What is with them lately?
By katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
United States
September 27, 2010 1:43pm CST
Something seems to have gotten into my kids lately, and it's not good. They're misbehaving a lot more than usual. Normally they're pretty good kids, they can just be a bit hyper at times, especially when they're bored. Well they haven't had a chance to be bored lately, they're in school all day. My oldest does football after school. Over the weekend they got to play outside most of Friday afternoon and most of the day Saturday, then on Sunday we brought them apple picking. Though none of this seems to have calmed them or helped them release their energy. They still spent most of the weekend acting up and getting yelled at.
Today I got a phone call from the school.. my daughter pinched a boy in her class and made him bleed!! This isn't like her.. but as I said, they've all been acting up. I am pretty angry about it all.
Do your kids get into modes where they seem to act up and misbehave a lot more than usual? Do they go through phases where they do things that aren't typical for them? How would you handle a child going through a misbehaving phase?
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6 responses
@Wordjunkie (435)
• Canada
27 Sep 10
My children are getting older now my youngest being 14. But I always found that my children tended to misbehave more at certain times, one of them being the first month or so back to school.
Since you have said children, I am assuming that the behavior is coming from more than one. It is likely then that it isn't a physical reason, have you considered that maybe because of the time of the year (season change) and because school has just recently started that they are simply tired. Perhaps they haven't adjusted yet to the hustle bustle of the school week.
Look for patterns, are they hard to get moving in the morning? Is their schedule too full, if so, is there anything you could do different? I always find that my children would misbehave and would do things that were not typical for them if they were overtired.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
27 Sep 10
Nope. I try to put them to bed by 8pm.. they don't normally fall asleep easily though, especially the boys since they share a room. They all end up playing around for awhile before finally falling asleep. Then they're all up very early, long before I am. They're usually fed, dressed, and ready to walk out the door before my alarm even goes off.. they've always been morning people. On really stressful days I try getting them to bed even earlier, we normally start the bedtime routine around 7 on bath nights.. but there've been nights I've had them in bed at 6 so I could de-stress.. it doesn't help at all.
We aren't over scheduled at all. The only one of them that has an afterschool activity is the oldest, as I said he plays football.. he's 13. He's done around 5:30 when we go pick him up. Other than that we just stay home. I make them do some chores and their homework until we pick up my oldest, then after that it's dinner time and a bit of downtime before baths and bed. Nothing really exciting going on here.
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@Wordjunkie (435)
• Canada
27 Sep 10
Sounds like you have many children. I have four, three who are very close in age. What your describing sounds a lot like life in my house when my children were younger. When you have several children there never seems to be any peaceful moments. I remember locking myself in the bathroom when hubby was home for much needed "Me Time". Stressful doesn't really express the half of it. You are doing good to get them to bed at that time! I had three girls and a boy. First one would start and it would go right down the line, "I got to pee, I want a drink, I need my doll", I can still hear them. Mine quieted down as they got older. Hope yours do too! Good Luck!
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
27 Sep 10
4 boys, 1 girl. The youngest is 2. I am pulling my hair out most days.. hubby is already bald, lol. It does get very stressful at times.. think I need a little break or vacation or something. Am thinking of asking my mother to take the kids this weekend so hubby and I can have a date night or something, that might help.
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Sep 10
Friday afternoon the twins poked each other all the way home. It escalated to where one of them bit the other, and the second one broke the first one's toy. No computer for the weekend, and the one who broke the toy had to pay the other one for it.
Maybe I should have just kicked them outside and let them duke it out...
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Sep 10
yeah it's really hard to get the straight story sometimes, Cary flat out lies and doesn't seem to realize that it's obvious that he's lying (the autism maybe), and Naomi just doesn't tell me stuff. Sigh...
