I finally had a good clear out.

oh my gosh Wizzywig when I read your comment I almost spewed water all over my keyboard, then I reread her title and finally 'got the reference. syrup of figs indeed. I have the same problem pressing the deny button

Hi wizzywig and Hatley of course - what on earth are you on about with syrup of figs? One of our great delicacies here are figs preserved in syrup, very pricey too unless one makes one own. The syrup is so sickly sweet it would glue your teeth togther. When I first joined i wondered if something bad would happen if I pressed delete but nothing has. Away and attend immediately to the attention your delete button demands.

Hatley and Wizzy....I am laughing at your first assumption at Thea's title..lolol..You both are quicker and catching on to things more than I...lol When I saw it, I immediately started reading the first line that appears, and I knew right away what she meant. But the first assumption is good...we do need a good 'clearing' out once in awhile...lol

Hi Lina, I used to wait until they had 100 posts to check but now I'm not that nice though it does seem as if not giving people a chance but I work on the assumption that if they are new and I have never seen them then at least they could respond first to make themselves known. Anyway you were an exception to my own rule as it was such a pleasure to discover you and find a genuine serial killer in the making. I can recommend people you may hit it off with but it's still your choice if you would or not. You have been much more restrained than I was in the beginning and it will pay off as you'll have less culling to do, or in your case making mummies of them all. A good interactive member is a true find and I'm most glad I snapped you up before you became too popular to turn me down.

Thea, trust me, I was never more amazed than to find individuals wanting to know what to do with blood stains and bodies! lol. I have the recommendations and slowly going to ask the individuals but I wanted to make sure that I responded to them on a discussion so that they knew who I was. I'm just cautious (it's a good trait for a serial killer). By the way, I meant to tell you that my sister has a bread machine and when you posted your discussion about it, I had asked my sister your questions whether it was all it was said to be. I meant to go back and comment and then you went and bought a bread machine. Anyway, I decided that I would try it out and I made a chocolate chip country white bread. It was delicious but over night it became chewy, the leftovers. I guess one would hope there wouldn't be any but it couldn't be helped, the timing of when I made it was not a good time to eat chocolate chip bread for the kids.

Good advice Thea, as I have over-worked my jaws in trying to consume the leftovers and my sister came down the stairs and said the same thing you said, "You should have toasted the bread". Not quite the sharpest pencil in the pencil box in the mornings without the usual intake of caffine, my response was, "Oh, Thea from mylot wrote the same thing." Lots of head shaking in the mornings here.

Hi Hatley, well I'm certainly glad I requested you and you didn't turn me away but I do prefer to request. Usually too if I do request I go into a few of their discussions too, others one just recognises right away as friends in the making. I think keeping it limited is best as that way you know something about the person you're interacting with. I feel I know a little about you and your son, the retirement centre and ROOMIE, who provides the most amusement for me in your discussions. I really really think you should recommend roomie to join mylot and she must request me straight away. I have one of my first friends here now who has disappeared and I worry as he was getting quite ill but I'll keep him up there but have absolutely no way of knowing what's happened to him as I was the only person he pm'd with, being the quiet sort.

It's attitude not age Alice. Some of the brightest sparks on here are very young but full of knowledge and Hatley is a gem at whatever age. But spare me the ones who expect me to chat about nail varnish or the latest pop group.

Which is why I never ever respond to any of your many many discussions about nail varnish, favourite colour of nail varnish, what do you paint with your nail varnish, 101 uses for your favourite coloured nail varnish

i DON'T LET EVERYBODY IN. sO MANY THAT I DO I NEVER HEAR A WORD FROM. i DON'T HEAR FROM ALOT OF PEOPLE I USE TO. dON'T EVEN SEE THEM ON HERE ANYMORE.i NEED TO DO A CLEANING OUT TO, HAVEN'T DONE THAT IN AWHILE. wHY WERE U HESITANT ABOUT ME & MY POSTS?? tHE KIDS AREN'T COMING TILL LATER. WE AREN'T EATING TILL FIVE. I'M ABOUT POOPED, LOL.

