How does it feel to get divorced?

Hello friend!! Divorce!!! No No NO!!! It really breaks two human beings... There might be several reasons that they want to get divorces but children are always affected in it which one should consider... Why divorces are increasing? Why people are less loyal now as compared to past? Why people leaves their partner for another person? If they married and made promises to live whole life together then why they can't make a perfect life as per promises made to each other... really so many questions comes in my mind ... but at end only one answer to all... ITS THEIR LIFE & THEY ARE MAKING IT HELL BY THEMSELVES... This word "DIVORCE" is not in my dictionary and will never be... I have not seen divorce much in my families and neither want to see it either... I feel I am lucky one to get all so well... and want everything to be perfect with my jaan as well as i am planning to get married at end of this year... Have a nice time!! I wish no one face divorces and lead a happy life!! Happy myLotting!!

I don't like divorce. My parents separated when I was 4. It has a bad impact on my childhood. No father to protect you is deeply hard. PEople will abuse you, children were bullying you, etc....SO, I don't like divorced. Couples will end up in divorce if both parties are having pride and dont know to humble themselves and didnt accept the difference of an individual. It just a matter of trust, forgiveness and Faith in God to make the relationship grow. How about you?

it sux for everyone involved, parents and children. i lucked out, my wife and i got married to young, had 2 children , and when the lawyers started putting us against each other we told them to stop the arguing and my wife and i worked it out ourselves and told the lawyers what " WE " wanted. we still see each other on holidays, and for the occasional dinner, she has been remarried to a great guy who i can call my friend, and life goes on. the kids turned out wonderful because we kept it sane and realized we just got married to soon, i have 5 grandkids and a women ive been with for 12 years, i myself would never get married again because i figure you get 1 chance to do it the right way, so be patient and be sure before signing that piece of paper that might put your childrens life on a miserable path when mom and dad dont get along and a divorce arises.

divineathena, As in any break ups, divorce is the ultimatum of unresolved issues and a sad reality that things have really gone so far south, that they are simply beyond any repair. So, above all the negativity and despairs, there will be some closures in some cases but they do not represent all. There are always consequences and I just hope that there will be regrets at the end of the day. Personally, I really do not encourage it and I just do not believe that there's nothing too difficult to solve, no mountains too high to overcome and no ocean depths too difficult to reach. I hope that you are not contemplating it. Take care.

I was very close to getting a divorce. In our religion, divorce is in the hands of the husband. We were having problems for over a year and things were not getting anywhere. At one point, I took some actions which angered my husband and he pronounced the divorce on me. It had come to a point where I was not afraid anymore of him, I was not afraid of living my life with my daughter without him. But he asked me to return back to him. I agreed because I knew it was for my daughter's good. He promised to behave, but didn't. What goes around comes around, I always tell myself. And he is currently in distraught position. I'm still here beside him. It has been tough for me. But I have this attitude now. If he is meant for me, he will be. If he is not, then I will let him go. I will let God decide. At this moment, I still have compassion for him during this difficult times of his, even after he has hurt and disappointed me more times than you will ever know. I know that I would have done my best if my marriage does not work out. I do not give up at the first sign of problem in our marriage. I try and continue to work on this marriage. Sometimes you just don't want to be hurt anymore.

I think it's quite hard especially to the children.

I think it's quite hard especially to the children. They will be affected.

you will feel awful. Think before to do it

hello divineathena! I guess, nobody who got married have divorced in mind when they marched down the aisle..but things happen in a marriage, things which could not be solved except for separation or divorce. Divorce actually is not the solution everytime there's trouble in a marriage but in my case, it was only the solution, for the safety of my kids' life and mine too..i promised myself when i got married that i will do anything to keep my marriage intact, and i did..for 7 years, at the cost of my own self-respect..i keep at it for so long, because i believed what others say..about preserving the marriage for the children's sake..but i later realized that the trouble within the marriage, which i often keep from my own family and kids' ears, was rubbing them the wrong way.. how can i stay on when he repeatedly threaten to kill me and the kids without any provocation on my part. how can you stay on if you arrive home one day, with all your clothes shredded just because you have no money to give him for one of his night outs? i was an emotionally and physically battered wife..yes! i felt so enormously emotionally drained during those times..and it was a massive relief when we separated..i know i will not have an easy time trying to raise three kids alone on my own..but i am trying my best to fill the gap left by their father..it was fortunate for me that when we were still living together, he had already slowly abandoned his duty as a father, and so when we divorced, my children easily adapted to their new life as if nothing had changed. i still let them visit their grandparents and even let their father talk to them on the phone..i don't have any regrets on the divorce. i know there will be some effect on the kids but i also know that they are strong, like me..and with love and proper guidance, they will become responsible and mature individuals..which i could not assure, had i stayed on in the marriage.. the violence would have left a scar on my kids, far far more deep than being a part of a broken family..