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
27 Sep 10
All of mine will lie, and none of them tell me things.. They'll never do anything right in front of me, and when they're doing something they know they shouldn't they'll be as quiet as possible. Unfortunately the other kids around them are loud enough to cover up the fact that one of them is being too quiet so I don't go checking to see what's going on. Think I just need a break from it for awhile.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
27 Sep 10
Mine do that constantly.. but I hear about it more than I see it, and I can't always trust what they say. I think sometimes they just want to get each other in trouble. My daughter says the boys are constantly beating on her, she tries to get attention for it too.. yesterday my FIL was over, and she told him about the boys beating on her. I'm sure they do it sometimes, but not as much as she says. My 4 year old is picking up on it because whenever he cries he tries to say someone hit him.. usually it's true, but there were a few times he said it when I knew nobody else was in the room.
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@ersmommy1 (12587)
• United States
28 Sep 10
Wow. Let's hope it's just a phase. You certainly have a plate full. As yet, I have been pretty lucky. My daughter has been the victim of bullying. So I think this has had an effect on her behavior. I have been told about kids that misbehave in class. I just ask my daughter if it was her, how would she feel? THe worst she has done so far is be a Chatty Kathy. My son is too young yet to do much else than aggravate his sister. But I am sure, my turn is coming! Hang in there :)
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
28 Sep 10
It is a phase and I usually have 1 going through it.. just seems that there's always 1 that wants to be difficult or acting out. I've come to expect it from the older 2 boys, they have days when they're on their best behavior, but then they'll go through a rut where they don't want to handle their responsiblities (chores and homework) without a major struggle and they'll do other minor things that get frustrating. Most of my phone calls from school have been about the oldest, and it's usually typical things of him.. he wanders around class and can get disruptive often (we think he has a form of ADHD or LD but can't get it diagnosed.. long story). The worst I'd ever gotten from him is last year he wrote on some kid's shirt, and a few years ago he forged my name in his homework agenda claiming that I'd seen and approved of his homework.. that was on a night he told me he didn't have homework. Then with the 7 year old son.. he's usually great at school, but last year I did get a phone call about him swearing and drawing a violent picture. I think some of that had to do with a boy he plays with over at my FIL's house.
@shia88 (4570)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 10
Hi,
I do believe as children grow up,their behaviour will keep
changing and we as a parent has to monitor their changes and guide
them to be a better person ,be it , at home, at school or in society.
Since the teacher has called you up and informed you about this
issue, you would like to question your girl about it and get an
answer from her on why she is doing it. Does she know that her action is
not right and she should have change herself.
Don't scold your daughter straightly, you have to get the main point from
her and understand her explanation,then only you can make the wise decision
on what parenting step you have to take in order to control this
situation not to happen again in future.
I know that it is not an easy task to educate and train our children,but it
is part and parcel of parents' duties. I believe every parents will go through it.
Try to spent more time with your children and let them know that you love
them alot.
You can also rewards them with some healthy snacks or toys when they behave
well.
Of course, it does not mean you have to use this rewarding techniques always just
to get the things done.You can always try other method to handle them.
Try get more story books or educational TV programs for them to watch and
practice at home. Engaged a short holiday trip for whole family is another
good idea to keep your children feel fresh and energetic.
Hope they will behave well!!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
30 Sep 10
Yes, my children do seem to go through those times when it seems like they both have a hard time behaving. Ironically enough, it seems like those times tend to be when there is a major change in the weather. I've been very lucky, however, that my daughter seems to do all of her misbehaving at home. Since she was in kindergaren I've always gotten compliments from her teachers letting me know how well behaved she is at school even though she has a tendency to misbehave at home.
@mastermindskt (1050)
• Pakistan
27 Sep 10
i have 4 years old daughter i also advice him that not to miss behavior and don't quarrel to other children and if you buy some thing also give other children and some time when she miss behave with my or give punch to me then i control my self and also tell that don't do this but some time when she make me very angry then i giving a little punishment her and looking towards her in angry mode then she became realized that my father is angry now and then she kiss me. she is very little but i am building her foundation that in future she will not miss behave with anyone.
