Exchanging chat messages

I caught my bf one time so busy chatting with someone in his facebook, i asked him who it was and he said it was nothing. When i obviously saw him so busy typing. I really got mad at him causing another war between us. I opened his fb account right away and saw that he was really chatting with a girl an old friend. I got mad because i read the messages it was like he was trying to court the with the girl who just broke up with her bf for 5years. That was so like world war 2 for us..i hated him for that of course. I didn't felt jealous, hate should be the right word. I deleted the girl in his friend list and changed his status from in a relationship to single..ehehe. Very childish but i was really mad that time. My bf never used the chat box in fb anymore after that incident and never sent any messages nor comment on anything on fb after that. He promised not to do it again..or else i can kill him if he ever does it again!

I trust my partner and one of the reasons I trust him is because to me he is an open book. He rarely goes online anyway but I know that he would share with me who he would be communicating with. If he was to suddenly spend a lot of time on the net it would be unusual and I may question him about it and trust that I would receive a truthful answer. In our case it is me who spends a lot of time on the computer ‘talking’ to different people and he never questions me which shows a great deal of trust so he deserves the same. If he was ogling at sexy women I definitely would be complaining (LOL)!

I think everyone has the right to friendships of either gender, but there is a limit, of course. Just talking to someone doesn't mean anything; it's the content that matters. If you feel the content is a threat to your relationship, there may be something wrong with your relationship. It seems to me that if a boyfriend or girlfriend becomes too easily involved with another person, your relationship isn't that secure, so either one would need to work on it, or give it up.