Childish Adults

@hvedra (1619)
May 4, 2010 10:32am CST
I'm sick of people who act like overgrown toddlers. People who have been spoiled by a parent and then don't understand why the world doesn't revolve around them as adults. We've got one who has joined our conservation group - I'm still trying to work out why he joined - and who is conspicuous by his absence when there is any real work to be done. I think he thought it was sitting around drinking tea and eating cake and _talking_ about the environment rather than getting your hands dirty. He has a biology degree (woooooo!) and no understanding that what we do is practical and not academic (various other people have degrees but aren't shy about getting their hands dirty). Whenever there is some work going on he tries to collar one of the organisers to discuss something with them so he won't have to do anything. He is, however, always first in the lunch queue and takes three times as much as anyone else. He thinks he can turn up late and go home early at any event and leave everyone else to do the work. He also thinks no-one has noticed this when pretty much EVERYONE has noticed and is starting to complain about him. He's always going "why don't WE do this" when he doesn't DO anything but expects other people to magically do it all for him. He's also a pompous twit. Someone asked me to put on a cd at a lecture and he followed me to the cd player and started trying to tell me how to use it! He seems to think only he knows enough about gadgets and a mere woman like myself will find it too confusing. This is the same guy I refer to in this discussion http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2188612.aspx I'm just fed up of the selfish, childish, sexist IDIOT!
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
4 May 10
Well, at least his bad personality is no secret. I think if he says "Why don't WE do something?" I would say "Why don't YOU do something?" or "Why don't you show us how?"Do you think he is doing this deliberately, with fore thought, or do you think he has just been rude all of his life and has been allowed to get away with it? He sounds like he has no practical skills whatsoever.
@hvedra (1619)
5 May 10
People have tried to help him with practical skills. Everyone has to learn how to do stuff and plenty of people come to the project without the pre-existing skills. I think he's just never had to do anything before and people have either done it for him or he's managed to avoid it by being sneaky. It doesn't work in our group because everyone works hard so anyone who doesn't stands out. I think he is lazy generally. He expects to be waited on.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
3 Jun 10
Sounds like it's time for him to go elsewhere. We had a fool like that in Civil Air Patrol. He never DID anything. He had all kinds of ideas on things we could all do, but he never showed up for any work. He has crohns or something celiac whatever, so he can't eat what we eat, but he is supposed to carry his weight in planning and doing. He also treats women like they're bumbling teenagers. But the problem is that he never grew up. He's the bumbling teenager. My husband has to take him aside and tell him to leave me alone because he kept trying to flirt, tease, and get his hands on me. I had thought my telling him to go "bug off" had worked. But no, my husband, who is twice the little twirp's size, had to tell him to "bug-off."
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
4 May 10
It is very unpleasant being around someone like that. I t is also very sad for people to act like that & they don't have a clue to why they have no good friends etc. Maybe as a group y'all could explain to him what is expected of him & see if that helps. I would hate to see anybody going through life acting like that. Have a good day.
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@bestboy19 (5478)
• United States
5 May 10
Why don't you just come out and ask him why he doesn't help with the physical labor and if there is something wrong with him? Maybe you could ask him during one of your meetings so everyone can hear his answer. Be nice, you don't want him to think you're all ganging up on him.
@hvedra (1619)
5 May 10
He has been asked and everyone is reminded (as a group) that the work doesn't do itself. He actively avoids doing anything and the only time you see him move is when there is food! The group organiser is going to try again but I think the guy is very much in denial.
@bestboy19 (5478)
• United States
5 May 10
What if the work is assigned and you all are told you get to eat after you have finished your work?
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@hvedra (1619)
5 May 10
That might work but up until now we haven't had to. Of course, if we start doing that he'll probably quit - hey win-win!
@Andyvil (793)
• Philippines
5 May 10
I also met someone back in college who is similar to that person. He was part of our group for a project and he always arrives late and when he arrives he always complains about something in the project. All he does is complain and talk to our other group members. He is also the first one who sleeps and the first one who eats when we have a break. We got fed up with the guy and decided to inform our professor that he never did anything. He was in fact a parasite to our group. He eventually failed in that subject and it wasn't because of us but it was because he never worked on the other projects he had.
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