Two Incidents In One Week Involving...Paint!

@Janey1966 (24141)
Carlisle, England
April 18, 2010 7:33pm CST
I despair of my parents at times, I really do! My Dad is now 73 years old and can be very silly when it comes to carrying heavy shopping and the like. What follows is a good example of what I mean:- On Wednesday it is Pensioner's Day in B&Q which is a national DIY store chain in the UK. Dad took the opportunity of walking to B&Q and buying some paint. What's wrong with that? Well, the paint he bought was the largest tin possible. Not sure of the size but Mum couldn't lift it off the floor when he showed it her, so you get the idea. On the way to B&Q he could negotiate the footbridge over the local railway station as a short-cut to the store. He did not do this coming back because of the steps and proceeded to take the long way round...walking up a big hill in the process. Why no-one stopped to help him on this busy road is beyond me. The second incident with paint concerned my Mum on Saturday. She travelled on the bus into Town, then hopped off to visit Wilkinson's (along with other stores) for two of the "medium-sized, not the biggest" paint tins. She placed them into her rucksack, then came out to catch the bus into Layton Square, near to her street. She then proceeded to walk down this long street to her house with the rucksack on her back and she told me earlier that she was "bent double with the weight." She is 63. I know they don't have a car anymore due to the cost (but they have a friend who would drive them if they so wished) but I do worry about them carrying heavy stuff like this. I wouldn't do it. As for Mum, she made me laugh and told me that the two tins of paint "squashed her pack of Carefree" at the bottom of her rucksack, that she had forgotten about! Honestly, what are my parents like? Do your parents think they can carry stuff and really, they shouldn't? Before you ask, I live 100 miles away so couldn't help either of them...unfortunately.
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@derek_a (10897)
19 Apr 10
I have found that the older people get, the more stubborn they get. I have relatives in their mid 70s and mid 80s who insist on getting out into the garden and doing heavy digging work from time to time. There have been accidents like you'll never believe - some ending up in hospitalization for weeks on end - but they don't seem to learn. I will help when I can from time to time, but I can't do everybody's garden, but they could hire someone just for the odd heavy job now and again. _Derek
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@Janey1966 (24141)
• Carlisle, England
19 Apr 10
Yes, I do know what you mean. Mum often feels "guilty" if she's tired during the day! I mean, she has a demanding job and she has to feed my Dad and so all the housework because he's not physically capable (apart from mowing the small area of grass and ironing, oh, and he does do the food shopping to be fair) and I wish she'd slow down sometimes. She's actually admitted that she can't do the stuff she used to take for granted so that should tell her something!
@RawBill1 (8541)
• Gold Coast, Australia
20 Apr 10
I thought that the paint incidents were going to be a lot messier than that when I read the subject heading! Couldn't they have dropped at least one of them on the way. That would have been funnier! They are crazy walking such long distances with that much weight. I would not even do that at my age. I have before though and learned my lesson from that experience! I just spent the whole weekend painting my daughters bedroom. That was fun! NOT!
@Janey1966 (24141)
• Carlisle, England
20 Apr 10
Well I try telling them but it falls on deaf ears...and in my Dad's case he's definitely going deaf anyway so I'm wasting my time!
@Janey1966 (24141)
• Carlisle, England
20 Apr 10
I spoke to Mum on the telephone earlier and she told me that the two tins of paint (each a different shade of green) are "unsuitable" and "she wants to take them back." After all that! She had a colour chart as well! Apparently, she wants to take them back in a taxi if she can't get Dad's mate to take her back to Wilkinson's. Then she said, "well, then it will make the paint a dear do won't it Jane?!"
@RawBill1 (8541)
• Gold Coast, Australia
20 Apr 10
Oh, No, All that effort for nothing!
@BarBaraPrz (25437)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
19 Apr 10
I suggest they invest in a bundle buggy (aka granny cart). Makes life so much easier.
@Janey1966 (24141)
• Carlisle, England
19 Apr 10
You don't have to be that old to have one either. My hip plays up whenever I carry anything heavy in my bag (apparently I have a trapped nerve) so I'd love a Granny Cart if I had the money.
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@BarBaraPrz (25437)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
19 Apr 10
If you have a Freecycle site near you, you could check/ask there.
@dawnald (84069)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Apr 10
Nobody likes to admit that they are getting old or that they can't do things. My dad's 78, still working (or working again), does yard work, etc. Hopefully when He can't do things any more, he will realize it and start getting help, but you can't make a person do that, not unless they're incapacitated. Knowing that doesn't stop you from worrying though.
@Janey1966 (24141)
• Carlisle, England
24 Apr 10
I have known my Dad to actually lie on his side in order to paint skirting-boards because of his back pain. Amazingly, he is STILL brilliant at painting even though it wasn't his trade. It's the only DIY task he does without swearing lol. For someone in his 70s to do that fills me with amazement to be honest. Is he silly to do it? Probably...but if he just sat there and didn't bother, I'd be worried about that too as it would mean that he's given up. I don't know what the solution is. Roll back the years so my parents will be immortal maybe? That would be nice. Never gonna happen though.
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@thezone (9447)
• Ireland
19 Apr 10
Parents there is no telling them Them large buckets of paint can be very heavy, I even struggle with them. My dad is the same, he thinks he is still 21. It is like the time when we demolished one of his sheds in the garden. I gave him a hand but he would not wait until the next weekend to hire the skip to get rid of the waste. So he loaded up the skip himself despite my pleas to wait till I was off work. All I can say is he ached all over the next day.
@Janey1966 (24141)
• Carlisle, England
20 Apr 10
Oh dear! My Dad struggles with shopping from the local area (he walks it now) as he refuses to shop at Sainsbury's but I'm sure the real reason is that he can't be bothered asking his friend for a lift, so would much rather be a martyr instead. How he managed to get into Layton in all that bad weather is beyond me.