She's impressed me.
By hvedra
@hvedra (1619)
September 14, 2010 6:47am CST
I've become very impressed with my husband's cousin. We haven't always seen eye-to-eye (no nasty fallings out just very different personalities) but lately she's impressed me with her attitude and forebearance in the face of some serious provocation.
Her mother died and she has been arranging the funeral and so on. Her aunt (and my husband's aunt) is acting like something I'd better not type here.
My husband's cousin has stated that her mother only wanted floral tributes and that she does too. The aunt keeps going on about charity donations which the cousin isn't interested in dealing with right now - besides, it isn't what her mother wanted.
The aunt seems determined to make a thing of this. Stating that "so and so" NEVER buys flowers so don't expect them from her. The Cousin said "that's up to her, I'm not taking any donations". Then the Aunt starts going on how SHE is going to make a donation too and which charity should it be to?
Cousin says "It's up to you to do as you please. It's flowers only as far as I'm concerned".
Aunt says "Well, we could give it to the Church for a Mass".
Cousin says "Do that if you want to."
I think by this point she has twigged that the Aunt is just trying to gain control of the situation or provoke a reaction out of her. Like I said, I'm very impressed with the Cousin's attitude because I'd have thrown a punch by this point..
Has anyone impressed you with their patience and self-control like that?
Has anyone upset you with their bad attitude like the Aunt has?
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5 responses
@AmbiePam (120547)
• United States
17 Sep 10
It's amazing how strong people can be in the face of adversity. She is doing her mother proud. It's too bad that it has taken this event for her spirit to really shine, but I'm glad that she is taking everything so well. It must be such a hard time for her.
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
15 Sep 10
Cant remember on a personal level but yes, at office there is this colleague of ours whose patience and tolerance is really to be admired. He’s sort of our admin head and he takes on everything on his capable shoulders. Our boss is nothing short of a monster and most people avoid him as much as they can (not that his obnoxiously loud mannerisms and bullying attitude can be ignored) and we all go to this colleague to solve our problems or to take the flak from him for our lapses…he’s really very sweet and helpful person.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
14 Sep 10
i ADMIRE YOUR cousin very much. I'm like u i would have already told that aunt off 'big time' I think that's very mean of the aunt to do that to her. I'm sure she has enough to deal w/just losing her mom. People should be helping people at a time like this instead of acting like an a$$.
@celticeagle (189792)
• Boise, Idaho
14 Sep 10
Some people do well in the worst of situations. Other panic(like me) and crumble. I have the bad attitude and that bugs me about me. My daughter keeps it together under the worst of situations. She has a seven year old son that is a terror at times. She keeps her cool way past when I would have lost it.
@bestboy19 (5478)
• United States
14 Sep 10
My father was always in control of himself in all situations. My grandmother, on the other hand...
