstacle. Older women twitch their noses at it, men do the same - who wants extra work? - and sometimes even we become part of the problem. Ah... I can do that better! Oh I better do it myself... In my house whoever is home , has time and can do it, will do anything that is needed from vacuum duty, to sweeping, to do laundry etc. Often the one that does something better will do it - hubby for example is much better at ironing than myself, so if something needs ironing, which we avoid, he'll do it. He also does laundry more often that I do - I can't go downstairs with the baskets so he's usually the one that does it. We all cook, depending on who want to do it on that specific day or for that specific meal. Even the kids are good cooks, and take turns sometimes. But for us to reach this point, there was quite a fight, not within ourselves, but with my in laws. I was called way too many names to write in here, none flattering of course. Even at the time when I was working 4 part times and hubby only one full time, I was supposed to - in their view - do everything and just be ready with the slippers for him. It didn't help that we bought the house together with them, of course, but that's another story :):):)

Hi suzzy3, I ahven't any children but my hubby is worse an then any cheldren and I used to work full time then partime still did all the house work and hubby didn't help because he is working fulltime but now I have to stop work for health reasons and he had to do some house work that I can no loner manage, you spould hear him whing, lol. Tamara

Somehow we manage to get done the things that we need to no matter how much we have to do. As I look back on my life I am sometimes amazed at how much I was able to accomplish since it seems that now I can't manage even the simple things. There is an old saying that if you need something done right away ask a busy person to do it. The analogy is that a busy person knows the value of organization and starting early where the person with time on his hands always thinks he'll have time to do it later.

We just do it because we know that it has to be done. If we did not clean the house it would never get done and the laundry also. Many just have a schedule of things that need to be done and when to do them. We many not get much sleep but we do get all the chores done and still fine time to help the children and go to their school activities.

Hi suzzy, How are you dear? I am a working woman so I am holding double responsibilities. I have to look after my kids (I think you may know about me), house hold works etc I have to do lot of works in a day. Managing two kids (8 year old and 2 year old) is a tough task especially when they fight. If I give some consideration to the younger then elder may complaint you are caring only younger one. But when I am alone I think about those incidents I know I will lost these kind of enjoyment soon because they are growing fast.

I did it for 19 years and I can't answer your question! It was all I could do to keep the house clean, the clothes washed, the house repaired and looking good inside and out, the cooking, lunch-packing, playing with the kids, running them to games and stuff, etc., etc., etc. I think everyone suffers when moms go to work. If moms would stay home, every man would have a job and be able to support their families. At least, that's how the theory goes. We'd certainly have a healthier, happy generation of children!

There is certainly a lot to do every day and it seems there are always somethings that don't get done. I am a work at home mom now, I have a business that I run out of my home so I have to still tackle all the home chores, and run my business an take care of all of the needs of my 3 kids it certainly is a challenge and I almost never have time for myself. The one room in our house that does not get cleaned very often is our bedroom, I am too busy doing the rest of the house and our bedroom gets the least attention because nobody sees it. It does get clean, but not until all the other chores in the house are done, or until I can't stand it any longer and I have to clean it. it doesn't get that messy, but it does need a good dusting everyone once in a while and a good vacuuming.

I know what you mean, I'm a full time housewife, although we don't have any children, there still doesn't seem to be enough hours in the day to get everything done. I don't know how my grandma did it, she always had things in order and she was always able to take care of us and make sure we were never in need of anything.

I agree with you wholeheartedly! I stay at home and work part time writing from the house, I have only one child and I struggle to have enough time to myself! I have no idea how women who work full time do it. I consider myself very fortunate that I have been able to stay at home for as long as I have; my daughter is almost eight years old. The work around the house is never ending and I gave up a long time ago trying to finish it each day because it just doesn’t work like that. I do different chores each day and I don’t look around too much or I will drive myself insane; that’s the disadvantage of being at home all the time; you feel guilty if the house is not spotless, but I am getting over that feeling!

I have always maintained that house wives are the real herose of our society .They perform miracles with time and monye no man has ever been able to achieve .And yet their value is often underlooked .I can only imagine how weel women would if they were given a country to run and tehy run it as they do their homes,I think they would do really well.I say more power to housewives .My mother had a job and yet she was able to ake care of us and the home very well

My work never ends either. It is very fortunate that I work hours that are the same as when my children are in school. I leave a few minutes before they do in the morning and get home a few minutes before them too. I tell you what..it is exhausting.

i had to work around the clock to keep every thing done when i was married and the kids was home i worked full time i just never had any time for myself now that is all i have time for my self i sometime i wish i could go back to those day not to often tho

I am a housewife too, my husband works far from us but i still manage to take care of our two kids with the held of a housemaid. I do have part time job as an IT instructor to kill the boredom times doing nothing.