P.S. NO, THE MEN I WAS TALKING ABOUT ARE NOT FROM GREECE. i THINK U ARE THE ONLY ONE I TALK TO FROM GREECE. u mentioned the man w/the cig. he was the one that was worrying the stew out of me. don't know whether u remember or not but i wrote a discussion about him, WHAT A JERK.

Yassou Aunty, as I said to Hatley age is an attitude and people get on despite ages. You were the one I was wary about asking for, you had so many posts I thought you'd turn me down but now I discover you let most people in. Bossy overbearing men, well you're definitely not turning any Greek ones down then, they are teddy bears. I am fortunate in that the men I would turn down from a certain place are not to my knowledge, represented at all on mylot. Have you had a good day with Ryan?

Hi Cynthiann, I was talking about the ones who pend rather than the ones who are already there if you get me, the ones which appear in your want to be friends box who you've never seen before. I don't know where you heard that deleting people has a bearing on earnings, definitely not, if they sit there without notifications on then the only place you'll see them is in the friends started list. Which you will anyway as you don't get notifications. That must be a real nuisance, I get some but not all. I don't like anyone who gets aggressive at all in any subject, there's no need for it at all.

Hi Vandana, what's selfish about any of that. Oops forgot to include you in the green waving man friends. Are you ever going to get adventurous and put an avatar on my dear? So is your waiting box nice and empty or is full of people you don't know what to do with. I'd don't have you down as the rejecting people type willingly but you could be more ruthless than you appear.

Wow, thea you have judged me so correctly. :) I have only refused one person so far. I have 9 pages full of friends. And I am not discarding. I never know who is going to return and turn out to be somebody who is a good friend material. Once I remove their names from the list, they cant possibly become my friends again. What a miss that would be for me. :)

And as to the green waving man, I think it is white waving man. LOL. May be something is wrong with my eyesight. :) Jokes apart, I dont know how to do that. May be I should trouble Alice once again. :) See, I told you, I am terribly selfish, isn't it? :)

I remember why I asked for your friendship too. It was a discussion about how many responses one of our mutual friends of that time was getting for "silly topics", and we both declared against his remarks. My advice would be to buy other books, as there are many topics in this world much more interesting than Romanian life style or traditions along the ages. I too find some of the old traditions and superstitions very interesting, and maybe it's just because I live here and I am repulsed by many other negative features of the Romanian society that I think other cultures are more interesting... There is no transition from old to new there's just an invasion of new stuff without a firm base of what should support that modernity. For example, there shouldn't be so many pets around (even if they are better as recipients) if there are no facilities to recycle pets. That's how you have plastic everywhere. Many of the people that still live the old life, by the old ways, don't necessarily do it because they choose to. Most of them are forced to live a more rustic life because they cannot afford another life. There are many very poor people that are forced to work their land by manual labor (using horse- or cattle-pulled plows and such) because they can't afford paying someone with a tractor even if it's more efficient. I don't know about the old ways of life disappearing in the next decades. There is no sign of the life quality improving, so my guess is the old people will be teaching plowing and hand-seeding to their sons for years to come.

We met by chance Stvasile and I remember it well, if I'd looked at your football postings we may not have done as you'd have thrown me out. A lot of people do take anyone though and I've been accused of snobbery in the past by being a little fussy. I find your posts uniquely fascinating though and when I can start looking for books again, my sorely missed indulgence, top of the list will be any autobiographical accounts of living in Romania, both before and after, but I'd like to find somethings which start pre 1940, as I find the changes from the very tradtional ways of centuries old life to now really interesting. I say Greece is in a time warp and my impression that Romania is still a little more behind than Greece. You should head up to the mountains while you have the chance and pen some of those ways of traditional life as they'll probably disappear within the next few decades.

Hi spartan, I dont really get chance to cross swords with you. :) May be you are terrified of a defeat in the hands of an old lady. . Kidding. :) .

