Please keep my Friend in your Thoughts

By Gabs
@gabs8513 (48710)
United Kingdom
February 23, 2010 1:49am CST
I have been writing about all the Carry on with my moving, with Gissi being so sick, me being sick and the Stress that is really getting to me Well, I have a wonderful Friend, who is going through so much more then me, who is not well at all with the emotional and physical Stress she is going through right now, my Problems are nothing compared to this Sweet Friends Problems Her Furbaby is dying of Cancer, he only has about 2 months left to live and I know what she is going through there which no doubt others can feel for her to, also her Grandmother is dying, she has so much to deal with I know our Fur Babies only stay with us for so long but it is still heart breaking, I have lost 5 Dogs in my Life, and believe me it seems it gets harder to let them go each time So please everybody keep my Friend, who I love dearly, in your thoughts, send her strength and Love I will not say her Name as she is a Member here and I really wish I was much closer to her as I would put everything on hold to be with her but I can only send her my love and Strength through the Internet and I really hope she feels it To make this a Discussion Do you sometimes feel selfish because there is a Friend who is going through a lot worse then you???
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
23 Feb 10
I never take my own problems seriously enough...............lol I now the friend you mean Gabs, and she knows my thoughts, prayers and love are with her. I have a candle lit for her and send her positive energy every day. I so feel for her and her furbaby and her gran. Sometimes life just sucks you know, but we have to keep our heads up, our hearts open and our love flowing. It's the only way to get through sometimes......Thanks for reminding me.
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 10
Yes we do and I know that is something that you always do I knew that you would know who I am talking about, I hurt so much for her, but she knows my Love and Strength is with her to and always will be She knows we will be here when she needs us
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Feb 10
She is in my thoughts... And yeah, when I get all grumpy about some crappy thing that is going on in my life, I often think of people who have it worse off, slap myself, call myself a whiner and move on...
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 10
I think I might just take a Lesson from you there Dawn
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Feb 10
It doesn't always work but often it does!
23 Feb 10
both you and Gissi and also your dear friend and her furbaby are in my thoughts. I have had a lot of problems and troubles in my life, and both me and my son both had cancer. BUT we are both here to tell the tale, plus we had excellent hospital treatment. There are always people worse off than ourselves,so like all the other Mylotters, I am sending strength and positive thoughts to you all xx
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 10
Thank you Margery and I did not know that, I am so glad that you are here to tell the Tale I really am Much Love and Hugs to you
11 Mar 10
this is so ironic, but sadly I had to have one of my 3 remaining cats put to sleep last week. When i posted the above comment, and i had been told that one of my cats had been diagnosed with liver cancer and she would be gone in less that 3 weeks from that posting, i would have laughed with total disbelief. But my darling tux has now gone. She is out of her pain and gone over the rainbow bridge with all my other dearly loved pets. love to all who are mourning their pets xx
@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
23 Feb 10
I think if we all would take the time to look around we can always find sometime alot worse off than we are. hope u & your friend feel better.
@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
23 Feb 10
I suppose so Lady but it is awful that you I did not see this till after
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@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
23 Feb 10
dON'T BLAME YOURSELF. wE CAN'T SEE & DO EVERYTHING.
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@lingli_78 (12836)
• Australia
23 Feb 10
hi gabs... so sorry to hear about what is happening to your friend... she surely had lots of things happening to her... i will keep her in my prayer and hopefully God will give her the strength and courage that she needed to go through this difficult time... please send my best regards to your friend as well... take care and have a nice day...
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 10
I will lingli and I am sure she will appreciate that Hugs to you
@BarBaraPrz (24633)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
23 Feb 10
One of my favorite sayings is, "Cheer up, it can only get worse...", which usually gets a smile out of the person I say it to. No matter how bad we have it, there's always somebody who has it worse. Good luck and best wishes to you both.
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 10
You are so right Bar
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• United States
23 Feb 10
No I do not think I (or anyone else) should feel that they are being selfish! I feel the pain they feel, I have compassion for them because I DO understand what they are going through. How could anyone feel they are being selfish just because it is not happening in their own life at this time. In my lifetime I have loved and lost 11 dogs and 7 cats and it never gets easier. I just think of they joy they have brought me. I should also include 2 birds(budgies), 2 hamsters and assorted white mice which saddened me but never the pain suffered at the lost of one of my beloved dogs or cats. So again never feel selfish! My compassion goes out to your friend at this sad and painful time of her life.
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 10
Thank you Heather I think we both know it never gets any easier if anything it gets harder
@enola1692 (3325)
• United States
25 Feb 10
tell your friend she will be in my thoughts an prayers sadly I know what its like to lose a furbaby Nikkie was my saimse cat that I had 21 years an broke my heart when he left us so will lite a candle for her an keep her in my thoughts
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
25 Feb 10
Thank you Sweetie and I shall let her know Thank you for thinking of her Yes it is hard when we loose them I have to lost many and it is always as hard when they go
@enola1692 (3325)
• United States
27 Feb 10
i know I lost one to many myself it leaves a hole in your heart an what kills me s like when nikkie my cat of 21 years passed everyone was like you need to get a replacement how do you replace your baby but you know where i am comming from
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
23 Feb 10
Now we each have own individual problems and who decides if theirs is worse than ours? I know you have Gissi who is ill and so are you and your friend is in her own crisis, but we find strength to deal with all these problems. Whether you believe in the power of prayer or sending energies, we all cope and let time take its toll. Just love your freind by note or talk and we all on mylot will be sending our stregths to her and you too. God bless.
