How old were you when you had your first child??
By vikkiz
@vikkiz (518)
October 16, 2009 5:28pm CST
I met my partner when i was 14, when we were 16 we moved in together and at 17 i had fallen pregnant!, I know it was the best of ages to have a baby but itss worked out well!, we both still work full time i have an amazing career due to juggling a baby,college,uni and a job all at once it was hard work but 5 years on we have an amazing family and an amazing home in a perfect area all down to are hard hard work!!! I would like to know how old you were when you had your first child and what sort of impact it had on your life!!!
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11 responses
@syankee525 (6249)
• United States
18 Oct 09
we were bless that we had lots of help from both side of the family. it was hard and i know it must be harder these days. i tell teens try to do the right things and wait but if it does happen i hope thier families will help them out
@vikkiz (518)
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18 Oct 09
My partners family didnt help out at all but i had lots of help with my side of the family, even to this day my mam will have my son overnight if we want a night together, not all the time but every couple of weeks we are garanteed a babysitter so its nice, I have some friends who dont even get the likes of babysitter for a couple of hours and they have their kids 24/7 they never get a break not even to sit and watch tv for a bit on their own!!, just makes me think how lucky i am
@vikkiz (518)
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15 Nov 09
I agree and i disagree, Obviously with me falling pregnant young it was a case of im having the baby and thats that!, hes 5 now and even though weve struggled weve done just fine.
Mind you i have been broody for another baby now for a good year but dont want to try yet with the credit crunch and so on.
So i see your point that as you get older you tend to plan and organise a lot more.
@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
i had my first child when i was 24 years old, i graduated college at that time and have work already. my husband was still pursuing his engineering degree by that time, and we are just glad that we have overcome our problems in terms of financially, emotionally and physically because we were not yet ready at that time.
@vikkiz (518)
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18 Oct 09
Same here we wernt ready either mentaly aswell as finacially!, but like you we overcame it aswell, It just annoys me that people like us can pull are socks up and work really hard to get everything to work out for the better whereas other people just sit on their backsides doing nothing getting free houses,cash etc etc, And on top of that even though they have nothing to do all day they still seem to not be able to bring their kids up properly???....its beyond me honestly!
@Bearballew (1148)
• United States
21 Oct 09
I was 26. It was a great time. I got to do the college thing and the work thing and get it out of the way for a family. I had my last child at almost 36. I wouldn't do it again! Too old. It was great for us. Wouldn't have done it sooner or later.
@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
20 Oct 09
I met my husband when we were both 18. But we didn't get married til our 30's. Our first child came when I was 36. And now at 41, we are expecting our second child. Yep, we're on the older side!
We're actually quite happy we started "late". We got to spend a lot of alone time as a couple . . . we graduated from college, went onto careers and achieved many goals independently. And now we can truly focus on family and I absolutely love family life! I have no regrets as I had a chance to fulfill most everything I wanted to do as a young adult.
@vikkiz (518)
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20 Oct 09
I actually have to agree with you as some older people have really young minds, I say this because even though i had a child very young my mother didnt.
She had me (im the eldest) at 30 then my sister at 36, She split with my father (good ridance to him) and met a lovely man who has done more for me than my real father has ever done! because he didnt have any kids my mother decided it wasnt fair him going his whole life without a child of his own and at the ripe old age of 46 she had my little brother who is now 7 and i adore him.
My mam is trendy and although sometimes my brother gets mistaken for my son, on the hand sometimes people mistake my son as my mams! I am best friends with my mother and im very glad she had my brother even though he was late haha!
We also help each other out alot if she needs a babysitter i have my brother overnight and vice versa with my son! I wouldnt have wanted it any other way!
@diddldonna (69)
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18 Oct 09
I met my husband when i was 16 and had my son just before my 19th Birthday, My son is now nearly 15 and for me it was the best choice to have children early as now i work full-time and have lots of energy for me and my husband to still enjoy life. It worked out really well for me but some people are not ready to have children then, like my friend who just didn't know how to be a parent.
@maximax8 (31042)
• United Kingdom
10 Mar 10
I met my ex-husband when I was twenty years old. I was backpacking around the world and he and I got chatting on a train in Queensland. When I came back to my home country he and I wrote letters to each other. He arrived in England and we decided to get married. We had a registry office wedding and then we enjoyed our honeymoon in Venice. I got pregnant. Our son was born when I was 22 years old. A few months later I turned 23 years old. Sadly six years after we married we got divorced. My son is now 14 years old.
At age 19 years old I bought my little cottage. I went to university and became a primary school teacher. I still managed to go off traveling. I am not in my late thirties. I also have a 2 year old son and an 8 month old daughter. You life worked out well for you after you had your baby.
@maximax8 (31042)
• United Kingdom
18 Oct 09
I bought my first house when I was 19 years old. I went traveling around the world when I was 20 and it was there that I met my ex-husband. He came to my home country and got married. I had my first baby when I was 22 years old. I still managed to study and travel. I got divorced six years later. I didn't expect I would have any more children but I was wrong. At age 34 years old I had my second son and he is disabled. He has spina bifida and hydrocephalus. He needs catheter care and he is unable to walk. When I was 36 years old I had my baby daughter and she is now 15 weeks old. Now I am 37 years old. I am a qualified primary school teacher and a keen traveler. I sold my first house when I was 33 years old. Now I live in my second house but soon I will have to see if I can move to a bungalow because of my disabled son.
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Mar 10
Old enough to be your mother. Almost 39 when I had my oldest, 42 when I had my twins. A huge impact, of course.
@doormouse (4599)
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17 Oct 09
i met my ex husband at 16 and had my first baby with him at 17,then my second at 19,then i had a baby with someone else at 22,the first 2 babies were planed coz i'd always wanted children young,so when they left home i would still be young enough to do what i wanted with my life,it was a lot easier than i thought having kids so young
@vikkiz (518)
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17 Oct 09
Wow im so happy to hear another young mum telling me how well they did and how easy it was, the downfall in my area is so many kids fall pregnant on a one night stand or with someone they just dont care about then their kids are taken away because they dont care!!! Its nice to know im not the only young mum who takes things seriously!
@iamamommy (163)
• United States
9 Mar 10
I met my hubby when I was 15. I got pregnant when I was 17, now I am 18. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me I wouldnt trade her for the world. Shes my life and I thank god everyday for her. Shes my little blessing.
