Aggressive, Assertive or Submissive: which type are you?
By ktmatunog
@ktmatunog (912)
Philippines
September 8, 2010 11:59am CST
I think I am the submissive one. Submissiveness can be good or bad. It is bad when you become a slave or pet to someone... not knowing your rights and all. Others might take advantage of you because you obey whatever they told you to do. This is good if you know your rights, you learn to love serving others without any malicious thought especially your master/boss.
And I know, submissive persons make a good wife. =p
What can you share? =p
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4 responses
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
9 Sep 10
I'm partly submissive as well as assertive. That's what i have learnt over the years, and how being submissive caused me massive problems. We have got to stand up for our rights at times, so that we won't be bullied by others.
If we are too submissive, our opinions would be overlooked by others, and when things don't turn out well, all fingers will be pointed at us, which is not fair at all. We have to learn to be assertive, be it right or wrong, be firm.
@ktmatunog (912)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
I agree with you. Being too submissive may cause us problems in the future. But a little may help.. Maybe it can help by not starting an argument to others or something like that. They learn to control their feelings like anger. Being assertive too have many advantages... you fight for what is right, you get what you want.
I think people should be like you. Be a little bit submissive but being assertive as well! =p
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@cajimenez (452)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
I'm an assertive types. I always fight for what I believe what's right.
@ktmatunog (912)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
I remember my grandmother on being that assertive. I miss her a lot. =(
Assertive ones are really blessed and a great advantage on themselves.
I wanna learn how to be assertive too.
@Margajoe (4747)
• Germany
8 Sep 10
I am submissive. (To a certain point) Even my last boyfriend found me to be a great partner. He still wants me back, because he realizes now that I was Submissive.
He did not see it at that time and took advantage of the situation.
Hopefully he will see things different if we ever want to have a future together again. Problem is, I don't know if I could ever really trust him again. But, I guess time will tell. For now I will try to be more Assertive.
@ktmatunog (912)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
Me too. I'll try to be more assertive in a certain point and also try to be submissive on the right time especially dealing with my husband. I think wives must submit themselves to their husbands and Husbands should love their wives as the bible said. =p
@ivo_shkafov (399)
• Bulgaria
8 Sep 10
I guess I'm none of the three.I don't like to be mad at people,and I don't like getting angry,but I also don't like of getting blamed of something I didn't do.If I had to choose one thing,that I hate most in the world,It definetly will be that.I can never be aggresive.Aggresive people have issues that they need to get out of their system one way or another.So I wonder,don't we all have issues,why are just some of us aggresive?
@ktmatunog (912)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
you can be a little of them. a little submissive, a little assertive, a little aggressive. haha they have pros and cons that may help you in your life.
Some people are aggressive may be so that they can more express what they feel in that way. In that way, they use it for their coping mechanism. They need to do it then, but they did not think the way others will feel too!
Being a little bit submissive might help too. You don't want to fight others then, you are trying to avoid argument by being a little bit submissive.
Being a little assertive also cares about the self on fighting his/her own rights!
Wat do you think?
