Problematic Mylotters...this never gets old..:-)

God, so many problems in this world, why do you make it another problem? I don't like giving advice, I like more giving examples and let people decide what they want. Even though we have same problem, due to environments, circumstances and attitudes, the result might be different to each person. I try to answer seriously but sometimes the discussion irks me or makes me laugh and I lost my focus in responding.

hi letran I find I can be lonely in a diningroom here in gold crest with almost a hundred p eople. Outside my own tablemates and a few at the tables close to me the others are just faces, strangers with probabley the same yearning to talk to someone a bout their own problems. so why do I feel so much better on here talking to you and a lot of my other mylot friends some whom I have really known for three years but never met? I guess I am not facing any of you so am not embarrassed to state my problems or my solutions to other's problems.then too I have met a lot of interesting and most intelligent people here. Intelligence shows in the writing but more in the choice of words, and the thought put into a discussion or response. I am single now but am a widow, and for the first few years I missed him so much but things got easier as I learned to depend more on my self and on my adult son too. He has always been here for me. You are right we all do have problems and coming here seems to help a lot of us even if its just to vent or rant, like asking for a shoulder to cry on or someone just to listen to us. Sometimes our loved ones let us down when we are asking to be heard as they are thinking about what to say and not hearing what we said at all. My son in this teens, once stopped talking to me, grabbed the checkbook I was trying to b alance"quit monkeying around with that. listen to me. You were not listening." He was right, and I was so embarrassed, balancing a checkbook was more important than my own son? of co urse not. After that when he told me something, I stopped whatever I was doing and listened.Surprising what you can learn when you really stop and just listen. also this smooths out family relationships really well.

What I get here is very helpful, not just the advice, but the support. :D

I can speak for myself and I know from my own experience that whenever I posted a problem I was not necessarily looking for a solution but a shoulder or two to cry on! I felt that the majority of responders did care very much for whatever may have been my plight at the time and left me comforting words to go on with. I try my very best to do the same when I hear of other’s hassles and misfortunes. I have the same hope for everyone, no more problems but unfortunately that is life...

Yes, Letran.You have said the truth about Mylot. This is indeed a shelter for problematic ones like us.LOL. For me,this is my sanctuary... Does it help sharing problems here? Sometimes, it doesn't really help for the actual resolution of the problem itself but it helps a lot in making us feel better. Knowing that there are people we can talk to and actually cares about how we feel even if they are not really our personal friends, IT REALLY HELPS A LOT! Every piece of advise or word from our co members here counts even if at the end of the day it is still our decision that really matters. May you feel comforted always,dear.:-)

You might get solutions through myLot for emotional problems. Most people I encounter here are genuine and I value their advices a lot. It's also nice to know that other people are sympathetic about what you are going through. It kind of gives you hope. I just hate those generic responders who scan through a discussion then reply without any thought. There was one lotter who shared about a son who has a brain tumor but the title did not suggest that she was sharing about his illness. do you really know the feeling about breaking the heart? Other mylotters shared words of comfort and asked how they can be of help but there was one who replied... “It is Normal to experience that Kind Of pain.BECause OF that.YOU can make the right decision next time and You can Create a higher STandard that ABSOLUTELY create a Big Change In Your Life.It is part OF growing Up” People should be sensitive in posting on topics where people share their problems. If I was the one who had a problem as heavy as hers, I response like this would piss me off.

“Friends are angels sent down to earth to make good days and help us find our way.”