My day has been made!

By Jess
@JJ4Ever (4693)
United States
April 12, 2010 8:24pm CST
A good friend of mine now works for the same company (same building, same floor) as me, and she absolutely made my day this morning! She picked up a coffee and Danish from Starbucks for me for breakfast. I was so excited! It was so sweet of her. She is just such a thoughtful person. I'm thankful for her, but I was also thinking about how I treat other people. I'm thinking I should probably do the same for her one of these days that we get to the office at the same time. What do you think? Do you like to brighten people's days by doing nice things for them like what my friend did for me this morning? I try to be a kind and thoughtful person, but I just don't think of doing things like this for people. Then when friends do this stuff for me, I feel like I owe them. I know I don't really "owe" them, but for the sake of our friendship, I know they would want the same thing done for them because that is the way it goes. What do you think? Do you go out of your way to make sure your friends have a great day? Are you thoughtful? What kinds of things do you do for your friends? Hopefully I can get some good ideas and also become more proactive when it comes to thinking of my friends. I'm trying to become better at that!
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
13 Apr 10
I love to make my loved ones feel special. I would pick up little things like chocolates, flowers, plaques, music CDs or even sometime just a sweet call and guess what it ties a ribbon of happiness all around me and give me so much strength and love to live. It may sound cliched but it does help me live. There had been a time when I used to get upset if I was not reciprocated but now I do not expect anything and that kind of has made me very poise and selfless. When I buy something for my friend I do not expect her to do anything i return. If she does it feels great, if she doesn't its OK. People have used me many times but now, I have selected friends who understand me. You friend has been really sweet and i think you should make her feel special because you fee she is and because you owe anything. It would be great if you buy her tickets to her favorite movie with lunch/food where you two can enjoy like never before. You can so many things just be in it and make her fee hat she is indeed special.
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@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
22 Apr 10
These are great ideas - thank you! I think it's wonderful that you're so kind to your friends. I'm not surprised at how good it makes you feel. I think that people who are kind to others deserve a lot more than what they're doing for others! It's also a great cure for depression - helping others - which is why so many people who struggle with depression choose to get involved in community service and things like that. Thanks for sharing all the wonderful things you do for your friends. I think the best part is that you never expect anything in return from anyone. That's the way it should always be!
• China
13 Apr 10
i am not a thoughtful person,and i don't have many friends.i only have some best friends.i uaually do something nice for my best friend,such as perchase for them if they have ecnomic problems,cook for them,listen to them and solve problems etc.if the friends are ordinary,i only smile to them if we met.
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@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
22 Apr 10
I think a few best friends is better than too many so-called "friends" that you can't keep track of them - LOL! If I had too many good friends, I wouldn't be able to keep track of them, much less actually spending time hanging out with all of them.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
13 Apr 10
Then ya don't want to talk to me! LOL! I used to be friends with a group of people who basically used me, I would buy food for them, pay for their gas, pay their bills sometimes if they weren't going to have enough.... In any case, I do do what I can for my friends now. My husband and I try to help out when we can, even if it's just paying for something for them like food etc.. Maybe offer to buy your friend lunch if you lunch at the same time.
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@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
13 Apr 10
You bring up a really good point because I've been used before, too, by a group of people I thought were my friends. That can easily happen, so when you find a good friend, hold onto them forever! Thanks for the great idea about lunch. I definitely should take her shopping and take her out to lunch on the weekend or something. We normally don't have lunch at the same time at work because our schedules are so different, but thanks for the excellent idea!
@mac_fish (723)
• China
15 Apr 10
Hi,JJ4Ever As a guy,I donnt quite understand what u complained or worried exactly.I think it's virtual a common thing all the girls have through out the world,I construe them as paying much more attention to human interestings and a little over sensitive. What a coincidence!!!the complians are usually about 2 girls or even more,absolutely the same among femal.Get that???? So,why?
@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
15 Aug 11
Hi, Mac. No complaints here! My friend was just trying to be kind, which absolutely made my day. I love when someone is being thoughtful and goes out of their way to be kind to someone else. It's wonderful, especially when you're not expecting it.