When being scolded, do you try to reason out?

I always reasoned it out, whether it was my fault or not. But these days, i just walk away. I don't have the patients for such things these days. Maybe i am just getting too old for this, who knows. But if you stand up for yourself, good for you.

I have this problem of having a high pride at times that I really don't want to be scolded especially infront of other people and friends or peers so I tend to reason out or get irritated. I find this inconvenient though because at times it develops into heated arguments and ends in a not so well-to-do situation, then I'd be feeling sorry and bad for everything wishing I just kept my cool. I do try to control myself now and just be mature about it.

I tend to quite down to prevent further humiliation. I hate being scolded in front of others. I have made sure that if people have issues with me they deal with me privately. Not in public. It's darn embarrassing. But in the event it happens, I just dont' say or do anything to get the person to stop sooner than later.

i will get scoldings at times but not in front of many people . my parents will scold for certain things . and i wont mind them and in a few minutes they will stop scolding . in some situations i will argue that i did that for some reasons and in most of the times the mistake will be on my side and have to accept it . i wont blame others on most of the occassions

I reason out right after the person I'm talking to stops talking. I do it in a very polite manner so that eventually the matter is settled professionally. If I made a mistake, I openly admit it and make assurance that I will do my utmost for it not to happen again. If it is somebody else's fault, I just give facts on the situation so that the agrieved person will not be offended or will not think I am attacking him just for the sake of pointing blame. You cannot go wrong with facts so use them and air them in the most professional manner so that you gain the respect of everyone around you.

Hi well i accept being scolded in front of others is something really hurting us and our dignity. I am sensitive so i rather cry though not in front of others, rather lonely. But it also matters who scolds..if its my close friends or my parents, i will accept it. But if its third person, not important, i would rather yell them out and get the reason and prove am not supposed to be scolded.

Yes, I have been through this many times... Sometimes, it was my fault; sometimes I was targeted just because they didn't find anyone else to scold. And most of the times, I was scolded by my parents only.... Yes, I felt ashamed of myself at such instances. My parents have often beaten me publicly. I would feel so embarrassed in those times that I would not dare to leave my rooms for many days... It took me a long time to learn that every time it wasn't necessarily my mistake. And it took a little more time to understand that elders could also make mistakes. I trust I understood such things too late. It has ruined a lot many years of my life. Frequent scoldings and criticisms can harm one's self respect, I just read somewhere. Mine is somewhat damaged, I am sure! At present, if it is my mistake then I listen to the scolder and let him/her pour out all their anger. Once they have done that (which cools them a little), I apologize and promise to set it right. What else can one do? Oh but if it isn't my mistake, then I wouldn't stand there listening and feeling humiliated. The best way is to make the scolder say 'sorry'. How? Oh, simple! Listen to them, let them cool down and meanwhile keep your temper down. Then show them plainly that it is not your mistake... The scolder feels ashamed and says sorry... LOL... Try it!!! It works... Happy lotting...

well,.. usually, i try to wriggle out of it if its my own fault.. i would just play the blame game on someone else and escape the firing squad.. but if its something I didn't do and someone else did, say a friend, and it is something with which I could live, then I don't protest... i keep silent thinking.. I've already got all the heat.. now there is no point in making my friend face it also. lets just forget it and get on with our life... you would think that's like such a contradiction.. but that's happened few times with me.. happy mylotting..:)

i feel very bad to get scolded in front of anyone, be it my fault or not i just don't like it, i can take them alone personally but not in front of anyone, i am ashamed of it and darn it could make me quite angry if the fault isn't mine and i am being treated like that in front of others, obviously if we won't try to argue others will think it was your fault and so i guess i would try to fight my stand, i don't want others to think i could something that i am not actually guilty of. and i don't like to blame on others either, i can accept my fault and face the scolding when i know it's my fault.. good day.

if someone scolded me, i just ignore it and laugh on it instead so they will feel that im not affected. not unless they will hurt me physically, if so then thats the only time i will do something to show them im not an easy kind of girl to scold with. coz if we show that we are scare to them they have more guts to scold us as its their way of having fun with others.

AS far as I am concerned, if I was scolded wrongly, I think I maybe try my best to give me the preper disposal,which I will get my heart more comfortable. But sometimes, I will set it aside even though I was scolded by mistake,for the reason out has little help to deal with the problems. So I think I may just leave it away, and do not go to think about it.

Hi reco, It depends on the situation. Just like you, if it's my fault, I'll just accept the scoldings coz I deserve it. But if it's not, I try to reason out and voice my opinions and fight for my right. I would never blame others for my fault.

sometimes, people doesnt want to accept reasons. when i feel like im right, ihave to reason out. well, in such manner that he's also offended. As i've said, there are people who doesnt accept reasoning.

definitely i will try to squeeze my way out of being scolded...but nowadays i havent been scolded anymore i guess because i am already grown ups... i cant think what are the reason for grown ups to be scolded ( except by wife, which i dont have yet).... and i think it is human nature to find a way out of a scolded.. even by admitting their fault..

I'm not the type who can easily accept defeat. I would like to rationalize first. I also think if there's a point in answering back. Of course I like to defend myself as well. If I'm being scolded in front of the public then it means for me that the person has no respect over me to be able to humiliate me just like that. If that happens, of course I would try to avenge myself by showing the person that he/she doesn't deserve my respect as well.