Could you chill around someone you had a problem with??
By LaLa Leo
@mrscallands22 (2851)
United States
August 12, 2010 2:51pm CST
I am one of those types of people who likes to avoid conflict by all means necessary. I don't like to stoop down to other people's levels because I'm on my grown && sexy and I just don't do that. So.. in certain instances I may not want to go a certain place because I believe in keeping it real at all times and being 100% with people and all that I ask is the respect that they return the favor. So... being around someone I may have a problem with and smiling and grinning all up in their face just isn't me. But, I know some people that do it and I don't understand how they do. I may be respectful... speak and keep it moving and dependent upon the situation is and who you are... I may not speak at all.. but I'll keep on my end and you keep on yours. But as far as eating someone up just because they are in my presence knowing that I can't stand them is just out of the question. I wouldn't feel like I was being real to myself. If I don't like someone, more than likely that person knows..
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5 responses
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
14 Aug 10
I'm not hanging out with anyone n my private time that I don't care for. The position I have at work does require me to be fair and open and you know as well as I do there are always "those". I have to be around people everyday that may not be my personal friendship choice but I have to rise above my personal feelings and deal with them fairly. I'm not going to be going out to dinner with them or inviting them over for a movie though.
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
20 Aug 10
LOL I can definitely understand that. I feel like making yourself be around those type of people on the strength of someone else or a mutual friend or just because they are there... is bogus. I am not one of those types who can do that... but I can understand in a work situation where those types are tolerable.. but never brought into personal life experiences. I like your tactics.
Thanks for sharing!!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
13 Aug 10
There are places in my life that I have to avoid because I don't get along with some of the patrons at those places. I've made it one of my goals in life to not have problems with a lot of people, but there are certain people that have hurt me in such a way that they cause me a lot of anxiety. I can't be fake to a person's face so it makes a lot more sense for me to just avoid those places where I know I could run into someone that I don't want to be around.
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
14 Aug 10
I wish I could say that. I have a problem with quite a few people. But they make it an object to stay out of my way just as I do them. Thankfully, I have caught no charges or anything like that but I've been in a few altercations.
Thanks for commenting!!
@sender621 (14889)
• United States
13 Aug 10
It's not always easy to be around someone you have a problem with. It doesn't matter if the problem is big or small, the discomfort will still be there between you and that person. If I don't feel at ease around you, I can't let my true self come through. @edwardjoy2000 (2386)
• United Arab Emirates
13 Aug 10
I will definately be fine if the person does not have anything in mind. You will be surprised...my wife had a friend who is more like her brother...i had a few problems with him. He createda misunderstanding because of which we almost reached the verge of a divorce. Then things were fine. My wife wanted me to talk to him...and i did as i had nothing in mind for him. I believe in forgiveness, it will not change your past...but will enlarge you future.
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
13 Aug 10
You know what?? It takes a strong person to feel that way. To accept the inevitable for what it is and to actually forgive that person regardless of the fact that they almost contributed to the end of your marriage. I was kind of in the same situation but with my husband's cousin. She lied on me.. (she was my best friend before I even met my husband). When I confronted her, she still lied... so it's whatever. I don't go around her even though we are considered family now and will never trust her. So... to keep myself out of jail or from hurting someone... I just keep my distance. Hopefully one day I will be strong enough to just let things go.
Thanks for sharing!!
@anncherry (406)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
I can't do it. Ever. Besides, my emotions pretty much show up on my face every time. They'd immediately know what I was feeling. I won't be able to fool a single human. ^^ And I don't plan to. :)
I have a colleague whom I clashed opinions with pretty bad, and I just can't joke around with him anymore like I do with the others, even though we're pretty much over our conflict. He feels the same. It's not much of an issue for me though. It's been quite a miracle that he finally made amends, and I'm already satisfied with that. At least the problem is all over. :)
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
13 Aug 10
Lol you sound like me. I am one of the types to wear my emotions on my sleeve, too. So if I'm feeling a certain way.. off gate someone close to me that is around is going to notice it or my husband. Most of the time people that I don't even really know like that are able to pick up on it. It's kind of like a curse versus a gift because I am forced to keep it real at all times lol no matter whether I want to or not.
Thanks for commenting!!
