I do feel so mean!!

Hello, Sue. I used to answer them all, and then I got so many insulting replies, I slowed down. Now, I'm so busy with other things, my MyLot time is precious to me. I want to spend it catching up with friends, and responding to interesting discussions. MyLot used to be my 'fun' time, but now I'm so busy writing elsewhere, it's my relaxation time, and I'm not going to spend it on deadbeats who'll be gone in a couple of days because they think MyLot's a scam - just because admin are particular about the participation here. So don't feel mean - feel justified in not wasting your MyLot time.

I think what mylot needs to realize is that some of us (like me...dyslexic) can't absorb or maybe understand the answers in the FAQs or even their guidelines. I know my eyes start to hurt and my head swims when trying to read the "official" writings because sometimes the font is all wrong for me or the layout just makes me feel lost. For whatever reason, I think we should be able to ask questions in discussion and get clarification without getting deleted. So there, MYLOT, stick that in your pipe and smoke it.

I hate when people just write one line questions as I know that they are just going to get deleted because its aganst mylots guidelines. Whenever I add a discussion I do a serch to make sure no one else has created that discussion already. If they have then I just add a comment onto theirs instead of creating my own discussion. Thats what we are supposed to do but its pretty obvious a lot of people dont do that as I see so any very similar discussions. I think its very nice of you to answer peoples discussions just to help them with the FAQ when you know that its just a waste of time since the discussion will be deleted.

This is my observation oldchem1 and that is the best we can do here with such topics is to ignore them. And when there are no responses they will be forced to go through guidelines. When seniors answer, they get confirmed that everything is hunky dory!!

I always do.. although I do advise that perhaps they might have the discussion deleted. But I think even though I know it's going to get deleted I still feel like I should respond, because when your new, you need to feel your way around and it's nice if you can make friends.

hehe..i feel a bit mean too..when i use those kind of 'obviously going to be deleted' discussions for typing practice

If I have "friended" them I might tell them that this is a violation, and I don't get upset when its deleted, because I knew it would be

Hi Oldchem, I feel the same, what may be an easier thing to do is instead of responding if on friends list private message them and get them to check guidelines, I am as guilty of you though in responding and saying about what they have done wrong, there was one earlier where they said they couldn't put a referral link as they were3n't high enough yet and Iput just as well as this would be deletedif that were the case and told them they needed to put it on their profile instead andleadpeople there. It isalways the new ones and on one hand you don't want to dishearten them but on the other why waste time when you know will be deleted. Huggles. Ellie :D

here lately ive been scared to answer much of any discussions. i responded to 2 last week that seemed fine. many others have made similar ones over the years and yet, for no reason i got 2 of them deleted in one day by different posters still dont know why they deleted them. so its put me a little on the "scared to" side...lol.

I don't respond to discussions that I even think might be deleted. I do feel a little bad about it. I figured it out the hard way myself!I figure, given enough time, we'll all get around to responding better.

If I think a discussion will be deleted I usually don't answer them. If I do I will wait a few days to see if it is still on there and then I might respond. I don't think you are mean for not answering them if you KNOW they will be deleted!

I do not respond to them anymore. Usually you or someone else beats me to it! lolol. If someone else has already given them the heads up then I will not. If I am really pressed for time and want my posts to count then I don't respond either. Perhaps that is a tad selfish, I don't know.

I usually respond telling them that the discussion violates guidelines or it is against FAQs and will probably be deleted. I don't mind wasting a minute or two to help the newbies. Some members don't like it and some are glad. One member told me that 'This does not relate to the topic', when I informed him that his discussion will be deleted because it is against guidelines to use all caps. I was trying to be nice and humorous in my response - 'Did you accidentally press your capslock? It is against guidelines to use all caps'. I still respond to any discussion that I see with guideline violations unless someone else has already responded to it.

In a way yes coz i know it is not easy responding to all those post and of course if you will responds it will comes from the bottome of your heart you really share of what is inside of your mind.And then you will received an eamil from mylot that sorry your message was deleted it bugs me.

Some I will respond to, and some I won't. The ones I respond to, I will simply tell the user that the discussion will be deleted, and why. I know in the ned I will lose my earnings for that discussion, but I want to make the user aware of why they won't earn for their discussion. I pretty much know which discussions will be deleted, and I do ignore them for the most part, and that really isn't being mean at all. I like to help whenever I can, and usually they are so appreciative of me telling them. I figure that for everyone I tell not to violate the rules, will be one less that will continue on the trek of posting discussions that will end up in the garbage anyway. Good luck to you and happy mylotting.

we boys do not lose heart, give way to new ideas for it seem very far-fetched

Likewise too friend

This is frustrating to everyone. How you react is a reflection of your personality. Some people get angry with new people that haven't read the FAQs. Others feel guilty that they can't "coach" them. This is the two extreme swings of the emotional pendulum. Don't go there! It's a waste of your energy. Some people have to learn the hard way!