Are you the confrontational type or the non-confrontational type?
By dierdre
@dierdre (2207)
Philippines
August 1, 2010 3:14am CST
When i get irritated by someone, whether thru words or actions, i immediately tell them that what they say or do irritates me. More so if its non-verbal but its clearly directed at me, like banging objects so loud when im in the vicinity. Usually when that happens, i'll immediately say, 'what is your problem?' and then proceed to confront the person. Im really direct while some people just walk away to avoid further conflict. How about you? If you get irritated by someone, do you confront that person immediately? Or you just keep silent and just walk away? Even if its not a direct situation, even if its quite indirect, will you choose to still keep quiet? I'll give you an example of that indirect thing. For example, you found out that your friend has been backstabbing you or you found out that you're bf/gf is cheating on you, will you be confrontational about it or not and just do nothing to avoid further conflict?
7 responses
@ada8may21 (2404)
• Philippines
1 Aug 10
It actually depends, if the person involve is the person that I usually acquainted most of the time. Let say my colleague or co-worker I would not really confront I would just keep it to myself and dont matter discussing it with them. Just like recently happened, in our office. I was angry because my salary is again delayed. They told me this and that and after hearing it. I immidiately turn my back and went out. I dont like confrontations. But if the person involve I dont know I would really confront them. Just like in the jeepney. The jeepneys is fullyloaded it seems that it has only 1 seat available. I went it and hoping that lady would sit properly so that I could sit as well. Instead of saying "excuse me" I used our own dialect. She is look at me very sharp, I told her be sensitive that someone would like to sit down and this is not your living room so that you would sit like that. Then that's the start of confrontation...
@dierdre (2207)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
I see. So what did the lady at the jeep do? How did she react? I hope that she didnt cause a scene in the jeep, lol. Well, if its in the workplace, then it is indeed better to not cause a confrontation or argument coz it will negatively affect us and how our employers see us right? It is very detrimental to our image, so as much as possible, we should avoid having conflicts at work. When it comes to strangers and family members and friends though, go ahead, confront them when you have to. :-).
@ada8may21 (2404)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Well we have a confrontation with that lady in the jeepney and until she shut up. That is what I am avoiding if its a towards a person that I could see most of the time cause it can create bad interpretation on you. So better yet keep it to myself.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
31 Aug 10
I usually like to avoid it. Though depending on the situation I may have a fit about things if I'm super angry about things at that moment.
@syankee525 (6249)
• United States
1 Aug 10
i will confront someone really fast.. i dont belive in walking away or whatever. but it also depend what kind of mood i am in, if i am in a bad mood i might have to turn and say the hell with it so my anger dont get out of hand i do something dumb
@de_toya (2429)
• Indonesia
2 Aug 10
I am not sure. It's depend on situation. I think I am not confrontational type. In normal conditions, I prefer to avoid further conflict. I don't want to make any conflict with others. As long as I could control myself, I will avoid confrontation. However, I will confront them if I am in emotional conditions. When I lost control, I can't think well and tend to confront others who make me irritated. Any way, I never make any confrontation yet. I am happy since I can make many friends.
@dierdre (2207)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Yeah, we usually have to weigh the situation first if its something that should be confronted about, or just let it pass. And good for you that you never had to confront anyone until now, that means no one has done something really nasty to you to prompt you to confront him or her.
@charmlenile (387)
•
2 Aug 10
I'm the kind of person that wont stop and do something to confront someone for I don't have to spend my time making the problem an resolve so what matters must have talk about so better understanding and everybody will not misinterpret the situation itself.
@juryse (752)
• Philippines
1 Aug 10
I'm not the confrontational type. I prefer to be diplomatic. Really depends on the situation. If it happened in the office, then I course my discontent in the right channels. After all we are all adults right? But if someone confronts me then I have to defend myself.
@dierdre (2207)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Yup, i agree. When someone confronts you, you have to defend yourself, especially if you know that you are being stepped on already. And yes, we have to be very careful of our actions in the workplace coz it will most likely affect our career and future, so we have to vent in the right channels, like you said.
