single, divorced or widowed...
@macdingolinger (10385)
United States
October 11, 2010 11:52am CST
Do you hate this question on forms? Most of the time they only give an option of single, married or divorced. I am like, divorced is single and it makes me mad that they separate the two! I was married for 13 years, and have been divorced (living single - raising my kids alone) for over 17 years now! I have been single for a lot more years than I was married! It should be only two options - single or married...sheesh! your take on this issue?
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@NoWayRo (1061)
• Romania
12 Oct 10
I guess on the most official forms, there's a reason for that, since they might want to know whether you changed your last name, or whether the children may have a different last name than the mother, things like that.
On others, where there's really nobody's business, they just copy over whatever they've seen in other forms, I guess.
Though I've read somewhere that people who put "divorced" or "widow/er" as relationship status on their social network profiles are more likely to attract romantic interest, because it shows they've tried being in a relationship before, as opposed to plain "single", which might imply anything, from being a nutcase or too weird for a relationship, to being completely not interested in any form of commitment.
I don't claim I understand the logic, but people are weird with labels.
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@macdingolinger (10385)
• United States
12 Oct 10
It can get weird indeed! Maybe there should be more categories instead of less! Like
single - never married , never relationship
single - almost married once
single - almost married more than once
single - too weird to be in a relationship
married - wishing you were single
married - happily for the ____time
married - unhappily but financially secure
divorced - out of abuse
divorced - just didn't work
divorced - irresponsible
widowed
@macdingolinger (10385)
• United States
15 Nov 10
Yeah, I'm just single!! I've lived single many more years than I was ever married! lol!
@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
30 Mar 12
Personally, what about people who are common law married? They are not single per sey, so what about them? I often have thought they need to include this in the area for a relationship as well, and the divorced is one that I think depends on what your feelings are on this one. Overall I have no issues with this one, but I have been happily married now for just over 13 yrs.
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@macdingolinger (10385)
• United States
31 Mar 12
You make a very good point. i believe I have seen the "have a partner" or life partner choice on various lists. I have been divorced for nearly 20 years now - that is far longer than I was married. I think i should qualify for "single" again! lol!
@macdingolinger (10385)
• United States
13 Oct 10
I guess it's more simple if you are married, but what if you're just living with someone, that doesn't really count as single or married!
@sender621 (14889)
• United States
12 Oct 10
This question can be annoying on required forms to fill out. i don't see what marital status has to do with a lot of forms we fill out in our lives. What difference does it really make for someone to know about that part of our lives?1 person likes this
@macdingolinger (10385)
• United States
13 Oct 10
See, that's what I am talkin' about! Why should they ask to begin with? And if they have a valid reason, then single or married should either one suffice as an answer!!
@iamjesca (185)
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
There is also widowed. I agree that divorced is single. And they should be able to classify divorced as single. So that it wouldnt be time consuming for those who fills up the forms. Unless they wanted to know what your status is behind being single. This can be very important in statistics though. Being specific of everything.
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@macdingolinger (10385)
• United States
13 Oct 10
I suppose in some statistics it would be a matter of great importance... I just don't know why! I think it should simply be single or married.
@macdingolinger (10385)
• United States
13 Oct 10
I actually like single life. There is a lot more freedom! But then the down side is when things go wrong, there's no one but myself to blame! lol!

@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
12 Oct 10
Well how can divorced mean single? Once you're married can you really ever be single again? A single-minded person could never marry, while a married person can never really expect to think like a single person again. Also a single person cannot have kids, because once she has kids shes not single anymore, shes now a person with a kid!
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@macdingolinger (10385)
• United States
12 Oct 10
While you make some good points I have to disagree on one hand! Just because I've been married doesn't mean I can't think "single" any more! I was married for 13 years after the divorce I have lived single for 17...more qualified experience on the single side of things...






