How do you respond when angry?
By ketping8889
@ketping8889 (302)
Saudi Arabia
June 11, 2010 11:57am CST
Words especially those with sharp edges, can really hurt us right through our hearts sometimes, particularly when spoken by someone we love, trust and look up to. Although, we may kept apologizing for it but we can never take back something we had said especially when we are angry. I got a friend who kept smiling when furious words were thrown right on his face. I wonder how many people can do that?
How do you respond when angry?
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@cheongyc (5072)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 10
How we act and response during angry somehow reveals another aspect of ourselves. I have attended a course that, we will never aware that we are angry, when we are angry. In other words, we can only realize that we were angry after calming down.
Sometimes, I am a bit emotional if I am angry. But most of the time, I will try my best to calm myself down. Inhaling a few breath and try to sort tings right is my usual practice.
Rage and angry are caused by ignorance and self-centered kind of perception. The best remedy for this poison of our mind is forgiveness, understanding and open-minded thinking. By looking at the starry night sky, we will know that we are so tiny amid the vast universe.
Being angry do us no good, because it will disrupt our body system and jeopardize our health in long term. Besides, it won't help to solve the problems. However, in some exceptional cases, to 'show' our angry face might help to move things. But internally, we shouldn't be angry at all, because it's just a trick to get people alert.
@ketping8889 (302)
• Saudi Arabia
13 Jun 10
Wow! That's a very educational and wonderful response.Although, I do agree that we are not aware of our anger when we are angry. But sometimes, I am aware that I am my angry and about to throw my anger and I would quickly control myself.
Most of the time, anger arises due to disappointments, misunderstanding, poor attitudes and habits. Sometimes, it is good to let go of our anger instead of bottling it up and it become cancerous in our body or we become mentally sick.
Of course, letting go of anger in a safe way like punching a punch bag.Sometimes,
when I am angry, I would run a longer distance and also at a faster speed to release my anger. Maybe, this has made me a better runner until now.
Thanks and happy posting.
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@cheongyc (5072)
• Malaysia
14 Jun 10
It's true that we should let go of our anger if we were struck by it. However, if possible, we should prevent ourselves from getting into such a state before it happen. Prevent is always better than cure.
However, it's not a one day job. We need to cultivate a forgiving habit and open thinking in long term before we can be cleansed of the poison of anger. Most of us seldom analyze our cause of getting angry or access whether is it worthy to be mad over something. That's why sometimes we fall into a repetitive trap of annoyance about something similar.
Besides, lower down our expectation and minimize our wants, will reduce our frustrations and disappointment, which will always lead to our anger.
You are most welcome and have a nice day!
@ketping8889 (302)
• Saudi Arabia
14 Jun 10
Thanks for your suggestions. I think not to be too concern or caring about anything, is also one of the ways to reduce anger. Especially when watching someone else being so blind and is about to fall into a deep trap, we just can't closed our eyes. It isn't about open thinking or forgiveness or expectation but about the victim's lack of alertness, experience and inaccurate judgement.
Therefore, the best remedy is to stop watching and adopt diversional therapy when nothing can save such victim. It wasn't about fate and destiny but the weakness of the mind and the ability to look beyond.
Hope for the best and thank you.
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