Trust issues

If you don't trust anyone then it really has nothing to do with your friend and has everything to do with you. It can be very scary but starting from the universal sense is the best way to salvage your friendship. The problem is that talking to your friend about it requires a certain amount of trust in them. If you can muster this much trust then you have a great place to start the conversation. First, ask for some time to talk to your friend about something you haven't really talked to other people about. While this isn't exactly true since you are talking online about it, it is important to realize the difference between online and in person communication. Second, start by telling them how hard this is for you to talk about. Friends are always more sensitive when they know that they are being trusted with something difficult. Third, discuss your generic trust issues. Talk about how you don't trust anyone and why this is the case. Fourth and finally, as sensitively as you can, break the news that there are limits on your trust of even them. Emphasize that you are not saying this to hurt them but because you haven't been able to talk about this with friends because you are scared. Trusting friends enough to have this conversation is a great place to start in learning how to build trust. Trust is rarely an all-or-nothing sort of deal. You can build it slowly. It requires one tiny courageous act after another but it is possible. Trust can also be broken down into tiny pieces. I have friends that I would trust with my life, but not with my money or a secret. It sounds strange but it is good to question the trust you give people and be intentional about it. I am also guilty of not trusting enough. It takes time and practice but it is possible.

How can you ever solve the problem unless you get it out in the open??? Communication is something you both need. Sure, there will be some Drama but there will be resolution as well. Don't you want a friend that you can tell anything too. Gotta be one first!! Bring love and kindness with you and it will all work out. If we go through life walking on eggshells worrying about hurting everyone's feelings, we would just never get out of bed and stay under the covers. That is no life!! Solve the problem!!!!

I think not trusting a friend is like he or she is not considered a friend but just an ordinary person around your surrounding. You can not say that he or she is your friend if you do not trust him or her. So if you think that you don't like him or her as a friend then go directly straight towards him or her and tell the truth.