I'm afraid that is part of my old nature which refuses to die. I always hesitate to request a friendship because I feel they wouldn't want me. If they request me, I know I am wanted. Silly, I know, but that is me.

Hi Cloud, you do indeed follow the same pattern as Sandra and I but I do request friends when I find people I think I'll hit it off with. I prefer to do it that way. That's the point though that you make, we don't need to be able to agree on everything but at least be polite about it. I avoid anyone confrontational unless I'm sticking up for someone. I'd say if there's people out there you want on your friends list just ask.

Oh well, I can hardly ever remember if I was requested or if I requested, but I must have requested you so you can feel wanted.

It took one hour for this comment to arrive in my mail and I am noticing that others have not arrived at all today The pending ones remain pending until they either prove they are here for some purpose other than spamming or become blank profiles too. In those cases I either accept or delete. By blank profiles I mean those where the page is white and the user has either cancelled or been banned, the latter being the case in most of those which I removed yesterday

You mean waving green men.

It's the same every evening here mys, no alerts at all. I've just been out for an hour and had no alerts until now, but each evening I've been unable to open comments from alerts, but they are ok during the day. Very irritating. When I started this the pending friends was zero in about the first time ever and now it's back to 4, I haven't looked to see if any of them were the previously deleted ones. So your blank profiles have been banned? It never works when I ask.

Real coffee, cool. :-)

Well I've no idea how you got through my rigorous test system with your constant brownie scam. Of course your coffee scam was most excellent until you revealed the horror of coffee bags yesterday, just the thought of it is sending me off to make a brik of Gutemalean stuff as I type. Having a break from Greek today. Fancy a brik full Dawn?

Definitely a plus!

Well, that's true about books. You should see my collection! I do love curling up with a good book when it's dreary outside, raining or snowing. I learned website design from a book. I think I found that easier than I would have by learning from an instructor, since I only looked up what I needed at that moment from the book which made it all sink into this old brain faster. If I had an instructor, I probably would have suffered from brain overload. (That happens a lot these days. ) However, I asked about the best mattress awhile back and got some excellent responses. Each mattress manufacture will swear they have the best mattress for everyone but I've learned that's not true. A member here told me about the Sleep Number mattress since he has first-hand knowledge. It seemed logical so I'm glad I bumped into that particular member. Yep, I remember talking about goats. If you ever do need advice on how to go about it, don't hesitate to ask. I doubt they are much different than deer. I hear they're all the same on the inside. My son is slinking around here. I haven't seen him much, either. I think he's more into commenting to others' discussions than creating new ones right now. I'm sure he'll be popping up more often as he gets the feel of myLot.

Well at least with the cold weather the goat wouldn't smell as bad in the back of the car.

Hi Sandra - spooky. It's funny how when we met we both had small lists and they have grown over time by being picky. I was shouted at in one discussion by a guy who said it was snobbery to not accept everyone but it would just be unmanageable as we wouldn't have any idea who anyone was. We do have the same criteria too and no doubt a few of the same friends. I am, to say the least, worried about our swoon avatar as he did say if he couldn't get on he would keep the pm bit open to let me know how he was but I've heard not a word now for ages and worry the worst. We've discovered quite a few spooky interests, though you have a rather peculiar one you can keep to yourself. I've paricularly enjoyed your barbecue recipes lately for great interactive fun. And I was delighted to find a little comment the other day you'd left on one of the bunnies discussions.

Are we allowed to say that Sandra, of course we are. You were a huge hit when we first went interactive with bunny on the everyone complains about something, we must do another one soon. Yes we do have a lot of spooky moments and you were my first friend on here. It's like I said to Alice thought the other week we know that when we do our culls the other will still remain, we don't need to run off and check. I do less culling these days but it takes time to tweak it all just right, I find it much easier to delete those pending than those already sat there.

Hi Sandra, safe to assume that serial killing is common enough of a connection (smile)?

Hi Artistry, well we all have our own approaches but by rejecting a request one isn't rejecting interacting with them generally on the boards. Also as I've said I don't want pm access open to all. I did presume though that everyone was hit by a mutlitude of requests each week which I've found from this discussion is not actually the case.