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 10
Thank you Quita and I have to agree with you there but it still makes us feel bad though How have your Friends got on who was having the OP on the 19th have you had any News on that, did it go well????
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
24 Feb 10
HMM? I sent out a discussion on my friend who had a biop done and it came back negative! The dr call her a mystery woman :) All is well here today. I get to go to a baseball game of my oldest grandson, Derek today at 3:30 !!! I just hope the weather holds. It's supposed to start raining and then freeze and I have to take hubby to the VA tomorrow so it's not going to be a fun trip. Anyway, got to get moving. Many things to do before the game. hugs, quita
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
23 Feb 10
Sending prayers and energies to this person may every thing work out for her soon hugssss and blessings
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 10
Thank you Joan and I know she will appreciate it and I really hope this gives her Strength
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
24 Feb 10
your welcome and I so hope so too
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
24 Feb 10
I know what it can feel like...You get wrapped up in your own problems and you don’t consider that someone else may be going through worse until you come across that person and you realise it. It’s normal to be like that, we all do it, but writing a discussion like this one shows that you are a caring person and you have reminded us all to consider that no matter what we may be going through there are others with problems as well. I will say a prayer for your friend and I hope she feels better soon, it is not an easy thing to go through to lose a beloved friend furry or not and a loved one...
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 10
Thank you Paula as she needs as much Strength and caring that she can get right now I love her to bits she is a lovely Friend and a lovely Person and I feel for her I really do
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@LadyMarissa (12160)
• United States
23 Feb 10
Prayers said for your friend, her furbaby & grandmotther. I do hope things get better for her & YOU!!! While I was praying, I hope you don't mind that I added you & Gissi to my prayers once again!!! I hope your move goes smoothly & without any disasters. I also hope Gissi takes to his new home as he should & not give you much trouble!!! (yeah right)
@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 10
Hi LadyM I really don't mind it is so good of you and my Friend will take Strength from everyone here and she needs it so much from us all A few more Days and of I go lol as for not to much trouble from little Man no comment Hugs to you from both of us
@abbey19 (3129)
• Gold Coast, Australia
23 Feb 10
Yes Gaby, because you are one of those friends. I have often wished that I lived closer to you so that I could give you my support both with your own problems, and Gissi's. You have been to hell and back - and got through it all, but I would have liked to have been able to physically help you. I have another friend here who is going through a lot at the moment; we live a long way from each other, but we drove down to see her last week (a 4 hour drive, and we took Poppy of course), and stayed with her for a few days. She said our visit meant a lot to her, and it lifted her spirits; when we left she said she felt more positive and more able to deal with things.
@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 10
Hi Abbey That was so good of you to stay with her and I bet it has made things easier it always does when you know you have a Friends support Don't worry about me I will get through it at the moment it seems hard specially as I had to call the Nurse yesterday and found out I have an Infection again but I will fight on, it is only a few Days and I will be moved then I can concentrate on my little Man more he is back to his normal self but still chokes, coughs and that but not as much as he was Big Hugs to you and good luck on your Move Love to you Paul and Poppy from Gissi and me xxx
23 Feb 10
Hi Gabs, This is so destressing for her and when she told me I just sat and cried, she is such a loving lady and its not fair that all this is happening, but we just have to pray and send her healing so she can at least cope, also sending all the healing and love to her grandmother and he furbaby, love and hugs. Tamara xxxx
@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 10
I know Sweetie, all we can do is send her Love and Strength and let her know we are here always for her xxx
@Pose123 (21662)
• Canada
23 Feb 10
Hi gabs, I will keep your friend in my thoughts and I couldn't agree more about feeling selfish. I too have friends who are having a much harder time than I've ever had. It's always best to be grateful for life no matter what it brings. Blessings.
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 10
I agree Pose But I guess at times it hits us all and then something opens our Eyes and says, get on with it and be thankful
23 Feb 10
I have recently been wallowing in self-pity, mainly due to a dreadful financial position and health issues combined with the stress of organising a wedding. However, I heard from a friend who is in a pretty bad state too and it made be feel awful that I hadn't been in touch with her sooner. Yes, now I do feel bad that I was so busy feeling sorry for myself.
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 10
I know what you mean Recycle My Friend only got the bad the News a couple of weeks ago and it made me cry as I know how it is on her and her fur Baby
@AmbiePam (51158)
• United States
23 Feb 10
I will definitely pray for them.
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 10
Thank you Ambie
@ElicBxn (61063)
• United States
23 Feb 10
I feel bad and what to do what I can when someone I care about is going thru a trying time, not selfish, but helpless and just a tiny bit grateful that it isn't happening to me, but wishing some of the load could've been passed on to me
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
23 Feb 10
Yes Elic that is what I wish to I just wish I could be there with her
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