How Far
By dorannmwin
@dorannmwin (36392)
United States
July 19, 2010 11:42am CST
would you go for a friend?
A friend of my husband's has been going through a really rough time with his wife for the last several months. She is hooked on crack and is generally treating him like trash. Well, he decided over the weekend that he was done with her for good (I think). He called us and asked that we come get him so he could get out of the house and get his affairs in order.
It was fairly late on Sunday evening when he asked this and Tom really bobbled on the fence over what he wanted to do about it, should he pick him up or not. Well, he finally decided to go get him because he would hope that someone else would do this for us if we were in a similar situation.
So, this led me to wondering, to what extent would you go for a friend in need?
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8 responses
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Jul 10
hi dorannmwin I think for a real friend in need I would go as far
as needed and do whatever was in my power to do for him or her,
hoping my friend would do the same for me if I was in his shoes.
My best friend Nelda has always been there for me, and has helped
me in so many different ways its almost impossible to pay her
back.But she knows if she ever needs my help it will be there for
her too. Friendships
really pulls you into problems at times as you do not know which way to go but you will always chose the best way to help your real friend.
really pulls you into problems at times as you do not know which way to go but you will always chose the best way to help your real friend.1 person likes this
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Jul 10
You are very right. There are a lot of people that never have the opportunity to have a true friend in their lives and thus those of us that do have that kind of friendship are very lucky people.
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
20 Jul 10
I would do what you did without question. Whether my hubby agreed or not. Then I would get that person in contact with all the help I can find! My roof is only a safe zone, not a shelter. And I am not an attorney or social worker.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Jul 10
Right now my husband and I are trying to do whatever we can to make sure that he is able to get the legal help that he is going to need in this situation so that he will be more comfortable.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Jul 10
It was a long time ago, but I've done something similar to that for a friend of mine.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
20 Jul 10
It's nice of you to open up your home to his friend. Did he have kids with this woman? That would be my concern as well... not that you need any more extra people in your house.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Jul 10
He has children, but they are from a prior relationship and live with their mother so that wasn't a concern at all in this situation. I think that the entire situation would be a lot worse if he and his wife had been able to have children.
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Jul 10
Not sure how far, but if this was a person that I liked and trusted, I'd go and pick him up and get him out of there. Hope he likes sleeping on the sofa. :D
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Jul 10
He actually didn't want to stay with us. He decided that he wanted his car (which is broke down in front of the shop where my husband works). He stayed in the car, which to him was a better alternative than staying with his wife.
@huqh123 (182)
• China
20 Jul 10
In our daily life, besides our relatives, there are friends who always help us when we are hooked in the setbacks. so i think we need to figure this out and let our friends understand this and try our best to make their family together if possible. go for it.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Jul 10
A long time ago I made the decision that I would never financially support someone again that wasn't a part of my family, but I do know that I would help a friend in any other way that I could.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
19 Jul 10
I'm glad he did this for his friend. For a minute I was thinking you were going to say that he said no.. and that to me is just a little selfish. I mean I understand.. it was late, your husband was tired, he's got his own family to worry about, and a job to be to Monday morning... very understandable. But that's what friends are for.. to help each other out when needed, and friends don't often need help when it's convenient for you.. you know?
I don't know anyone who'd call me up and ask for help like that.. and I don't feel close enough with anyone outside my family to dash out and go help if they needed it at an inconvenient time. The only one that comes to mind that I would do this for lives a plane flight away, so not much I can do for her. But if she were closer I'd do anything for her in a heartbeat.. and she'd do the same for me.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Jul 10
No, I believe that my husband is the furthest thing that is possible from being a selfish person. It just got me to thinking about whether there were other people that are as selfless as he is.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
19 Jul 10
I will try my best to help my friend but I think...
some doubt in my mind...lol
Anyway have a nice day!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Jul 10
I think that for me I would also always have some degree of doubt in my mind as well because I don't have to just think about the well being of my friend, I also have to think about that of my family as well.