That is probably down to being polite enough to always reply I would think. A very simple touch which creates mutual respect.

...Hi again thea, No, I think you are very popular and that is why you have such a multitude of requests. Enjoy, take care.

Hi bounce, I think it's best to let your pages grow slowly and never be afraid of deleting the ones you don't meet up with. Some of mine have been there from the beginning and some I discover week by week but I always stick to the basic rule I made. If they are new and have hundreds of friends I'm suspicious, and do they answer all of their own discussions, as that shows good manners. I like people who can discuss without shouting and disagree without falling out. It's really pretty much the same as in real life. A friend left yesterday who will be missed but I'm keeping him up there in the hope he returns refreshed.

Makes sense. I warned you! Now, I am going to send out a friend request. Don't worry, I am willing to sit this one out until you decide I am worthy. In the meantime, I'll just keep getting mesmerized by your avatar.

Is that a v that's moving?

Hi jenny, that explains why we only bumped into each other last week if you've been inactive so long. I would think that if you have 85 old pending requests most of them can be deleted without a thought as most probably they aren't even here or would have removed their request by now.

I forgot to say I did the first trial of not basic bread yesterday and followed a recipe from the instruction book but I did play around with it a little. I added twice as many raisins as it said to compensate for the weight of nuts I didn't want and triple the seasoning level with lots of allspice. It was wonderful. Also the book had a potato bread recipe which was pretty much like the other one so I think as long as the weights balance I'll try it.

..and they get deleted too. reminds me of what my grandma used to say-"if everyone jumped off a bridge,would you too?" LOL

Hi scarlet, well there's so many doing things that they aren't supposed to be doing that they are usually quite spottable whilst pending before being deleted. I was quite shocked to see someone actually on my friends list openly doing it on his discussion a few weeks back though, set up a discussion about the postal service then responded to everyone who responded by sending them a link to some card business he was involved in. When advised that this is a no no he had a rant that everyone else does it.

That's fair enough...I don't expect my friends to respond to my discussions as I only respond to the discussions that interest me or that I know about :) I love making friends from all pver the world & I think that stems from having snail mail pals since I was a kid...I even had a Greek pan pal once :)

Moonchild, I answered you earlier and the response went poof and disappeared. I won't be joining you in your sites discussions but I do like the mix of having friends in the Australian time zone, even if your avatar does remind me of the Waltons. They had a car just like yours. I'm the opposite to you, I rarely accept anyone but request sometimes.

Hi Zed, I'm must sad you've decided not to turn into Goran, but promise me you'll at least stay male or as an object, I don't get the men posing as glamorous women. It was a relief but it didn't last long as the requests seep in again which means this discussion hasn't been part of their mylotting. Yes we both go for interactive sorts and have quite a few friends in common as well. Hope you find the mylotter you seek, why not go back to one of your really old threads and see if you can find her that way.

I think I did pm her once but no respond. I think she might not be active anymore.. :( .. never-mind, hopefully she comes back here again and be active in the lot again.

Hi Ronnyb, some people have no problem accepting everyone but if you do don't be suprised when you get pms full of scammers or spammers, an inbox full of tedious discussions about things which bore you rigid, and people you'll never ever come across again. For me I prefer to have friends I interact with regularly who have similar interests. I don't understand it when people I've never met on the boards send a request as we may not get on well at all. In a way it's like having acquaintances, the ones we meet here who don't go on lists, and the ones which do go on and grow as freinds over time.

Hi dorannmwin, we sound similar in approach then, but I no longer wait until 100 posts. If someone is new and requests the request means nothing if you never see them again. I think Lina has an excellent approach from the other side, if she sees someone she would like to befriend she may be hesitant to ask as not known to them so makes a point of responding to a few discussions first, that way when the request is put in one is already used to seeing the person requesting. That makes sense to me and in those cases I only need to check to see that they respond to their own discussions.