No means "No," and never Maybe, or even Perhaps!

hi just had a whole response wiped out ugh so here goes again.'we did that with our two children and we also had no problems either but just once. and that was sort of funny our son was upset about something and flopped down on the floor and kicked his heels up and down and screamed. so my hubby did the same thing. He threw himself down beside our son and kicked his big feet up and down and howled too. pretty son our four year old son sat up and started laughing at his daddy.He never had another tantrum as I think he realized how silly he looked.

I don't have any children myself, but I have an idea about how I am going to bring them up when I do. I want to be close to my children and I want them to think I am fun, but they will also learn respect. The other day I saw a young boy about seven or eight years old and he was walking back to the car with his parents. He was whinging about something and his father told him to stop. The child then proceeded to kick his father in the shin! I couldn't believe it. His mother stopped and bent down and said something like "Now what did I tell you about being good when we're out? Don't kick dad like that!" I was disgusted by this. When I was a kid I would not have even had the guts to kick my mother or father!

Y'know, I have two toddlers and an infant, so I don't have the time or energy to put up with disobedience. My 2 yr old daughter has thrown 2 temper tantrums. The first was at home, and I let her scream it out. Afterwards, I told her it would be unnacceptable in the future and to use her words when she's frustrated. The second time was a week later at the store. As soon as she had one foot up to kick, I caught it and picked her up. All I said was "Clearly you need a nap, don't you?" And laid her in the shopping cart to rest. She tried lifting her head up once, but as soon as I said "Down" she went to sleep. Hasn't thrown one since. She hates being made to take naps.

yes! this is wonderful! there is nothing more frustrating to watch a parent who's child is having a tantrum try to bribe them to be quiet with mcdonalds or a toy. Or threaten to leave their child in the store. Parents need to be firm and not wishy-washy when their child rebels. Pick the child up and leave the store don't stand there threatening or trying to bribe the child. I hate when parents either smack their child or threaten to smack their child for crying. It's not necessary, discipline them accordingly and they won't rebel as much.

Parents don't always have control of children's acitons. I had a child that never had a Tantrum. He had seen what happened to others that had one, when Mom was around. Until at age tthree Hubby and I started to go out once in a while. We had a wonderful girl babsitter who finally after about the third time convided in us that our well behaved son turned into a monster, crying, screaming and lying on the floor. In other words the typical tantrum. This was fixed the very next time we went out. We drove around the block and returned to the house, number one son was well into misbehaving and didn't notice the return of Mom with ice cold water bottle in hand. Result of very surprised kid, wet but quite and no further problems with Tantrums. To be a parent, first you have to be smarter than the kids, this is easy at 3 or even 5 but once they get into school and join the pack it's an uphill battle on the part of the parents.

I have a child that no mean no. Does that stop all tantrums I wish. No matter what you do most children not all will have tantrums. It is a part of learning and becoming independent. When my child had a tantrum at home I let her do it and walk away to let her know that will get her nothing. Some tantrum start because I tell her no, so because she is tired, some because she is hungry and some because I have no idea why just does. She threw a tantrum in the store one time because she wasn't listening and I put her back in the cart. And I held my head high and finished my shopping, cause guess what children cry and I did not have time to leave and come back later. She stoped in under a minute because she knew it would do her no good. I wasn't letting her back out. I will say I do see a lot of children that have tantrums where the parent gives in and let them do what they wanted to do, now this will cause more tantrums because the child learns that it works. My child probably has more freedom then other children in the store because she listens, when she stops listening her freedom goes away. I have not trained my child that she will get something every time we go to the store so we don't have tantrums about not getting things which is a lot of the tantrums you see in stores.

thats pretty good but no matter what the will react from when they were babies